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Hi jennyh, you can get the snug style ones (skinny leg bottoms and tops like Gap do) in Next as well, about 20 quid for a 3 pack x

Lat time this was asked, people replied saying Honor Oak Cars 8 291 7744 and Rye Cars 7 732 7000 , don't know if it has changed tho...

Hi nabz, is it a group 0 or group 0+? It seems unlikely she has grown out of it quite yet if she is 3 months? Our 15 month old is still in her first maxi cosi seat (the maxicosi cabriofix) as the pertinent thing is whether their head is sticking over the top, and despite being tall, hers still isn't at 15 months. Having said that, it is a group 0+ seat rather than a 0, so is supposed to last until nearer 18 months. If it'a a group 0 then supposed to last to about 9 months..see the table on the link I've attached. It's confusing cos they do looked pretty cramped in those first stage maxi cosi seats - that is to say their legs and feet looked bunched up - but as far as I've been told, this is usual and not the relevant thing, it's to do with head height. Your seat may also have a newborn insert which is detachable when your baby gets a bit bigger, could you take this out, the materially bit? infant car seat sizes

How is your daughter feeling today susyp? Hope she's feeling a bit perkier

Susyp what a grim day, no particular pearls of wisdom on how to handle this as my daughter is not this age yet, but I can imagine that this sort of thing, inevitable tho it is, will break my heart! Does she have another friend that you could have over to play or bake or whatever in the next couple of days to perk her up? I imagine there is a high chance the friend who has said this to her will have forgotten whatever the reason she doesn't want to be buddies with your daughter in a few days? Tho I guess a bit risky to say this to her...gawd, it's hard being 4..

Yes it is much lumpier than the packet suggests! Try mixing a little more water in (I checked and it's fine to do that) and the syringe is the easiest way, angling the syringe into the corner of the mouth by the side of the tongue means less come back out! also, sounds obvious but use syringe when the baby is lying totally flat, if he is in someone's arms or semi upright, it will definitely dribble back out, but Im sure you're doing that already!

edited OP to say.. edited post because from the huge amount of very very kind and touching PMs , I'm a bit worried that I have made people concerned in a way I didn't anticipate which I didn't mean to do...! Will reply to more today, thank you forum, you are as ever full of wisdom, warmth and a wonderful support. I think I perhaps should have more accurately said something along the lines of ' given that I apparently have everything I want, I don't know why I'm not happier - because I don't feel unhappy, I'm not wandering round in a fug of misery - though I can quite see why referring to often feeling a bit blank and detached rang alarm bells for so many of you - I just have a feeling of 'what next' post baby, which I didn't expect and sometimes feels quite overwhelming, and all your posts and replies have helped me clarify that I don't think I have the mum / rest of life balance quite right yet, whether that be that I should be going back to work part time now same is a toddler, pursuing more independent interests etc..so thank you, will think on it, work through the lovely PMs, and think about all your experiences and suggestions xx

gosh thanks for all your replies and all the lovely pms, will reply tomorrow! So much of what people have said really resonates, it helps to know that so many of you have felt like this at some time, and your responses have actually helped clarify my somewhat foggy feelings..I think perhaps it is all a question of balance, that the wobbly feelings I've been having recently aren't because there is an actual 'problem' but because I'm not really pausing to make any time for me any more, which leads to feeling a bit lost, even though always busy, it's probably a good idea to do more things that remind me of who I am outside family life! If I actually stop and think about it, I feel a lot less 'lost' now than I probably did before having a family, it's just easy to forget that. If my situation were different and I was still responsibility free and able to drop everything and change tack, travel, pursue new things, then I know I would be pining for a more settled, secure life, I know that because I did yearn for it before I had it!! I guess that is a little contrary but it helps to be reminded! In many ways this is the happiest period of my life yet, in fact I have never been so happy as when I'm just hanging out with my partner and our daughter, I think I just need to make sure that there is time to do stuff that is about me and my interests too..lots of very good suggestions in your messages, will go through them properly tomorrow, thank you all xx

edited post because from the huge amount of very very kind and touching PMs , I'm a bit worried that I have made people concerned in a way I didn't anticipate which I didn't mean to do...! Will reply to more today, thank you forum, you are as ever full of wisdom, warmth and a wonderful support. I think I perhaps should have more accurately said something along the lines of ' given that I apparently have everything I want, I don't know why I'm not happier - because I don't feel unhappy, I'm not wandering round in a fug of misery - though I can quite see why referring to often feeling a bit blank and detached rang alarm bells for so many of you - I just have a feeling of 'what next' post baby, which I didn't expect and sometimes feels quite overwhelming, and all your posts and replies have helped me clarify that I don't think I have the mum / rest of life balance quite right yet, whether that be that I should be going back to work part time now same is a toddler, pursuing more independent interests etc..so thank you, will think on it, work through the lovely PMs, and think about all your experiences and suggestions xx

sob!

Hi Yak, We went to Herm for several holidays when I was a child - it is such a small island that I just looked on the website and everything seems pretty much the same now! There is a small hotel there and several holiday cottages. The beaches are lovely. look here Sark is also lovely - the smallest of the channel islands - there are no vehicles at all on the island so you get around buy walking or horse and cart. Here is a link to the self catering page of the Sark website..

I remember the days strawbs! It used to make me chuckle when well meaning people used to tap me on the shoulder in a cafe or Sainsbury's and say 'ooh, um, your baby's been sick on you i'm afraid...' and I'd look to what they were pointing at and think 'you call THAT having been sick?! I wouldn't even bother changing my top for THAT!' hoho! There were plenty of other occasions when after cleaning her up and changing her clothes, I would have to have a full clothes change myself, including bra and knickers! x

Hi Jennyh, I know we've spoken about this before! I have cut down Mini Sailor's to the same as Mathilda has with her daughter, and her appetite for solids has improved hugely (for now, ha, see how complacent I got there!) Personally I feel that your instinct about it being preferable for her to eat tea rather than be too full for tea because she has had milk an hour or so earlier, is right..some babies seems to have appetites big enough for loads of milk and still room for 3 meals, but others - as it seems to have turned out with mine - just aren't as interested in eating if they have a fair bit of milk. When she turned 1 I cut milk down from 20oz/600ml a day to about 12-13oz/360-390ml a day (though she has a fromage frais every day too and cheese etc on top) and her appetite for lunch and tea is so much better. When I was wondering about cutting back on milk when she got to 12 months and the thinking behind it, a midwife friend of mine said that basically you're trying to tip the balance of food intake and nutrition increasingly towards food rather than milk, as of course in a while they will just be having food and not milk, and shifting this balance is hard to encourage unless you cut back on milk when they turn 1, which made perfect sense to me. Having said that, if she is upset as she likes the comfort of it, could she just have a token amount like 60ml so that she still felt she was having her bottle after her nap but not actually filling up so much before tea? xx

that is incredibly sweet!

Fi from West Dulwich Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Ignore the smug sleeper mothers, > their children probably do vile things when they > are awake, or they're simply lying. hmmm.. agree Pickle..always peculiar when someone tries to turn a helpful and supportive thread into something totally different that pits mums against other mums. my 14 month old has been a good sleeper so far but I am well aware that these things can change overnight for any number of reasons, and that even if she stays a good sleeper, a future baby may wake up every hour, on the hour, until he/she is 15, so smugness doesn't factor. Plus, my daughter has had a shedload of feeding dramas, while many of my friends with difficult sleepers have sprogs who wolf down everything they're offered with gusto, but this difference doesn't make me feel they're being smug, even when I look a bit longingly at their little one scarfing a lasagne! Babies are all different, and the chances of having one who is at once a great sleeper / eater / socialiser are quite slim it seems! Hope everyone gets some sleep tonight..

the baby bjorn chair is the one that can be made most upright, it is adjustable. They are expensive first hand but can be picked up cheaper on here or on ebay etc look here

How was the rest of the night midivydale? Hope it continued to go better? My fingers are crossed for you through the ether!x

thanks for clarifying! xx

Can anyone tell me please - have just ordered the bugaboo bee sunshade (we have the original bee model not the bee plus), does this work with your usual canvas sun canopy you have on the buggy all year round, or must you buy the silver breezy sun canopy (which has been discontinued for the original model) to make the sunshade work / attach? I know that the newer version bee plus has the silver breezy sun canopy and sunshade integrated now, but not sure how it works with the original model? thanks!

Jasmina Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > > > Has anyone heard of NCT groups for same sex > parents? Or has attended an NCT group with same > sex parents? > > >Not in my group but I have had several friends who had same sex parents in their group

gnocchi is a winner in our house too - I buy one of those fresh packs which actually stay fresh for days and days after they've been opened and also buy (very lazy) one of the big packs of ready grated cheese from saisnburys and then stir some of that in when they're just cooked and it melts on top. love that it takes 2-3 mins to cook only as others have said you can buy packs of freezable organic meatballs for children in sainsburys I also give my daughter veggie sausages, there is one particular brand in SMBS which you don't have to cook first even, they are pre-cooked, so they can be eaten cold as they are or warm them up. (I forget which brand but it says 'eat hot or cold' on the packet. I freeze them individually and then get them out to defrost overnight as I need them, one or two at a time. got tired of my daughter throwing my lovingly prepared Annable Karmel recipe organic fish fingers on the floor so have given up and now on occasion offer her good old Catptain Birdseye's ones...they don't get greeted with much enthusiasm either to be fair! Would quite like her to get into these as so easy! I haven't tried yet but have quite a few friends who give those filled pasts shells you buy fresh in saisnburys, I guess some must haves a much higher salt content than others though?

Hi, that sounds pretty gruelling, you poor thing. I don't know the details but I have heard from others that there is a sleep clinic your GP can refer you to, I forget if it is at Kings or Guys, or whether they both have one - perhaps others replying to the thread can clarify? (like you, not sure what the criteria would be for a referral) x

VanessaPMR Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------ > > Do not mix with booze however...or at least dont > try to empty your mooncup while pissed..I made > that mistake once.. I came out of the toilet > cubicle looking like I'd just killed someone. :))

Just snorted my cup of tea at the eeyore bit, have heard similar tales from other users!

sophiechristophy Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I think > your experience is testiment to the fact that > there isn't enough quality and accessible support > for breastfeeding mothers, perhaps if there had > been your situation could have been made more > managable somehow, for both you and your daughter, > so that you didn't suffer in the way that you did. I have to say that in my case I really don't feel that my particular experience is testament to a lack of support for breast feeding mothers. (that's not to say that others don't feel unsupported of course.) I didn't feel unsupported. I attended breast feeding cafes - I live minutes from one - I rang the NCT breast feeding helpline, I spoke to HVs and several times saw the wonderful Clare Kedves, breast feeding specialist at Kings. I was told that if I took drugs to improve my milk supply (I did this), pumped for hours a day (I did this - it took an hour to get every ounce),fed in a quiet dark room with no people or distractions ( I never went out), taped tiny tubes to my boobs so that my baby was inadvertently drinking expressed breast milk from a bottle hidden under my jumper while she simultaneously suckled from my breast in order to waylay concerns from the doctors that she had fallen from 91st to 25th percentile, applied plentiful lansinoh and stuck at it, that there was no reason for me to stop breast feeding. I didn't want to sit in a quiet dark room all day, I didn't want to pump for several house a day to try to get together enough of a feed to put in the secret bottle which was attached to the tubes taped to my boobs, I wanted to stop breast feeding and go to the park with the other mums, to be given 'permission' to do this, to have someone put their arm round me and say 'enough', that is what i wanted to be supported in. > > >Sophiechristophy wrote: > > I just wonder what factors > have led to women feeling this way about > breastfeeding, and how breastfeeding has become > something that is seen by some as optional rather > than essential as part of giving birth and having a baby? It is optional Sophie. You may find that hard to reconcile but it is. If I'm lucky enough to have more children I also plan to breast feed them, but if the situation was the same as with my daughter, I may well exercise that option. Out of interest, what more support do you feel someone in the sort of situation I describe could be given?