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thanks so much for all your replies...she is finally asleep...my partner bought a (several hundred pound...*pales* ) air conditioner unit from homebase on the way home from work and it has made the room just bearable for her to sleep in...possibly only because she has been awake for so many hours without sleeping that she was finally going to pass out whatever we did! But it is definitely making the room cooler, still about 28 but this is a vast improvement on 35, and I am less worried about her body temperature soaring up like it did as lunch time when I tried to get her to nap in there...after 3 days of crying day and night with no sleep, I am just relived she is finally getting some rest. Susan funnily enough we have exactly the same arrangement as you - blackout lining that I can velcro up to the window, but this definitely makes the room way hotter, baffled as to why everyone else is finding it makes the room cooler, I wish it did in her room!! What a gruelling 3 days of no sleep and constant crying, reminds me of newborn days..I have to laugh, I've spent weeks moaning about the rain and eagerly checking the weather forecast to see if we're going to get a bit of sun, and am now fervently checking the forecast hoping it goes back to being a paltry 14 degrees soon....the ridiculousness of the situation is not lost on me... if anyone is thinking of extending into their loft: don't but if anyone is thinking of PMing me to come round for a sauna: do x

thanks all, room is now 35 degrees, she has screamed until I have taken her out of the room for both naps today, so has not slept and is absolutely exhausted.. Her room is in the loft, therein lies the problem, so the opening the loft hatch trick is not possible unfortunately, keeping the windows closed has definitely heated the room up rather than cooled it down, I think this must be because it is a loft room, as it has kept other rooms cooler, I will google this film you can apply to windows that some of you have suggested, thanks plus my question has been answered about the safety as when I brought her down from the nap-that-wasn't this afternoon, her temperature had gone to 100 degs just from being in a room that hot, so I guess I've answered my own question and I don't feel it is safe for her to sleep in that heat...not that she has any intention of doing so....!

Thanks for replies everyone, it had reached 31 degrees in her room by midday - today I tried opening the window for a couple of hours in the coolest part of the day from about 7am, and then closing it until lunchtime to see if that made any difference. I didn't put the blind down as it is a blackout blind and definitely makes the room hotter, I think perhaps keeping curtains / blinds drawn only works to cool a room if they're not blackout, as ours creates a greenhouse type humidity! Anyway, keeping the window closed seems to have made it worse, as the room is so hot I can't put her in it for her lunchtime nap as she was just screaming. back to the drawing board...

yes two fans is indeed a bit extreme, but it's a bit of a case of a rock and a hard place, tho they are angled so they're not blowing a gale straight into her cot. She doesn't normally cry at bedtime, no, so it is the heat that's upsetting her. But we can deal with the disruption of her not wanting to go to bed, that's just one of those things, what is worrying me is the potential safety element..

It has been boiling hot in my 15 month old daughter's room for the last 2 days, and got to 32 degrees by her bedtime tonight - didn't know a gro egg could glow quite so flame red... She has sobbed the house down both bedtimes when we have tried to put her to bed, which has led us to do anything we need to to get her to settle in another room, i.e fall asleep lying on our bed with one of us, which has taken up to 2 hours last night and tonight, as she is clearly not going to settle in her room, and then transfer her once asleep to her cot....but is it actually safe for her to sleep in a room that hot? I know 16-20, or 18-22, depending on what you read, is the guideline for younger babies, but how much of a safety issue is this after they turn 1? She has two fans trained on the cot to try to keep her cool, and is wearing just a nappy and a 0.5 grobag, and I'm supposing that if we took her on holiday to a very hot country her room might be very hot, and people obviously do this all the time, but just wanted to check...is it unsafe to be putting her to sleep in a room this hot? We tried settling her in a travel cot in another room last night (hers is the hottest room unfortunately ) but she absolutely screamed the house down and we had to give up after many attempts last night (bodes well for the holiday we have booked!) which I think is because she has only slept in a real cot when we went away before and frankly didn't know what on earth was going on..so doesn't seem to be the solution we hoped! With the weather set to get hotter I'm not sure what to do, particularly as if her room has reached 32 when it was only 25 degrees outdoors today, I imagine it could get much hotter if the days get hotter...jeepers should I be worried about the safety of her sleeping in this temperature? thanks for any advice

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Hi jennyh, you can get the snug style ones (skinny leg bottoms and tops like Gap do) in Next as well, about 20 quid for a 3 pack x

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Hi nabz, is it a group 0 or group 0+? It seems unlikely she has grown out of it quite yet if she is 3 months? Our 15 month old is still in her first maxi cosi seat (the maxicosi cabriofix) as the pertinent thing is whether their head is sticking over the top, and despite being tall, hers still isn't at 15 months. Having said that, it is a group 0+ seat rather than a 0, so is supposed to last until nearer 18 months. If it'a a group 0 then supposed to last to about 9 months..see the table on the link I've attached. It's confusing cos they do looked pretty cramped in those first stage maxi cosi seats - that is to say their legs and feet looked bunched up - but as far as I've been told, this is usual and not the relevant thing, it's to do with head height. Your seat may also have a newborn insert which is detachable when your baby gets a bit bigger, could you take this out, the materially bit? infant car seat sizes

How is your daughter feeling today susyp? Hope she's feeling a bit perkier

Susyp what a grim day, no particular pearls of wisdom on how to handle this as my daughter is not this age yet, but I can imagine that this sort of thing, inevitable tho it is, will break my heart! Does she have another friend that you could have over to play or bake or whatever in the next couple of days to perk her up? I imagine there is a high chance the friend who has said this to her will have forgotten whatever the reason she doesn't want to be buddies with your daughter in a few days? Tho I guess a bit risky to say this to her...gawd, it's hard being 4..

Yes it is much lumpier than the packet suggests! Try mixing a little more water in (I checked and it's fine to do that) and the syringe is the easiest way, angling the syringe into the corner of the mouth by the side of the tongue means less come back out! also, sounds obvious but use syringe when the baby is lying totally flat, if he is in someone's arms or semi upright, it will definitely dribble back out, but Im sure you're doing that already!

edited OP to say.. edited post because from the huge amount of very very kind and touching PMs , I'm a bit worried that I have made people concerned in a way I didn't anticipate which I didn't mean to do...! Will reply to more today, thank you forum, you are as ever full of wisdom, warmth and a wonderful support. I think I perhaps should have more accurately said something along the lines of ' given that I apparently have everything I want, I don't know why I'm not happier - because I don't feel unhappy, I'm not wandering round in a fug of misery - though I can quite see why referring to often feeling a bit blank and detached rang alarm bells for so many of you - I just have a feeling of 'what next' post baby, which I didn't expect and sometimes feels quite overwhelming, and all your posts and replies have helped me clarify that I don't think I have the mum / rest of life balance quite right yet, whether that be that I should be going back to work part time now same is a toddler, pursuing more independent interests etc..so thank you, will think on it, work through the lovely PMs, and think about all your experiences and suggestions xx

gosh thanks for all your replies and all the lovely pms, will reply tomorrow! So much of what people have said really resonates, it helps to know that so many of you have felt like this at some time, and your responses have actually helped clarify my somewhat foggy feelings..I think perhaps it is all a question of balance, that the wobbly feelings I've been having recently aren't because there is an actual 'problem' but because I'm not really pausing to make any time for me any more, which leads to feeling a bit lost, even though always busy, it's probably a good idea to do more things that remind me of who I am outside family life! If I actually stop and think about it, I feel a lot less 'lost' now than I probably did before having a family, it's just easy to forget that. If my situation were different and I was still responsibility free and able to drop everything and change tack, travel, pursue new things, then I know I would be pining for a more settled, secure life, I know that because I did yearn for it before I had it!! I guess that is a little contrary but it helps to be reminded! In many ways this is the happiest period of my life yet, in fact I have never been so happy as when I'm just hanging out with my partner and our daughter, I think I just need to make sure that there is time to do stuff that is about me and my interests too..lots of very good suggestions in your messages, will go through them properly tomorrow, thank you all xx

edited post because from the huge amount of very very kind and touching PMs , I'm a bit worried that I have made people concerned in a way I didn't anticipate which I didn't mean to do...! Will reply to more today, thank you forum, you are as ever full of wisdom, warmth and a wonderful support. I think I perhaps should have more accurately said something along the lines of ' given that I apparently have everything I want, I don't know why I'm not happier - because I don't feel unhappy, I'm not wandering round in a fug of misery - though I can quite see why referring to often feeling a bit blank and detached rang alarm bells for so many of you - I just have a feeling of 'what next' post baby, which I didn't expect and sometimes feels quite overwhelming, and all your posts and replies have helped me clarify that I don't think I have the mum / rest of life balance quite right yet, whether that be that I should be going back to work part time now same is a toddler, pursuing more independent interests etc..so thank you, will think on it, work through the lovely PMs, and think about all your experiences and suggestions xx

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Hi Yak, We went to Herm for several holidays when I was a child - it is such a small island that I just looked on the website and everything seems pretty much the same now! There is a small hotel there and several holiday cottages. The beaches are lovely. look here Sark is also lovely - the smallest of the channel islands - there are no vehicles at all on the island so you get around buy walking or horse and cart. Here is a link to the self catering page of the Sark website..

I remember the days strawbs! It used to make me chuckle when well meaning people used to tap me on the shoulder in a cafe or Sainsbury's and say 'ooh, um, your baby's been sick on you i'm afraid...' and I'd look to what they were pointing at and think 'you call THAT having been sick?! I wouldn't even bother changing my top for THAT!' hoho! There were plenty of other occasions when after cleaning her up and changing her clothes, I would have to have a full clothes change myself, including bra and knickers! x

Hi Jennyh, I know we've spoken about this before! I have cut down Mini Sailor's to the same as Mathilda has with her daughter, and her appetite for solids has improved hugely (for now, ha, see how complacent I got there!) Personally I feel that your instinct about it being preferable for her to eat tea rather than be too full for tea because she has had milk an hour or so earlier, is right..some babies seems to have appetites big enough for loads of milk and still room for 3 meals, but others - as it seems to have turned out with mine - just aren't as interested in eating if they have a fair bit of milk. When she turned 1 I cut milk down from 20oz/600ml a day to about 12-13oz/360-390ml a day (though she has a fromage frais every day too and cheese etc on top) and her appetite for lunch and tea is so much better. When I was wondering about cutting back on milk when she got to 12 months and the thinking behind it, a midwife friend of mine said that basically you're trying to tip the balance of food intake and nutrition increasingly towards food rather than milk, as of course in a while they will just be having food and not milk, and shifting this balance is hard to encourage unless you cut back on milk when they turn 1, which made perfect sense to me. Having said that, if she is upset as she likes the comfort of it, could she just have a token amount like 60ml so that she still felt she was having her bottle after her nap but not actually filling up so much before tea? xx

that is incredibly sweet!

Fi from West Dulwich Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Ignore the smug sleeper mothers, > their children probably do vile things when they > are awake, or they're simply lying. hmmm.. agree Pickle..always peculiar when someone tries to turn a helpful and supportive thread into something totally different that pits mums against other mums. my 14 month old has been a good sleeper so far but I am well aware that these things can change overnight for any number of reasons, and that even if she stays a good sleeper, a future baby may wake up every hour, on the hour, until he/she is 15, so smugness doesn't factor. Plus, my daughter has had a shedload of feeding dramas, while many of my friends with difficult sleepers have sprogs who wolf down everything they're offered with gusto, but this difference doesn't make me feel they're being smug, even when I look a bit longingly at their little one scarfing a lasagne! Babies are all different, and the chances of having one who is at once a great sleeper / eater / socialiser are quite slim it seems! Hope everyone gets some sleep tonight..

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How was the rest of the night midivydale? Hope it continued to go better? My fingers are crossed for you through the ether!x

thanks for clarifying! xx

Can anyone tell me please - have just ordered the bugaboo bee sunshade (we have the original bee model not the bee plus), does this work with your usual canvas sun canopy you have on the buggy all year round, or must you buy the silver breezy sun canopy (which has been discontinued for the original model) to make the sunshade work / attach? I know that the newer version bee plus has the silver breezy sun canopy and sunshade integrated now, but not sure how it works with the original model? thanks!