I'm sad.....

[Otta]

DulwichFox Wrote:

-------------------------------------------------------

> Most of the people I have met with many more posts

> more than myself are very different than the way

> they come across here..

Which is exactly why one should judge posts but not presume to judge the person posting.

[StraferJack]

"Most of the people I have met with many more posts more than myself are very different than the way

they come across here.. They are mostly reluctant to talk about anything when you actually meet them

without having someone close to hand to back them up. "

Foxy. It's entirely possible that people aren't being different to "on here" so much as they are often different with other people.

[*Bob*]

DulwichFox Wrote:

------------------------------------------------------

> It is worth noting that 60% - 75% of my posts are

> of a technical nature offering help and advice.

You've done your bit, Foxy.

It's time these people learned to stand on their own to feet - and google stuff on Wikipedia for themselves.

[DulwichFox]

*Bob* Wrote:

-------------------------------------------------------

> DulwichFox Wrote:

> --------------------------------------------------

> ----

> > It is worth noting that 60% - 75% of my posts

> are

> > of a technical nature offering help and advice.

>

>

> You've done your bit, Foxy.

>

> It's time these people learned to stand on their

> own to feet - and google stuff on Wikipedia for

> themselves.

Most of the techy stuff I post about I know about.. It was my job..

I almost always give a link to the source where people can read for themselves and learn more.

After all it is usually people who have asked for some direction that I reply to.

Its in my nature to help other people... That's what I do... You should try it sometime.

*DulwichFox*

[*Bob*]

DulwichFox Wrote:

-------------------------------------------------------

> Most of the techy stuff I post about I know

> about.. It was my job..

I didn't realise you were an electrician / plumber / engineer / gardener / chef / accountant / pilot / astronaut

Please accept my apologies!

[DulwichFox]

*Bob* Wrote:

-------------------------------------------------------

> DulwichFox Wrote:

> --------------------------------------------------

> -----

>

> > Most of the techy stuff I post about I know

> > about.. It was my job..

>

> I didn't realise you were an electrician / plumber

> / engineer / gardener / chef / accountant / pilot

> / astronaut

>

> Please accept my apologies!

That's fine **BOB**

I was an Electro Mechanical Engineer and a Power Engineer and later a Systems Manager

And a SASO Systems Administration and Security Officer.

I don't recall posting About Gardening, I hate gardening.

Or Accountancy , or Aviation, or Astronautics.. ?

Or exaggerating for that matter..

DulwichFox

[*Bob*]

DulwichFox Wrote:

-------------------------------------------------------

> I don't recall posting About Gardening, I hate

> gardening.

There was that bamboo, of course.

[*Bob*]

Anyway.. C'mere.. Give us a kiss

[Otta]

We're you a musician foxy? ;-)

[DulwichFox]

I had to go back to May 2013 to find that Thread on Bamboo..

I'll let you look for it..

I think I said in that post I was a useless gardener ad everything I try and grow dies... :)

Well nothing has changed. I'm still waiting for my Chilli seeds to germinate and show their heads,

Foxy

[DulwichFox]

Otta Wrote:

-------------------------------------------------------

> We're you a musician foxy? ;-)

I play G/D Melodeon badly.. I have a Castagnari Studio D-G button accordion Hand built in Italy.

http://scotlandaccordions.co.uk/image/cache/data/Button/Button%20castagnari/(1)-320x240.jpg

My box is as good as new... Current price ?1,300

Foxy

[KidKruger]

"I just think that RPC came across as not having much sympathy or liking for fellow posters in some of the things she said. Not all the time but enough to receive the comments from others.

Personally, I prefer to think before I write."

Perhaps.

I saw some really nasty posts a few days ago but when you see that sort of thing you have to assume it's just a bad day they're having, especially when it's pure hate with no logic.

[Robert Poste's Child]

First and most importantly, a BIG thank you to lovely Salsa for your kindness, and also to everyone else who has been supportive or tried to remain neutral. I really appreciate it.

I haven?t been on the forum since Tuesday, though it may not have appeared that way as my laptop and phone log me in automatically. Busy with a truckload of other stuff at the moment, not least family problems and a new job. Once I saw Otta?s original post and the aftermath I also wanted to pause and think before replying.

Otta, I don?t know if you realise that you haven?t actually addressed any comments to me personally? I don?t know if you?re interested in my point of view or just wanted to relieve your own feelings. My guess is the latter as you criticised me harshly on a public forum in the third person, effectively inviting other people to join in. You said you intended it to be a PM rather than a public post, but you haven?t deleted it ? in fact you?ve repeatedly defended it ? so I get that you did/do mean it. Your apologies, such as they are, seem to be directed at your friends rather than me. El Pibe?s rather snide comments certainly seem to be aimed at making you feel better.

It?s fair comment that some of my posts have been critical and impatient recently. I?ve certainly felt bored and frustrated with the forum in recent months: big real-life stuff is taking up all my energy and at times some people seem incredibly self-involved here. Maybe that just means I?m ready for a(nother) break.

To pick up on one point, bit unfair to blame me for Alan Medic?s departure. We did have a brief spat when I thought he was accusing me of something he didn?t intend, but it was done and dusted in three posts. I thought the trigger for him was the Curry Club thread but I?m sure he can speak for himself when he?s ready.

And ?pure hate? is a very extreme accusation, KK ? did you really mean that?

You?re entitled to your opinions about me and what I say, but I?d respect them - and you - more if you said them to me directly. Maybe you?re right and some people do send each other nasty PMs about other forumites. I don?t know: I never have and I?ve never received any either. I?ve supported a few people who I thought were being attacked unfairly, though, as I know what it?s like, having left the forum in the past after a particularly vicious one.

In other words ? yet another passive-aggressive, ganging-up-in-the-playground bloodletting by members of the clique and hangers-on. Welcome to another week in the Lounge.

For anyone not familiar with the term ?flouncing?, it?s used by the more bullying-prone cliquey types to diminish other people?s hurt reactions after upsetting them to the point where they feel they can?t stay.

So that's my response if anyone wanted one. I'm not particularly interested in dissecting this further, but knock yourselves out if that's your idea of fun.

[MrBen]

I have yet to see a nasty post from RPC. But, help me out here, is RPC Giggirl? I miss her. And Hibbs for that matter.

[Robert Poste's Child]

No, I'm not, MrBen. My original ID that dated from, I think, early 2008 was deleted when I left so I had to choose a new name when I came back a couple of years after that, but I've never been more than one person at once. I remember Giggirl. And Moos.

[Otta]

Just for the record, I haven't deleted the original post because by the time I realised it was in the public domain rather than someone's inbox (about an hour after posting it) someone had already quoted it so deleting seemed pointless. I also didn't want to be accused of trying to "cover up" after the event. I haven't defended it, I have just said I'd be a hypocrite if I tried to take it all back.

But my apology for causing any upset was meant for you, not sure how I've apologised to anyone else.

As I've said, I don't know you, I have nothing against you as a person, you could be the most wonderful person alive or you could be the opposite, I have no idea.

Any comment I have made has been solely based on stuff you've written on here.

I'm sorry to hear that you've had stuff going on in RL, and I'm the first to admit that I've been pretty venomous on here in the past when things have been shit in the other world.

I still find the whole cliquey ganging up thing laughable, but I.understand others see it differently.

For what it's worth though (and this is directed to Quids) when UDT was around I couldn't post on any thread in any section of the forum without him following me there and trying to start, so I have a 100% clear conscience about anything I ever said to him. He was a prick.

[maxxi]

There are more characters making comebacks on here than in EastEnders - maybe we should have a 'live' week building to a crescendo of ennui so we can all find out who killed X-X*

*Fill-in-name-of-forumite-who-has-gone-missing-over-the-last-few-years-and-who-may-or-may-not-have-come-back-and-possibly-more-than-once-in-another-guise-and-possibly-fecked-off-again-or-been-deleted-and-come-back-again-and-then-disappeared-for-a-while-then-come-back-and-well-you-get-the-idea

[MrBen]

I'm just impressed Foxy plays the accordion.

[aquarius moon]

Good to see you back and responding RPC.

The difference between you and me is that I actually have feelings for some of my fellow forumites. I see them as friends, just by interacting on here, whether I've met them or not.

Therefore I think before I write because I don't want to offend or hurt any of them with a post.

Sometimes your posts make me cringe because they are so cold and don't contain any feeling at all.

I've nothing against you personally. Just being honest.

[Robert Poste's Child]

Sometimes your posts make me cringe, too, AM. Several blind spots in the one above, for example.

[Robert Poste's Child]

I've noticed in the past that after these kinds of incidents the perps often spend the next few days going out of their way to be nicer to other posters and generally appear more reasonable. See if you can spot it.

[aquarius moon]

Such as?

[Otta]

Robert Poste's Child Wrote:

-------------------------------------------------------

> I've noticed in the past that after these kinds of

> incidents the perps often spend the next few days

> going out of their way to be nicer to other

> posters and generally appear more reasonable. See

> if you can spot it.

Loving your work.

[Salsaboy]

Hooray RPC is back. And she called me lovely.

[minder]

Well RPC was one of 2 people on the forum who pm'd me about donating stuff for my Xmas Alzheimers sale last December.

She appeared one afternoon with lots of bits that helped me raise money for the Alzheimers Society and I'm forever grateful.