Maiden name vs married name

[Polly D]

Does anyone have any helpful opinions on whether ladies wot get wed should take their husband's surname?

Sigh, dilemma.

[Mogs]

I got married in August last year, and decided I would be Morgan (Maiden Name) at work and Dunn for everything else.

and that will probably change when we have kids as I intend to call our first child Morgan (as a first name) so that will get confusing and I will probably been dunn all the time then.

And if we don't have children I have been told that I can purchase a Morgan car.

So either way Morgan will always be in my life

[Keef]

Mrs Keef will be keeping her own name, but taking on the Mrs when she becomes the real Mrs Keef..... Did that make any sense???? :-S

I couldn't care less what her name is, she'll still be her.

Kids will have to go double barrelled though I guess... Not ideal, but I'm not letting my name die with me... Call me old fashioned and all that....

[Keef]

I have a colleague who has done the same as Mogs, kept maiden at work.... She has told me that she thinks her married name is common, which might explain it ;-)

[Ant]

Mrs Ant took my name, but then she didn't much like hers...

(I wish she'd give it back. I need to use it!)

[Mogs]

I don't really mind being a Dunn - and I did think about being a Morgan Dunn (which made me sound like a credit card)

So I just stuck with Morgan - A good Welsh surname lol

[Alan Dale]

Mogs Wrote:

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> I don't really mind being a Dunn - and I did think

> about being a Morgan Dunn (which made me sound

> like a credit card)

>

> So I just stuck with Morgan - A good Welsh surname

> lol

You said you intend to name your first child Morgan Dunn. Why is it ok for their name to sound like a credit card but not yours?

[Keef]

>:D

[Brendan]

My surname is already a double barrel name (although with a ?van? preposition rather than the Poncyville-Dickwadson kind) so when I asked my fianc? if she would like to double barrel her surname when we get married she told me I was being an idiot. Don?t blame her to be honest. I wouldn?t inflict a triple barrel name on my children.

She?s taking my name when we get married. I don?t think she likes hers.

[Mogs]

I think Morgan Dunn as a double barrel name sounds like a credit card, but I think Morgan Dunn as a First name and Surname doesn't sound so bad.

First Name - Morgan Dunn, sounds naff I think - I hope there are no Morgan Dunn's on the forum

[Keef]

Surely Dunn Morgan would be better for pure comedy value? ;-)

[Mogs]

I guess there are worse names to have

[nutty]

Brendan Wrote:

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> My surname is already a double barrel name

> (although with a ?van? preposition rather than the

> Poncyville-Dickwadson kind) so when I asked my

> fianc? if she would like to double barrel her

> surname when we get married she told me I was

> being an idiot. Don?t blame her to be honest. I

> wouldn?t inflict a triple barrel name on my

> children.

>

Therein lies the problem. On top of seeming a little pretentious, claiming a double barrelled name seems a little selfish to me as it doesn't allow your children to do the same.

I felt quite strongly about my wife taking my name, I guess it's just a tradition now, but I think it's quite a nice one. I guess it's something for every couple to make their own mind up about, don't think there's a right and wrong, just how you feel. I know all my bloke friends wanted their wives to take their names, although in some cases a little bribery was required to get that to happen (normally spending even more on the wedding, or promise of kids asap!).

I wasn't worried about my name being carried on, just found it nice to think that all the family would have the same surname (so we're the "Smith" family, rather than some concoction of names). I think I'd prefer that we'd both taken a new name of our choosing than kept our own surnames. Actually, that could be quite fun.... memories of a Friends episode where Phoebe changes her name to "Princess Conswela Banana-Hammock" :))

[buggie]

I've always looked forward to getting married and getting rid of my surname (Bugg), but now it is becoming a possibility that I will get proposed to at some point I'm already starting to miss it. There's no way I'd go double barrelled (IF I was to get proposed to and married) as that would be Bugg-Harmer or Harmer-Bugg - both v v wrong!!!

[Ant]

Bugg-Harmer's too good an opportunity to miss!

(I accept that this is easier to say when it's not going to be your own name.)

[Mogs]

I have a cousin whose name is Emma and she nearly married a Mr. Dale

[SeanMacGabhann]

I think polly will have a bigger problem asking mr admin to change her forum name again. .

in a previous life i was married and we double barreled. Mistake.

these days i would favour keeping ones own name. Makes it easier for the it guys at work too ;-)

[Alan Dale]

Mogs Wrote:

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> I have a cousin whose name is Emma and she nearly

> married a Mr. Dale

Broke my heart.

I should never have given her the 'me or the dog' ultimatum.

[Mogs]

Sean you didn't marry a Jones did you?

[Nero]

My mum got wed to a Mr Higginbotham and took it. She had very comic-northern name of Beryl Higginbotham, pronounced with a hard t, but she pretended it was a 'th'. Nero

[SeanMacGabhann]

Nah. . . She was a wesson

[buggie]

Ant Wrote:

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> Bugg-Harmer's too good an opportunity to miss!

>

> (I accept that this is easier to say when it's not

> going to be your own name.)

Hmmm, think I might pass on that one!! Course it wouldn't be as bad as the family I've met who are Pine-Coffin's.... I kid you not!!

[Townleygreen]

When I get married I think I'll take my wife's surname...

[Asset]

I would not take husband's name as I see it as a sign of ownership, i.e. I would become one of his 'chattells'. f$ck that.

He can take my name.

[Mogs]

Guys if you were dating someone with a weird surname like p*ssbottom or something equally odd, would you think they were after you for your surname