
susyp
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if it's a case of life or death for the little boy then of course he has to have the treatment. and like growlybear I have had it and while it's not pleasant it is certainly better than the alternative. How can anything be worse than losing your child. She sounds like she is in shock/denial over the whole thing. Awful for the poor boy though, makes the whole experience 100 times worse. susypx also, the idea that state of mind has very much at all to do with outcome is quite frankly deeply offensive. I think everyone goes through much the same mental processes when they have a life threatening illnesses. The idea that thinking positively or being brave or any of those things makes any difference is ridiculous. Cancer is Sh*t and there is no reason why one person gets it and another person doesn't, or one person survives and another one doesn't. There is enough heartbreak and guilt around the whole issue of cancer without throwing that idea in as well.
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Yes, that seems to be the response of most prospective employers . . . Susypx
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simone yes my experience is the same as your friend's. Just ordered one. Hurrah! susypx
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Yes good idea. That is the only reason I have a problem with it. As I want to choose when and how I would find out were the cancer to return - not be forced to by my employer. But I don't think my employer is that heartless actually!!! But I may explain my concern to my employer. susypx
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sorry to digress - i just looked up the mooncup thread - never heard of this before. How often do you have to change it. On days 1 and 2 of my period i have to change a super + tampax every hour. It drives me bananas. And I don't find the whole string hanging down v hygenic. Could the mooncup change my life? I swim regularly and can't on the days of my periods as it's all just too much hassle. Can you swim with it in?!! I shall buy one now. Tell me more?!! susypx ps also to say i have to take nurofen + for the first 3 days of my period (and often the day before) and it doesn't get rid of the pain- just makes it manageable. Still need hot water bottle at night. So anyone in the same position - you have my sympathy! (should I be getting stronger painkilers? )
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Thank you again for the advice. I had also read about not earning less than the minimum wage if you do extra hours - which does give me a lot of protection as I think that means only about 2 hours more! Good to know about the medical clause. I do understand it but the idea that anyone could force me to see a doctor was a bit george orwellian - but if there is separate legislation countering it that's fair enough. It's a charity so I can't really see that there is a competitor. And in any case I am training to be a swimming instructor so it would not exactly be a clash of roles! So I may just ask for the working elsewhere clause to be taken out. I cannot possibly sign it with that in there. As I am looking for other work to enable me to do this job as it is a cause close to my heart - but it does not pay enough to be viable on it's own - even if they took me full time. I need to find something else to supplement it which pays better! I think as I used to work for the BBC, which is unionised, it came as quite a shock to be handed a contract like this which is nothing like that would pass through a union! Really appreciate everyone taking time to advise me, Susypx
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Repeated broncholities in 9 mnth old
susyp replied to midivydale's topic in The Family Room Discussion
Hi we do seem to have the same babies! My daughter was really ill with vomiting bugs (3!) and endless coughs and even very bad flu - during the winter of years 1-2. The only thing I found that helped was basically to avoid other babies - we just did things on our own - because we weren;t going anywhere anyway with all the illnesses it didnt end up being that painful. I waited until the spring and then rejoined soft play type environments and our social life! I think the soft mats are the worst. susypx -
Hi just to say I am in exactly your position and couldn't have a coil fitted for the reasons you state re side effects. So be interested to hear what people say. I have nightmare periods! Susypx
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Thank you so much, I will call them. At present the contract seems to have been forgotten but I want to be prepared for when I am asked. Susypx x
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It depends how long they are there for and how often you see them. If it's a short time I would bite my tongue and then explain to your children that nanny thinks this but not everyone does. If its a long time I would have to explain to MiL that it's not how I want them brought up. At least get to say it's what she thinks but not lay down the law ie I don;t think I could not pick her up on what she told your oldest son! Nightmare though you have my sympathy! susypx
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Thank you for your advice, much appreciated . I can't sign the first condition as I am actively looking for another job to supplement - I can't feed my family on 15 hours a week at ?8 an hour (well I can feed them, but that's about it). I also think it is a bit unfair to pay a low wage ie below the living wage and then expect extra hours. I was thinking it would be more sensible to have an extra line that says something - time in lieu will be given. That to me is fair enough. Doctors one has to come out although I appreciate why it is there. But I have had cancer in the past which they know about but there is no way I am having any doctor examine me !! the holidays one - fair enough then . thanks so much Susypx
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We have this a lot of the time. I left my 4 year old with her dad for 2 consecutive weekends recently when I was doing a training course and lo and behold - it was daddy daddy daddy! Of course once she had one more day with me it was back to mummy mummy mummy. But at least my husband doesn't take it quite so personally anymore!! susypx
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I have just started working part time after 4 years out of work as I took redundancy from my previous job when I got pregnant. I think that there is a lot of wisdom on this forum over fair working and employment for mums so I wanted to ask some advice. I have avoided signing my contract as instinctively I felt it was better to wait and read it properly than rush into signing it . Having taken the time to read it properly - I have identified the following problems with it - am I right? 1) They say I can't work for anyone else while working for them. I do 15 hours a week at ?8 an hour . 2) They say I can be required to work extra hours if necessary with no renumeration. 3) I can be required to undertake a medical examination by a doctor of their choice who will then discuss the results with my employers 4) I may be required to take holiday on specific days as stipulated by the organisation. These are the clauses I have crossed out. Am I being fair? susypx
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Running out of options...Controlled Crying
susyp replied to Ellie78's topic in The Family Room Discussion
Hi there no advice just to say that you are not in an unusual situation and it's nothing you are doing wrong. I rocked my daughter to sleep in my arms until she was 1 (or pushed her around the streets in the day) and then I lay down with her - that lasted until she was 3 before I could actually leave her to go to sleep by herself. And even now I have to stay with her until she sleeps if she is unwell. The baby period was the most utterly exhausting and demoralising time. But I really don't think it's unusual to have problems getting a 5 month old baby to sleep. I am not sure you need sleep training. I think you just need to give yourself some slack and realise that this will not last forever, one day your baby will be older and will sleep better (and I think my case is quite extreme so it wont be that long!). And yes, I did co-sleeping until she was 2. It was the only way I could get some sleep. It meant when she woke up in the night I could cuddle her and she would go back to sleep. Much easier. Susypx -
Reality check - three-year-olds skills
susyp replied to Monkey's topic in The Family Room Discussion
I was always top of the class and I hated school. Am far more keen to see my daughter happy there than top. (although it would be nice to have both!). I ocnsider school an ordeal to get through - although she seems to be enjoying it so far (2 months in!). susyx -
you can get dress up dolls for the bath - they 're brilliant. not need for too much interaction. letters are great too but i am normally knackered at bath time and like to go and lie on her bed for 5 mins while she plays!! i do dolls daddy does letters. susypx oops just read its for a boy. maybe they do boys ones too. or maybe he doesn't care! we got bought those crayons - she loved them - i hated them, just made my clean bath look dirty!
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brilliant pam50, i had convinced my daughter that her belle dress was just like an angel (if we added her wings) , but have just ordered a proper angel costume from asda to be collected at local store . job done. susypx
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At what age should your children fly the nest?
susyp replied to TillieTrotter's topic in The Family Room Discussion
My 4 year old and I have a pact to live together for always. sigh. susypx -
Vax Steam Mop - on Groupon now!
susyp replied to The Nappy Lady's topic in The Family Room Discussion
I keep missing these deals - can't work out if it's going to be ok on my new engineered wood floor (which I haven't cleaned since the builders moved out several months ago - housekeeping is definitely not my forte! any advice?! susypx -
Pebbles your blog just made me cry. Enjoy your week away. Chill out and enjoy being with your husband (and where did you find him - I want one!) tons and tons of love and hugs Susypx
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easier to get the drops as soon as you spot it as it takes longer to treat once it is full blown - that's my experience anyway. Be prepared to virtually kneel on your child to get the drops in . I think it's the only time I've had to forcibly medicate her! But it got better v quickly. Good to know about ointment though I will definitely ask for that next time! susypx
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Baby Strawbs - yet another illness.. Advice please
susyp replied to Strawbs's topic in The Family Room Discussion
Well done for working it out. I know how long it can take before it suddenly clicks! I've made that mistake with aunt bessie chips too!! What a relief! susypx ps also my dairy allergic and soy intolerant daughter was definitely a bit funny with wheat when she was a baby - we have no problem with it now but have also just started making our own bread again - we go through phases of it. It's so annoying how bakeries use soya flour in everything. pps waitrose do chocolate drops (moo free) that are dairy and soya free. So he never need miss out! -
To the mother of the child having a meltdown in the co-op
susyp replied to tiddles's topic in The Family Room Discussion
Absolutely. I saw a little boy in the middle of the shopping centre near me yesterday lying on the floor and refusing to move. His mum was just standing with her pushchair reasoning with him. I was so impressed. I would have been dragging my daughter up and shoving her in the pushchair like a madwoman. I guess some people just have that inner patience!! although i have to say if I had another one I suspect I would be a little more patient as you know it all passes in time! susypx -
Hi Pebbles, I had reflexology when I had chemotherapy. I tried acupuncture for it (since it had worked for my insomnia) and was really shocked when it made no difference to my side effects. So I tried refelxology just because it seemed like a nice thing to do. And it definitely helped quite dramatically with some of the side effects so in my opinion it's a proper medical option. I really hadn;t expected it to do anything and it did. Will keep all my fingers and toes crossed for you too. susypx
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Just in week 2 of being back at work, part time only and not what I used to do - but have to say I feel more of a mum than ever as I finally feel grown up again after the past 4 years of chaos. It's nice to go in the workplace and feel a new identity as a mum who works compared to being a single and childless (can hardly remember) woman! susypx
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