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thank you , was bit a bit doofusy not to think of that! susypx

My daughter's micro scooter brake has just come off - I know this is common but she is a bit upset as she likes using it - is it possible to fix or get a new one? susypx

oimissus I had the same experience - and their brand new house was immaculate with no toys in any room except the playroom - even before kids I thought it was very odd! susypx

Claire29 I lived in Sidcup for 12 years , left about ten years ago after a bad breakup to move as a singleton to E Dulwich! My ex went to and all his family taught at "Chis and Sid" school as they called it - in Sidcup - I was a bit of a militant leftie and never got to grips with it being a grammar school but I know it was very good. Such a small world! Susypx

We moved to Kingston, again in order to buy a house rather than a flat. I miss E Dulwich most particularly the community and the forum! But again good schools (don't know anything about E dulwich schools as didn't have a child when I lived there) and we are on the river which is great - I have taken up Dragon Boat Racing which is the only sporting activity I've every done in 38 years so it can't be bad! But doesn't have the same feel as E Dulwich. Susypx

My partner is particularly annoying as i cannot use hormones due to having had breast cancer, for same reason can't risk having another baby - and he complains all the time about condoms - but won't consider a vascetamy. Hence I don't really see why I should have a coil when it is likely it will make my already problematic periods worse. Yes, bring on male contraception. grr Susypx

arg just did a search about this - i already have 7 day periods and v bad pain so I don't think this is an option for me - and seriously i can't subject myself to something I know will hurt !! So will try natural planning i think. Interesting thread though, I just thought everyone else was on the pill! susypx

copper coil? did you have local anasthetic to have it fitted. nurse who i saw said she needed several changes of s pads nightly (sorry tmi) since going on the coil? i went through a whole cap fitting as well and never got the hang of it - if anything is going to put me off sex it would be that. i might have to start a new thread about coil rather than hijack this one- would be brilliant if i could have one. Just not keen on any big medical procedures. susypx

I looked into the copper coil as i can't have hormones, but it does have the side effect of makng your periods much heavier which I couldn't cope with! Also heard it was painful to be fitted! I am thinking of going the natural family planning route although for health reasons I really can't afford to get pregnant - so figure maybe to try it when I hit the big 40 in a couple of years when I am less likely to get pregnant anyway. Figure even if you have to use condoms occasionally at least if you aren't restricted to having to use them all the time it would be a better situation. Also I really should plot my chart as I have really chronic PMT now I am no longer on the pill and at least if I could predict when it was coming I could probably manage it better and not be so horrible to my family! So will look into that book, sounds good. susypx

another vote for oatmilk, my daughter is on neocate but at nearly 4 I am not sure how long we will continue to be prescribed it so have been looking around for another option - she will have oatmilk on her cereal although normally has neocate. But it's definitely the most palatable alternative option! I hadn't thought of using it in cooking as an alternative to milk (doh!), good plan! Also I had never tried her on goats milk because she is so allergic to cows milk, I tried her on sheeps cheese( feta) and she was ok but got one spot around her mouth so i stoppd it - but since then have tried goats milk in cooking and she has been fine, so it does seem to be different in make up. However I can't find a goats milk source - yoghurt etc - that doesn't just taste very goaty - she doesn't like goats cheese - and everything just tastes like goats cheese!! She now eats broccoli daily and that has calcium in. Also we get oj fortfied with calcium. susypx

My daughter was a NIGHTMARE at 2 (fine now at nearly 4 and has been for about a year) so I sympathise. I have def noticed that the children who speak earlier and communicate better generally can have social issues when they are young, having often chatted to mums who have kids who are behaving v badly around other kids - because I sympathise!! My daughter used to get children who wouldn't interact with her in a headlock and force them to the ground. Horrendous. Now that all her peers chat quite a lot she is fine. And she is older. But i hated it when she was a little monster. Def noticed throughout her childhood so far that periods of bad behaviour coincide with boredom. So even though she is a July baby I am def sending her full time to school next year - bring on the challenges! susypx

I requested morning but got afternoons this year. Pluses of afternoons is that you don't have to schedule much on lazy days, and playdates work well as only a couple of hours then lunch then off to school together. Mums from the morning class say it can be a challenge filling the afternoon with a tired child. But at the same time I have felt that if I had the afternoons free we could disappear off to nice places or even into town. But if you have a younger one you might not want to do that anyway! But it does work well in the afternoons, she can work off a bit of her energy in the playground first so I think perhaps concentrates better becaause of it. susypx

That's brilliant that you said something. Love that phrase too. Susypx

that blog is AMAZING. Thank you for posting about it. It could change my life! susypx

Think I have mentioned before on here a couple of websites with cheap arty stuff so apologies if so - - crafty crocodiles and yellow moon. I try and keep a stock of sticky things etc which work well for playdates for making pictures. susypx

I agree with DaveR. It's unacceptable that young children can't eat their own food. The chances of you having something that my daughter a) can eat (milk allergic) and b) would eat, are minimal, however we do frequently go out for lunch and I would buy lunch while she eats her own and perhaps has a bought drink. Maybe you should have a policy that over 5s have to have bought food, letting the younger children do their own thing (as long as their mothers buy lunch for themselves perhaps). I simply would not go to a cafe that had the policy you adhere to. Susypx ps Also my mum has multiple allergies and I have to say I would go bananas at an establishment that did not allow her to eat her own food while myself and my father, for example, ate bought food. It is isolating enough having an allergy without actually being isolated! pps Also mens I don't know how old your daughter is but surely she will soon understand her allergy? I know your situation is far worse than mine, but my daughter always asks me before eating anything she hasn't had before. Her school doesn't allow nuts of any form in school either and of course that is eminently sensible, people that freak out about not being allowed peanut butter sandwiches are not even worth bothering with! (and it's also my daughter's favourite sandwich so I have had to explain to her that at picnics etc she can't offer bits to her friends without asking their mums first - easier thing to explain to someone who has their own allergy I know).

When I tried my daughter at 2 I have to say there were about 20 that were absolutely fine straight off and about 5 that weren't (including my daughter) - and even then I think the other 4 stuck at it and became fine. Just depends what you want to do really. It would be fine at 2 even if you had some difficulties initially , I just couldn't swallow the pill initially - and was glad I did this when she waltzed in to her school nursery at 3 with no problems. No right or wrong - just do what you want to do I think - he won't miss out not going at 2, plenty of time! Susypx

My experience with my daughter was that 2 was too young, and 3 was seamless.... (but lots of 2 year olds started when she did at 2 and were fine). Horses for courses... Susypx

For those reading with just one, I just wanted to post on the benefits of one - and stick up for the onlys!!! (more is good of course , i think each number has it's own benefits!)> I have one, not through choice, but now that she is 4 I am beginning to see the benefits of it. For example, now in the playground I can often sit down and chat or just chill while parents of my daughter's friends race around after their younger siblings! I did get in a situation where I was often helping said parents chase around and recently I have thought - hang on - if I am to only have one I will take these benefits - so I don't tend to help out those with a zillion kids anymore! I am really enjoying the one on one time I get with my daughter, shopping, playing, cooking, day trips etc. A friend with 3 was discussing this with me and saying she finds it really hard to do that with any of her children. I am looking forward to organising playdates for my daughter without having to balance it around other kids timetables etc. And soon, we are looking forward to travelling again after a 4 year hiatus. Not sure having one is cheaper than 2 but we do have plenty of space because of it and I really am not sure I could cope with a new influx of toys!! Just a little aside posting! Susypx

-3 months after I finished chemo - when I was proudly sporting my new-v.short-barely-there-but-at-least-coming-back hair - a lady came up to me and asked if I had just had chemo and then told me she was a year on from on it and how much better she felt. It was a very brave thing to do and it massively helped me, I still think about her often. I want to try and do the same but am never quite sure if someone has short hair because of chemo or not, i guess it;s like the are they pregnant or not thing! susypx

i find that unbelievable, I always bring my daughter her own lunch as she can;t eat much in cafes due to an allergy and also it's very rare that what is on offer is that healthy. i def think you should name and shame - the beauty of this forum is so that you can do just that! susypx

hi i've not been to london zoo with my 4 year old yet but second the battersea zoo recommendations - went there yesterday and it was fantastic (esp the meerkat tunnel), just enough animals to keep her interest, feeding times are good with nice people talking to the children about the animals (my little girl asked why the monkeys weren't having bananas and got a proper answer) , wasn't busy even on a bank holiday - and the playground is fantastic. One of the best days out we've had. Susypx

Thanks Yak for mentioning Battersea Zoo - my daughter and I went this morning for the first time and had a lovely time! susypx

agree with saffron about science having long recognised the effects of stress - when i was v ill a few years ago it was one of the first things that one of my doctors said to me as a possible trigger - However often there are no obvious reasons why someone gets ill and someone else doesn't and a lot of it is probably down to different genes, which have not all yet been discovered. You don't know what genes you have however and so if you are offered a vaccine it would always be wise to take it. And I don't see how you protecting yourself from stress helps your children not get measles. susypx

er ... why are there so few cases.... we live in a society, it is not a cult of the individual, vaccination is a responsible and a considerate action to take for the entirety of society. It is not all about your individual child. susyp