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It's not thrush, I think it is bacterial - looking online - when she had it very badly the first time the discharge was yellowy/green and I think thrush is more cottage cheesy.......! She hasn;t had a discharge since hte first time as I am quite quick at noticing - so there wouldnt be anything to take a swab of? I check her nightly now. She has a red ring around her vulva. Each time she has had a stomach ache for about a week beforehand, which doesn't really come up very often on the sites I have read about it, but I have found it a couple of times. It stung once this week when she weed - but again I do wonder whether her wee is so strong due to not going all day. I will see the doctor, but just want to give it a couple of days perhaps to see if ditching the bubbles and trying vinegar instead gets rid of it. They keep saying it's a hygiene thing but I have been watching her and her wiping seems fine to me. So maybe it's a bubbles thing. Apparently oestrogen levels are lowest between 3-8? Happy to report she is much better at the doctors now - I posted before about the horrendous experience i had the first time I took her when they had to examine her down below! Also noticed on cbeebies there is a doctors show starting on monday at 4pm - we shall be glued to the set! susypx

With both of these - I am considering using them this winter in extreme cold/cough situations with my 4 1/2 year old - is that completely irresponsible - if i gave her a half dose? Am I right in thinking it's the sedative anti histamine that is the reason the age was raised to 6 years. She already has piriton fairly frequently (as in every 3/4 months perhaps) due to allergies. My reasoning is that often gets such bad coughs that she is up for night after night so I really think she needs something to help her sleep when she gets a cough like this? Just mulling it over when I read this thread. Susypx

I've just noticed that my daughter seems to have an infection down below for the third time since late July. The last two times we have been to the doctor they have said to put on cream + given antibiotics. The antibiotics need to be taken for 2+ weeks, 4 times a day (an hour before food which I have found impossible but may be easier with school routine), taste horrible though. I was really worried why this had come back again - this time she is just a little red, and a little smelly, no pain or discharge - I looked it up and read that some sites said it could be home treated by not using bubble baths and putting half a cup of white vinegar into a bath instead. I was going to give her a bath first thing tomorrow like this and then again before bed - and then see how she is on Monday morning before deciding whether to go to the doctor (who will no doubt prescribe another round of antibiotics). Also she is still wearing nappies at night which are very wet in the morning- should I perhaps be bathing her in the morning before school as well? She barely drinks anything and can go the entire day until around 5pm (as I force her to drink lots after school) without weeing - could this be another cause? any advice from parents who have encountered this would be very gratefully received - it's only been 2 weeks since we stopped the last round of antibiotics. thank you Susypx

When I was 14 I started just having a diet coke all day at school and used to keep the money my mum gave me for lunch - one day she found it in my school blazer and went nuts and was v scary - made me eat a plate of ham sandwiches! That put paid to that! Just mentioning as I definetely think that stopped me going down the anorexia route. I would never think that yelling at teenage girl over diet issues would work but sometimes it can just be a fashion as well as desire to be thin susypx

Thanks for kind words - well I've got through the day - and my daughter has come out happy as larry so I can't really hope for anything better. I'm going to try and make myself do something every morning, be it swimming or shopping, just to get over the initial sense of sadness, then I should be ok in the afternoons. susypx

Hi all, I may just be having a bad week, but I wondered if any other SAHM's had found themselves feeling very depressed when their little ones start school? My daughter has settled really well, made lots of friends and doesn't cry etc so I have nothing to be upset about. But I just feel so miserable. It doesn't help that she is such a nightmare out of school, which I know is just because she is tired and a little unsettled within herself, all completely normal, but I am just finding it so difficult to cope with as I miss her so much and then when she comes home and at weekends she is a little devil! Basically she is not doing anything I ask, and then I end up losing my temper with her and we get in this stupid vicious circle. Just now I left her after telling her off as she had been playing on all the wet playground equipment when I had told her not to and of course fell off and hurt herself. I know she is the child and I have to be an adult but I am feeling completely unable to cope. I think part of it is that I don't have a job yet and so I've kind of lost my purpose. I've just drawn up a weekly schedule for myself which involves lots of exercise and I am volunteering at a charity one day a week. But I can't sleep properly so i am exhausted and don;t feel like doing exercise and it's just making everything worse. I am sure I am not the only one to have gone through this so any wise words from forumites would be very gratefully received. I know in time we will both settle time but at the moment I know I am not supporting her properly. It seem so silly as I thought life would be so easy when she went to school! susypx

I think it can be a slight advantage being younger with regard to the staggered starts - my daughter did 7 1/2 days before she went full time - whereas the autumn/winter born children only did 2 - and I think while the full day was a shock for them all - it was definitely harder for the ones who hadn't had as many half days. susypx

My daughter has just started Reception and she is mid July born. I think that JessM has a lot of very good advice in her posting. I am not so worried about her being behind but definitely I have noticed a big jump from nursery to Reception in terms of how much responsibility etc they are taking. I posted before in a different thread about how they were left alone at lunch and she got lost on her way back to her classroom. I raised this at at meeting yesterday and they did do lunch quite differently. But it also demonstrates quite well how important Reception is as a transition point. At nursery stage there is no way this would have happened. In the future they will be finding their own way back to the classroom etc, what I tried to change was that they didn't have to do this on day 1 of going to the school hall for lunch! It's also very different in that I now have to leave her at the classroom gate - in nursery I used to go and in and get her settled at an activity before leaving. I do think it is quite important to go to Reception and I have definitely heard from teachers and parents in Year 1 that there is very little "play" based learning, in fact the children in one class requested some toys as they were missing them so much. susypx

Also my daughter is super proud that she asked for help when she got lost. She said excuse me and everything! But I don;t really like the idea of her wandering around not knowing where she is! And i definitely don;t like her eating alone as she does still choke and also has an (not dangerous) allergy - it's not a problem if she eats cheese or whatever but it does help if I know about it so I can treat her before bedtime or she wakes up with chronic wind. susypx

Yes agreed. I was just going to ask what the arrangements were, and say that I got the impression from my daughter that they were not supervised either in the hall or on their return journey. I'll be too intimidated in front of 300+ parents to get cross about it!! LUckily my friend who's son cried is also going to ask so I know I will have some back up (or vice versa). And if it did happen like that I can't be the only parent who's heard about it. Susypx

thank you for all the advice. She is so tired it is v hard to work out what is going on but definitely there was no adult sitting with her. I think the reception classes were spread over several tables but she said that they were not all near each other - so even if the teachers were sitting with the other children they were not near to the table my daughter was on. And she was not sitting with my friend's son who by all accounts bawled all the way through lunch as he couldnt open his favourite cereal bar -so clearly he didn't have a teacher on his table either. I always have to check I am being reasonable before reacting as I HATED school so have to make sure I don't bring my preconceptions when dealing with teachers!! susypx

She's not that bothered about being last I don;t think - a bit sad - but not overly upset! I also found out they are making them eat all their lunch before letting them go - so I put a note in today for her to show to say that she didn't have to if she was full! susypx

She was definitely eating on her own for a time - I think that there was one TA working across all the reception tables - so I assume supervised to some extent - but another friend's child was in tears the whole lunch as there was no-one to open his cereal bar - she is pretty upset of course - so it's a bit of a mixed picture. But my daughter is quite clear that everyone went back to the classroom as they finished and that she was on her own trying to find her way and had to ask bigger children who then took her there. Ok will ask at the meeting tomorrow - feel that I may as well raise it in front of all the parents so that we can pin down exactly what did happen and what should be happening. susyp

Togz are very good susypx

I know I sound (am being) quite neurotic about this whole lunch thing now that my daughter has started school - but today the reception year in my daughter's school went to the school hall for the first time for their lunch - and for a period they were definitely left alone to eat their lunches(aside from the normal canteen assistants) - and my daughter (who always finishes her lunch last) was on her own and then got lost trying to find her classroom and had to ask the way. We have a reception meeting with the staff tomorrow - was going to ask what is the policy over lunch - but I have no idea what is usual. Does this experience sound right? Just seems a bit harsh for a 4 year old to be left alone eating her lunch in a school hall and then to be left to find her own way back to her classroom?! susypx

It sounds very daunting when they are first diagnosed, and you definitely have to do a lot more cooking - but actually it becomes second nature pretty soon (I have a 4 year old who is dairy and soya allergic). Sometimes we use oat milk in cooking but most things are without - lots of tomato based recipies! We make cakes using Pure Sunflower Marg. She has Cheerios every morning with her formula (neocate) on top. But actually would probably be ok with oatmilk. She is not so keen on drinking neocate now so after school I give her (high sugar !) chocolate nesquik with oatmilk just to help with the calcium intake. She has calcium fortified OJ. At school they often give out chocolate/cakes for a child's birthday but the teacher always has subsitute sweets for my daughter. I think I explained it to her when she was 2 and that made it a lot easier. She has pizza with no cheese, it's not a problem when we are out. But actually most recipies don't have dairy in so it's not too bad - we just don't have macaroni cheese any more!! Look for tomato based dishes - they seem to work the best . Susypx

I'll ask about peanut butter perhaps - would do it as not concerned about being told off but would be concerned if a child had a massive reaction to it - my daughter does have a habit of sharing her food about! susypx

We have this problem and tried joyrides to great success on a recent long journey. That and a dvd player for distraction! I know he is too young but maybe the pharmacy will suggest half a tablet or something - maybe worth asking? I know plenty of people who have been prescribed sedatives for their children on long plane journeys so there must be something to help with long car journeys! susypx

lots of good ideas here thank you! does a whole boiled egg smell less than egg mayo?! I was just thinking about giving that to her a few times a week as her after school snack - yes she likes that. And she loves sausage rolls. and v good plan re breadsticks and rice cakes so not crisps every day - will def do that I think! so: sandwiches / occasional sausage roll fruit (apple/grapes) crisps or breadsticks or rice cakes could also add a box of raisins or a yo yo thing if she eats all above but i think the above is probably enough. was going to give her a juice carton. She only has water at school at snack time as can't have milk and drinks v little of it - so was going to go for fruit juice at lunch. she only has a tiny bit in the morning as never seems to be that thirsty first thing. constantly dehydrated as i can't get her to drink enough. i might get her to help make her sandwiches once we are in the swing of it then hopefully can move on to things like tuna mayo etc - once I know she is settled. I still remember her biting at nursery as she was hungry so really want to make sure she is full this time around!! brilliant - off to do my ocado shop now! thanks. susypx

little miss fussy would probably eat a roll instead of bread occasionally but definitely no to cold pasta. She is a recent convert to rice but doesn't like it mixed with anything! She can't have yoghurt and the like cos of dairy allergy. I like crisps for packed lunches as I know it helps fill her up! She is pretty good with fruit. They have carrots often at snack time and again she takes forever to eat it - good thing in front of tv though! Not going for the cooked meals as of allergy may be a bit limited also hates potato and so many things have potato in them. I have some little boxes that go inside her lunch bag so things don't seem to get squashed - we've been practicing over the summer! Ham and jam it is then. Shame about egg because eggs are important for her with her allergy - tons of iron. I may try and give her an egg at breakfast perhaps. suspx

We got all the Trumpton dvds when my daughter was 2 - they are brilliant! susypx

My daughter has just started in reception and from next monday goes full time. She is pretty fussy, and also dairy allergic. Her favourite sandwich filling is peanut butter but obviously she can't have that at school. She will definitely eat sandwiches made of ham, sausage, egg and jam. She'll eat tuna mayo under duress but I don't really want to give her something she might not eat during her first few weeks, I am concerned over how hungry she is going to get! Is egg mayo ok - it gets quite smelly and I am worried the other children will make fun of her - and also does jam fill them up enough with it not being protein?? Without those two it leaves us just with variations of pork which she loves but I am not keen on her having every day. Oh and she loves smoked salmon - is that ok for school or will the teacher think it's a bit odd for a 4 year old? She might eat sliced chicken but it's just as processed as ham so doesn't seem much point when she prefers ham. Roast chicken pieces leave me with the same dilemma as tuna- they are unlikely to be eaten unless I force her! Apart from that I was going to give her fruit (slices of apple, or strawberries, mango etc) and a small box of crisps (half a packet) and maybe a yo yo fruit packet. Does that sound ok. Any advice on successful packed lunches gratefully received!! susypx

Snow White isn't too bad - there is one scary scene but it didn't really scare my daughter. She has been more scared by sleeping beauty and tangled and beauty and the beast - though fine after one run through holding my hand! I wanted to take her to see Brave but then realised it was PG - lots of her friends have been but I';m not too comfortable taking her to a PG . susypx

a friend has a daughter called Cecily which I like. dont go for lily - lovely but there are millions of them around in preschool! suspx

my daughter threw herself out of hers day 1 several years ago now - I'm amazed it's taken them this long to recall! susypx