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El Pibe Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- a gentrification process > that I was obviously a part of in some small way. xxxxxxxx Oh God that's worrying. I moved here in 1991 (AAARRRGGGHHH) because it was near woods and parks :)) Oh, and I could afford a small but three (well, two and a half) bed terraced house instead of a tiny one bed flat in Highgate, and my then OH wanted an office. Some years later, I was told by a neighbour (in jest) "We knew when you moved in it was the beginning of the end - as soon as you put those window boxes out the front". :)) :)) :))

Sew East Dulwich was clearly trying to cash in (I don't mean that in a negative way) on the current sewing/knitting/craft/"upcycling" trend. Unfortunately (but understandably given the ED demographic) it was pitched at those people with enough money to buy expensive materials, and I guess there just weren't enough of them around who were into sewing etc. It's a bit of a strange thing really - a supposedly austerity-driven trend which attracts better-off people to spend a lot of money on making something for themself which they could afford to buy ready made. I know it's supposed to be about creative satisfaction, but often there is very little creativity involved. Anyway, I digress .... Another thing, it was a brave move to devote a whole shop to this, given that many people buy sewing and knitting materials on the internet, where there is huge choice at reasonable prices. I'm sorry Sew East Dulwich failed, not least because I thought it was a great name, but also not surprised, sadly. Please God it becomes neither Starbucks nor Jack Wills :( ETA: Though I would have thought the space wasn't big enough for either.

Apologies if this is a really stupid question. But have you tried to talk calmly about these issues with her at a time when she is not behaving in this way? Or, have you written out a list of the things which are upsetting you and which you would like to discuss with her, and suggest you meet over a cup of tea to try to resolve them? Of course she might completely ignore your attempts at reconciliation, but you'd hopefully be no worse off, and at least you'd know you had done everything possible to try to sort things out before going through all the hassle of moving out. ETA: And re her garden - hadn't you previously said that she had been discussing the weeds with her boyfriend? So it's not really strange that now she's done something about them? I think it's easy to misinterpret the reasons for people's actions, which is why - if possible - it would be great to sit down calmly with her and talk about things. Who knows what strange/wrong ideas she may have about why you have been behaving as you have been?

LadyDeliah Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > In light of the above, Sue, do you mind editing > your post to reflect the fact the cyclist was > legitimately cycling on a cycle path (admittedly > not easy to see) and your OH wandered into said > cycle path. > > Clearly the cyclist is a nob for not stopping > after colliding with him, but I know how > frustrating it is cycling through there with > pedestrians stepping in front of you all the time > or walking along the path with headphones on not > listening to requests to get out of the way. xxxxxxx As I wasn't with my OH when it happened, I don't know whether or not the cyclist was on the "legitimate cycle path" . I will ask my OH which half of the pavement it happened on, and if my OH was walking in the "wrong place" then yes I will amend my post. He said the cyclist came "hurtling round the corner" and was clearly going too fast to stop - assuming he was actually looking where he was going.

intexasatthe moment Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Thanks Help-Ma-Boab . > > Sue - have you checked them out ? they look like a > headband .. xxxxxxxx No, ashamed to say I haven't .... blush. ETA: OK, have now. Good idea, but I'd have to get an MP3 player as well ..... then I'd lie awake worrying I was going to be strangled by the cord :))

bawdy-nan Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Sorry to hear that sue. Rye lane is shared use in > part (from pulse end to primark bit). There's a > marked division but its not very clear. Especially > for pedestrians I think. Safe cycling use is > basically pootling speed. xxxxxx Apparently this was on the pavement near Holland and Barrett, so yes from what you say that could have been in a "shared" bit of Rye Lane, but do you mean the pavement is shared along this section between pedestrians and cyclists? Why can the cyclists not use the road? The cyclist in question did not bother to stop, or apologise, and all my OH saw was the back of him as he sped away whilst OH picked himself up cursing :(

Help-Ma-Boab Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Don't think so. They were a present and bought via > Amazon apparently. My upstairs are not too loud > but these just stop me getting fixated with their > footsteps/tv while I drift off. Been good for me. > > http://www.amazon.co.uk/s/?ie=UTF8&keywords=sleep+ > phones&tag=googhydr-21&index=aps&hvadid=3318353315 > 0&hvpos=1t1&hvexid=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=21365587321593 > 969630&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=b&hvdev=t&ref=pd_sl_8 > 23ws2l34f_b > xxxxxxx I have a white noise option on my Lumie alarm clock, which I have recently had to start having on permanently all night due to a neighbour's very noisy and apparently faulty boiler going on and off at frequent intervals - sometimes every thirty seconds for an hour or more at a time. I can still hear the boiler firing above the white noise, but it isn't quite so intrusive as it was, and at least I've been able to get some sleep - and not been woken up in the middle of the night by the boiler coming on :( Might be worth trying something similar? I don't think I could sleep in headphones .....

My OH was hit from behind and knocked to the ground yesterday afternoon by a cyclist cycling at speed on the pavement in Rye Lane. Luckily he was not hurt.

pinxin Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > More info: > http://adf.ly/UqlO2 xxxxx Don't click on that link anyone. I wish I hadn't and am about to report it. It's completely irrelevant to the thread. Just hope I haven't caught a virus or if I have I hope my virust catcher catches it :(

There is a mediation service in Southwark. Any use? http://www.southwarkmediation.co.uk/ I agree - keep a detailed diary of every incident. But you are lucky - you are renting. I agree, in the end moving may be the least stressful option for you.

Jeremy Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Beer prices - reminds me of the draft house > argument, people say it's too expensive but there > ARE some reasonably prices beers if you look > properly. Are the prices up on a blackboard? xxxxxx At present the prices are on print-outs around the pub including at the bar. Too many on offer to put on a blackboard, I should think! It would have to be a very large blackboard! It's a Free House. The first few times I got a round in I did a double take - most inexpensive rounds I've bought round here since I can remember. But then I don't drink the more esoteric bottled craft beers, for which there is obviously a premium anywhere you buy them.

Kingy Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > the goose is not the ivy house - the goose is the > goose > people are not going to be happy paying those beer > prices on top of an entry fee - if it was free > entertainment and the pub were paying the act then > people wouldn't mind paying a premium on the beer > prices but it's a back street boozer and it has > high street prices at the moment > xxxxxxx Of course The Goose is not The Ivy House - however, it was being said that people would not come to the Ivy House for music because of its location - I am saying that they will. And have done in the past. And are doing now. As regards beer prices, the fact is, that people ARE happy paying "those beer prices" on top of an entry fee. I am not in "argumentative mode", I am stating facts! The newly reopened Ivy House has a wide selection of excellent ales. Some of those are under three quid a pint, including the excellent Truman's Runner. What is this "premium" you claim they are putting on beer prices? Here's their sample menu: http://www.ivyhousenunhead.com/docs/beermenu.pdf Are you saying those prices are more expensive than other pubs round here? Are you comparing like for like? Many places in London that put on bands, they have you over a barrel and you have to pay at least four quid for a tiny bottle of some weak lager which is gone in a gulp. And yes, that's after you've paid for your ticket. Returning to the subject of the thread, a year or so back some students (I think it was) attempted to start a regular night at The Vale (I think it was before its ill-fated Cherry Tree incarnation) for putting on young local bands. It died a death. Possibly it wasn't sufficiently well promoted, but more likely the demographic of East Dulwich was not suited to that kind of night, and young people are sufficiently well catered for elsewhere without needing to travel to East Dulwich for live music.

Kingy Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > lower the beer prices - you really really are in > argumentative mode Sue (just for a change :-))- > the goose is not the ivy house - the goose is the > goose > people are not going to be happy paying those beer > prices on top of an entry fee - if it was free > entertainment and the pub were paying the act then > people wouldn't mind paying a premium on the beer > prices but it's a back street boozer and it has > high street prices at the moment > > and I beg to differ with your reasoning of not > charging p eople to play - it's wrong full stop Xxxxxt As already pointed out to you on another thread the Ivy House has some excellent ales at under three quid a pint. How cheap do you want it?! Edited to remove strange layout (because original post was made on my phone :)) )

Kingy Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > > The Ivy House will have to lower their prices to > get people in, I'm not that price sensitive myself > but nearly everybody I know that props up bars is > and Hank Dog certainly did charge performers back > at the Nun's Head when he was there - I think it > was ?5 for audience and ?3 for players xxxxxxx Re Hankdog, that's not charging people to perform, it's charging them entry to the gig. And a reduced rate entry in recognition of the fact that they are performing. As a large proportion of his audience were performers, that's fair enough. People running open mic nights all do that, to the best of my knowledge. The pub weren't paying him to put the night on, so how else is he going to cover his costs? We used to do that at our club nights when we started. We gave floorsingers a concession. We don't any more - they are still happy to come and sing. We have to cover the headliner's fee. Re The Ivy House, why would they have to "lower their prices to get people in"? What prices? Our current concert ticket prices vary depending on who the headliner is, and for our Ivy House concert in September they were ?12 advance (?8 concessions). We have sold out and in fact are looking to rebook the headliners for 2014 because we had so many disappointed people wanting seats. Far from looking to "lower our prices", in some cases we think we have to raise them. You have to cover the headliner's fee, for goodness' sake! Jeremy, I sympathise, but yes it's hard when you start out. You have to put yourself about I guess and slowly build up a fan base. We had somebody come to sing at our Singaround on Sunday who had come up specially from Pulborough in West Sussex. He was really excellent and we will give him a "proper" gig at some point. Then more people will hear him and look out for his name in future - and so it goes .....

Jeremy Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > > Ivy House is a nice place (although not been there > since the re-opening) but the obscure location > means it is destined to be more of a local than a > destination. xxxxxxx It was a destination music venue in its "glory days". And the Goose had three sell-out music gigs there in the year before it closed, plus we have another one this month which has sold out. A glance at the ticket list for that forthcoming night shows bookings from all over South London, not just SE15 and SE22, plus some from other places. We've had people come from as far afield as Nottingham and Brighton in the past to see particular artists, and once somebody came over specially from Ireland! An obscure location is no hindrance to people travelling to it to see bands, provided the band has fans - or also if the venue/promoter get a reputation for putting on good nights. ETA: Of course, there's a difference between a band having a ticketed gig in a separate space, and a band playing in the main bar. In the latter, I agree, the music has usually got to be quite "safe".

rahrahrah Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > The castle has some occasional cover bands. Is a > great space for live music with a little stage at > the back. Shame they don't have better bands. > Anyone looking to set something up, I would > recommend checking it out as a possible location. xxxxxx They weren't keen when we tried. If memory serves, they said they had enough customers without us bringing more people down to clog up the bar, or words to that effect :( Maybe the situation might be different Monday to Thursday though.

GroveLaneMan Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > The Ivy House over on Stanley Rd is trying to set > something up for local bands ! xxxxxxx The Ivy House is on Stuart Road, not Stanley Road! http://www.ivyhousenunhead.com/ As far as young bands looking for gigs in East Dulwich goes - great. But there are very few suitable venues for them, let alone a demographic which lends itself to an audience for those gigs (preponderance of parents with young children). The Ivy House is an iconic pub with a great musical heritage, a purpose built stage, proper lighting and a great new sound system. It used to be a "destination venue" for music, and hopefully it will be again, fingers crossed.

tommo Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > yeah I heard about it - but someone said he > charges people to play xxxxxxx I'd be absolutely amazed if he charged anybody to play. I've heard some excellent stuff at some of Hankdog's nights in the past.

tommo Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Thanks - but still really nothing in Dulwich > itself - how sad > xxxxxx Depending on where you are starting from, The Ivy House and The Old Nun's Head are not long walks from East Dulwich - maybe fifteen or twenty minutes from the North Cross Road area. The EDT does sometimes have good music, eg The John McClean Band were on there downstairs not so long ago.

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Once things at The Ivy House have settled in, there will be live bands there. We have a gig there on 27 September, but it has been sold out for some time and anyway if you aren't keen on traditional folk you probably wouldn't like that particular night ..... We do however put on quite a wide range of stuff, including blues and acoustic, if you like people like Wizz Jones. It's not all finger-in-the-ear! You can check out our website at http://www.thegooseisout.com and see if anything appeals to you. We also put on monthly gigs upstairs at The Old Nun's Head, plus a monthly Singaround (not an open mic - we don't use the PA or the stage on those nights).

Got my copy through the door. The ?3.95 price on it is obviously just supposed to make you think it's worth something, as quite clearly it's a free mag which nobody in their right mind would pay twopence for, let alone nearly four quid. At least half of the magazine consists of estate agents' stuff, including houses in SW2, and what reviews of "Crystal Palace's newest fish restaurant" and The Lido Cafe in Brockwell Park have to do with Dulwich, God knows. Oh, and the "What's on in September" section has exactly five things in it which appear to be in Dulwich, the rest being in places like Brockley, Forest Hill and West Norwood. Absolutely Not Dulwich, then. "Stylish. Intelligent. Elegant. Absolutely" it says at the bottom of the front cover. In my experience, anything described as "stylish" is usually anything but, and this crock of s***e hasn't caused me to change my mind :)) My next copy will go straight in the recycling bin without a second glance.

If they had had a "big launch", they would not have been able to accommodate everybody who wanted to go. At the meeting there earlier in the year to discuss their plans, many people could not even get into the pub and were spilling into the street. I was up there on Tuesday night and I have never seen the place so busy on a weekday night. It was great.

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