sillywoman

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Phew! Wasn't me. Thanks for your kind reply ryanj. I do think you should consider following it up through NCT Head Office as we're quite strictly trained. I know it's a pain but if experiences like yours go unchecked then it impacts on people's view of the NCT as a professional whole. Inclusiveness & accurate & up to date information that can be backed up by research where possible are two of the cornerstones of our practice. Clearly this isn't what you experienced so maybe one of our teachers needs some help or extra study days, or temporary supervision or something?

Curries a great option as will help with the 'not getting constipated' side of things, also fresh fruit & veg is helpful. Make sure you have a permanently full water jug (something visitors can do for you), the big pants are an essential, also might want to consider some kind of post birth vitamin supplement (does Pregnacare do one?) to aid recovery, but really can't emphasise enough how important rest is. Really make sure you have plenty of helpful visitors (you'll quickly discover the difference between helpful & not helpful) doing as much as possible for you so that all you're doing is recovering, eating & feeding your baby. Re: blood in the showers. Kings work hard to keep them as clean as possible, but with a possible 30+ post birth women on the ward all with a lochia discharge, short of having a permanent shower/loo attendant they are very limited with what they can do. If there is blood in the shower/ loo tell a midwife at the desk & she'll clean it up or find someone else to do it. If they don't know, they can't do anything about it. Good luck, you really are in very good hands.

Actually I do recall going to some event at the old EDH organised for local residents where they showed us a lovely glossy brochure and a model of how the 'new' wing of the hospital would look (to be built on the site of the now demolished & lamented 'onion' towers). It was to function as a physiotherapy unit plus a few other things I think? It does rather seem as though the project has been badly mismanaged if this is not now going to happen & we're to be left with a building site imperpetuity.

OMG, really hoping It wasn't my classes that you had such a bad experience of. Have PM'd you to check & offer to follow up on your feedback if it was me. :(

Is it true that it's not legal for an Au-Pair to have sole charge of under 2's - or is it another urban myth?

This might be helpful?

Ah Keef, you don't know what you've missed!;-) Edited to say; & I'm not really scary - I would've looked after you well. Promise!

Well there's a couple of youth clubs that I know of, both quite popular. One is at St Barnabas, & the other is in the Sea-Scout hut in Greendale, both on a Friday. Also, my neighbour tells me that when they reach year 10/11 then the cool place to hang out is the shed at the bottom of the Alleyns grounds. These are kids from Charter, Alleyns, DC, Jags & Kingsdale apparently - they hang out & do disgusting stuff which as parents it probably better we don't know about! Mine are 12 & 14, 14 year old (girl) spends a lot of time at friends houses, or in our attic room with her friends - it's a bit like a nomadic tribe. In the summer they tend to hang out in the parks, on a Saturday they might 'do' Bromley, or the South bank or just cruise the shops on Lordship lane & dream. 12yr old (boy), still into Scouts (hooray!), also hangs out at friends houses - mainly in front of screens it must be said. My girl not at all interested in schlepping over to Clapham to cruise the shops - I don't think it's crossed her mind. Maybe that's to come? For now, Bromley & LL serve all her needs.

apenn Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > > Regarding breasfeeding cafes, there is also one on > Barry Rd on Mondays (never been). Here's a link > to the breasfeeding support sheet I received from > my workshop at Kings with details for all the > local cafes and helpline numbers: > > http://www.southwarkpct.nhs.uk/documents/5333.pdf > > And looks like all the same info on the NCT > website: > http://www.nctpregnancyandbabycare.com/in-your-are > a/southwark/slbfeed/support > > Best, > -A I think that the Barry Rd Breastfeeding cafe no longer exists, or rather it does but not at Barry Rd. I think it's now at the Townley rd clinic, & I have a feeling it's on a Weds morning now rather than a Monday - but I could be wrong about that.

Oh Ruth, have you sought help from the women at the breastfeeding cafe's? The one in Peckham Library (Thursday mornings?) is excellent so I've heard, also the one in Deptford Creek (Tuesdays?), they have breastfeeding counsellors & 'lactation consultants and all sorts of feeding professionals. It's so frightening when your baby loses weight, & can be so disheartening when they put it all back on with formula. But all is not lost - if baby Baldock's weight is at an acceptable level for the health professionals, then you can start increasing the amount of breastfeeds again & decreasing the amount of formula feeds proportionally. My neighbour (for other health reasons) breastfed her baby for 18 months, but he had one bottle of formula every day. It's just the way it worked best for them. Don't despair, don't give up - seek good professional help. Do it now!

Ruskin Park & Sydenham Wells are lovely, but it would be so much better to have one we could walk to. One of 'our own' In fact maybe we could have two - one for toddlers, one for big kids who can get a little 'over enthusiastic' and scare the little ones with their running & shouting to each other? Just dreaming of course . . . . Also loved the small independent cinema suggestion, maybe it could double up as a small theatre too. Thinking along the lines of whachama-callit in Wimbledon.

A free sport centre with a fab climbing wall, & trampolining, and other really great sports. And a M&S - a big one, with clothes (all that great school uniform + no need to think about what's for dinner).

helena handbasket Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > If you have ever had a job > as an adult where you never really knew what you > were supposed to be doing and always felt a bit > like you were failing to meet the expectations of > that job you will know what it feels like. > > Isn't that called parenthood?!

Fanny-Ann (courtesy of my Granny), Fanjo or much more usually - Vagina. (No surprises there!) Never heard of Minky though, too close to 'Monkey' for my liking. Nooooooooooo! HH, your post made me laugh out loud - I seem to spend my whole life saying "don't say 'bum' say 'bottom'" to my kids. It's become something of a family catchphrase over the years. I can just see their faces if I started to call a vagina "front-bum", I might just try it just to see the look on their faces!

In my line of work i've had to learn to say 'vagina' many times a day without thinking twice about it, however sometimes I forget that not everyone uses it as a common part of their day-to-day language, and say it at times when a euphemism may have been more acceptable - as my 14year old daughter (and maybe some of the couples in my classes?) will no doubt testify!

Just polled Mr S, 4 children 6, 9, 12 & 14, his responses were: Question 1 - what would be your ideal Fathers Day / random treat? His initial response was unsuitable for a public forum,::o followed by "a lie-in & people being nice to me all day" Question 2 - what do you reckon is the hardest thing about being a Dad? "The exhaustion" Question 3 - do you feel, in general, that you play / will play the role of stricter parent? "Yes", but when questioned closely recalled that when the children were younger (oldest ones 6 or 7ish) that actually I was the disciplinarian and he was 'fun Daddy' it caused some problems for a short while. As they've got older our roles have reversed somewhat, and sometimes that causes problems too.

Yup, "usually by the 3rd day I wanna dance". " in white spandex". That describes my period to a T. ;-) How good though to see some-one finally trying to put irony on American TV. Actually maybe that's why the networks refused it. They jsut couldn't get to grips with the 'irony'?!

Errr NCT classes are a start (quick shameless plug!).:)

Mmmm muscles mmmmm. Stop it, stop it now!

Keef Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > > So do you all see what the majority say on here > (via sonar), then decide on what is morally right, > based on what everyone else thinks? ;-) Of course - is ma posse innit!;-)

But Keef, we're girls, this is what we do; chit-chat, exchanging views on who said what & how we feel about it, that's how we get on in our lives and learn things. Think dolphins using sonar to get a bearing on their position. It's the same as that. We use sharing personal experiences to get a moral 'sonar' reading on whether our responses are appropriate or not. That's all it is, Rogue apostrophe called it 'p***ing i the wind', but I think 'moral sonar' has a nicer ring to it. :)

No, no not meant to be sarky or facetious. Sorry if my post came across that way. And can see how it could be interpreted like that. I really did just mean that it all sounded so stressful from so early on that it made me appreciate how straightforward & unpressured my options were.

Well I've just watched it all through & I think I cried more at this one than any other so far. I was especially touched by the relationship between Richard & Shelagh, and when they both cried at the end I was completely undone! Particularly after such a scary crash C section. And his lovely comment "I hope he'll call me Daddy", I just wanted to gather all three up and tell them everything would be OK forever. And Penny was so touching too. Halfway through when she kept saying 'I can't do any more now Joy, enough now Joy' in such a sad little girl voice. I really felt she was using everything she had left to appeal to that midwife to help her, and help her she did. The midwives were so great this week too, so friendly and funny and empathetic. Brilliant programme.