zeban

I don't think it was rude to glare at all!

Thanks Medley. The Peckham Rye to Clapham High st train comes twice an hour so am screwed if I miss it! Peckham Rye to Clapham J will be better so might have to just hold on until then. Yeah have been considering getting a scooter but don't think I could afford it right now.

I know it goes to Peckham and Peckham is around the corner from ED!

I've been using the 37 to get to Clapham Common everyday for work and it's driving me mad. Always so so busy and so takes forever for really what is a relatively short distance. I noticed the 345 goes there but I've never used it. Does anyone use this bus to get to Clapham Common? If so, what is it like? how often do the buses turn up and more importantly how long does it take to get there?

Oh my god what a little brat! I would have done exactly the same as you Fuschia. I also always tell children off- actually did this at my workplace the other day and the dad got all arsey on me even though his 11 year old was shouting, sitting on the counter top where we serve food, using his skateboard in the coffee shop, and didn't even flush the toilet after he went. Of course the parents said nothing to him and and actually seemed to be encouraging him to act like a 3 year old. Some parents are beyond me.

He can absolutely appeal and I'd say go for it.

Definitely :)

You just have to cover everything- put them in tins- or put in microwave/oven to keep the cats away from anything. Keep bedroom doors closed. Fleas are unfortunately very common even after treatment. I don't know what advice to offer on that I'm afraid. Cats are cheeky buggers!

Edited because realised the original poster said that she didn't want to get into a debate about whether it was right or wrong, just wanted to know what other people had done.

To be fair though Fuschia you do seem to be inadvertently putting peoples choices to wean early down in your posts, almost suggesting they're being too frivolous in not following the new 'best' advice as you put it.

No diabetes, no heart disease and no obesity amongst either my Mum, her sister, my grandparents or any of us 5 kids. I guess in a way it makes sense but I would think only if you're not weaning well and introducing the wrong type of foods. I'd think if it was all healthy food you'ld be fine.

My Mum weaned all 5 of us at around 4 months. My brother is still fairly young- 14- so this wasn't ages and ages ago although of course she was part of the old school! None of us have ever had any problems. I'd think again just trust your instincts and don't worry too much about what others have done.

Townleygreen Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > zeban, > you are wrong, they are schools that happen to be > charities too. I'm fully aware of this! Sorry OP, clearly this doesn't affect me but I wish you and your friend goodluck and from what Townleygreen wrote, they might not be as harsh as the letter is suggesting.

I don't understand why you think the school would care. I'm sure they should really but they're a business, I'm not sure ethics and fairness are exactly at the forefront of such establishments. They want your money. If you don't have it, you're out and it probably is as simple as that.

I'm with Bunny19 on this one. I've seen people get into ridiculous amounts of debt and live in fear and stress because they 'want the best for their children'. Personally, I think that's it's too much pressure all round and really not worth it unless you really do have the money. What if your child hates school and/or doesn't do well? I've seen parents resenting their children when situations like this occur. I'd rather spend more time with my kids than work two jobs to pay for them to go to private school.

Love this thread- apart from the ridiculous original poster! very interesting points Alex K and srisky. I'd agree with Alex K completely. And with srisky regarding this: 'some of these 'low-life scum' come from terrible backgrounds and have not been able to break out of the vicious cycle. They can be challenging to manage in hospital and in the communituy. However, they should not be confused with those who on the weekend decide they want to go out on a binge drinking mission and start some fights just for kicks and expect everyone else to deal with the mess. '

I'm with Chippy Minton completely

Really sad, I'm so sorry for your loss :-(

Yes would love this!

http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2011/jun/17/children-influence-parental-drinking

I think it's an amazing thing to do. I don't think I could do it personally though for the exact reasons that SophieC mentions above- I'm not sure I could be quite so strong to be able to remove myself from it all. But if you can then it's really wonderful.

chantelle Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > i wouldn't read too much into the offhand comments > made by strangers or even grandparents though. > That has always existed. Far more worrying are the > social and advertising messages that have taken > things to a whole new level and put massive > pressure on girls and women. Even boys and men are > feeling more pressure to be perfect and > well-groomed - there was a story in the Sunday > Times, not that it's a new phenomenon. They'll > never have it as bad as the girls but it's all > part of our turbo-charged pornified and > celebrified culture. I disagree that you shouldn't worry about offhand comments. It's these comments that always stick with people, often reinforced by the culture we live in. I think it's the immediate people around us that have the power to influence us more.

Fuschia that makes me so incredibly sad. My Mum has 4 girls and unfortunately one has had an eating disorder for most of her life but this hasn't got anything to do with comments from my Mum or the way we were brought up- her eating disorder isn't a case of thin=beautiful. In fact my Mum has always been really good with not influencing us in terms of appearance. She never called us pretty not because she didn't think we were but because she didn't want appearance to be something to focus on or aspire to. She's never put on make up in front of us and never really made food or weight an issue for herself which I'm really grateful for. I didn't start caring about make up or appearance until I was 17/18- I was more interested in playing with clothes and crazy hair styles to express myself. I know it's everywhere and children are influenced by what they see around them but I truly believe when you have girls that as a mother you really have a responsibility to be careful what you say about yourself, and your body, in front of your girls, and generally to be a good role model in really loving yourself and your body and to put aside your insecurities. Self hatred can really be learnt.

Large pile of scrambled eggs with hot buttery toast

Wow that's crazy. Shoes are incredibly expensive, I remember my Mum struggling to buy us shoes regularly