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Me too. This is so sweet :)

I'm sorry HH, my first post was out of line as I didn't realise it was still happening. But I still don't understand why she's behaving like this if she knows how much it hurts you... or does she? I know it might sound obvious that she would but maybe she doesn't understand just how much it has affacted you. Have you got angry with her or are you grinning your teeth and baring it? I don't want to sound patronising but sometimes I do wonder how many family issues are allowed to go on for years because no one actually says how they really feel.

I'm sorry that was such a crappy time in your life HH, but have you told her that? have you expressed to her in an adult way all of the hurt and anger you feel? or are you just venting on here?

Jhoana I'm still lost with your posts. care to fill us in?

Hmmm.. well I just re read your posts and I do think I didn't understand fully. But I do think you could forgive her one day

Jhoana, I'm sorry but I have no idea what you're talking about I'm afraid. Personally I was referring to Helena Handbasket

HH, don't you think it's time you forgive your Mum? We all make mistakes and when we become adults is when we realise that being human means being imperfect. I don't know your mum or the extent of your issues with her but I've had my ups and downs with my Mum and finally in the last few years I have really took it upon myself to understand her, and now I forguve her and our relationship is great and I'd hate it to be anything else. I've been to counselling and mourned the things I feel I was let down on/didn't have. You only have one Mum in life and I have friends who lost theirs a long time ago. I can imagine my relationship might get abit difficult with my Mum when I have children although it might not be, but it sounds as though yours is just a continuum of what your relationship has been like for a long time. Calling your Mum a crap Mum is horrible and quite frankly sounds a bit childish. You're an adult now afterall. Also, maybe she had/has depression?

It's not easy sometimes though. Well if I'm ever on the 37 (I get it everyday) I'll look out for him making people feel like crap and will definitely stand up for you.

My Mum used a Maclaren for all of us. Good old Maclarens ;-)

What bus number does he drive? He sounds horrid.

Haha, Moos I'm with you there!

I agree Saffron, womanfdulwich, I don't understand why you think so rigidly, not all couples are the same, and what you say is actually a myth.

Dulwich_ Park_ Fairy Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I'd cut him some slack Mick, he made that post at > 03:30 and I imagine he was tired and emotional > after the celebrations. Did pick up an interesting > bit of info at one of the parties that I went to > yesterday, that the complaint made by the > Headteacher to the police had no racial element to > it and was just plain old bog-standard Criminal > Harrassment. Shame on so many people here for > believing everything they read in the Daily Mail! Huguenot lives in Singapore, our 3.30am isn't his 3.30!

errrr oilworker, read what I wrote again and you'll understand I got the joke!

Separate bedrooms is the key to long marriages. Sleep and good sleep is so so important. Get him to move though!

Brendan I have a feeling I'd get on really well with your wife! (I'm a woman don't worry!)

nunheadbelle a pub is COMPLETELY different and I'm sorry to say but presumably was there before you moved there so you moved there at your peril. I agree fullheartedly with you frierntastic.

Sorry I just re read your original post and you said it spilled out onto the road so no wonder you don't want to confront them. nunheadbelle I'd love to see if you felt the same if it was your neighbours. I very much doubt it. It's out of order no matter what time of year it is. You want to have a big party go to a pub or bar. It just shows a selfish, self centred, thoughtless, and arrogant attitude to throw parties like this.

I agree DJKQ, even the food in some of the pubs is a ridiculous price for what it really should be. But that's awful to charge so much for a pint

Flocker Spocker already explained that: 'Things like the 2 year check are there to catch potential problems and allay concerns. Well informed mothers of healthy toddlers may find it is just a form filling tick box exercise - but for others it can be so much more. Just because it is not for you, does not give you a right to slag off health visitors.' It sounds to me like health visitors do have an important role, and if you already know it all and see yourselves as experts then why are you using them at all only to then slag them off. And guidelines change and are often confusing- only recently it was decided that babies shouldn't be exclusively breastfed up to 6 months- that solids/normal food should be introduced earlier- to which my Mum replied, 'duh!'- she has 5 grown up children and introduced food for all of us at 4 months and they've only just discovered this. In fact aren't you all always saying on here 'every baby is different'? So the HV's I'm sure are trying their best dealing with such conflicting advice and pushy mothers!

What about their professional opinion?

My Mum started weaning all of us 5 children from 4 months, together with breastfeeding. Some people don't start doing that until 6. Surely there are going to be mixed messages because there isn't always a right or wrong answer.

I'm Jewish too! But like you Otta, don't live in the Village

All the more reason for you to go and talk to them. Don't be scared of them for gods sake, they're the ones in the wrong. Stand up for yourself, who knows, they might actually respect you more for doing that!

dully Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I think it would have been unprofessional for the > teacher to comment to the daily mail. Any other > paper maybe but they were always going to give her > a rough ride. > > The poster is awful and too questionable a choice > to have been used in the context of a primary > school even if it was for parents. The guy clearly > has an ego problem if he thinks it was > appropriate. If he was elected then surely it was > his choice to work for the pta, so just do the job > and don't try and turn it to a satire exercise. > Magazine, student paper would be appropriate. Kids > school no. > > I have noticed that some East dulwich residents > are sometimes racist. Whether out of malice or > ignorance it has been seen and heard. I wouldn't > discount that there may have been events which > contributed and affected the head teachers > perception of events. The fact that the parents > are pushy enough that this poster was made in the > first instance would suggest the head is up > against it. Good luck to her I say. Dully, I COMPLETELY agree with you and well done for saying this. I wanted to say it in my last post but thought I'd be shot down. And LadyDeliah you too. Emily you're clearly in denial. I feel really sorry for the head. And this is why any head who is not representing white, middle class parents in good state schools must have a really hard job. Pushy middle class parents only want to continue pushing for the priviledges for their children that their status affords. But we need heads like this in London and I hope she stays and people can let her get on with the job that she was actually hired to do- paid to do- unlike parent governers.