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Every child gets nits Fidgetsmum don't worry. I remember my Mum also combing over and over with the proper comb.

Sorry Claire I will correct myself as you're right I misquoted by accident, it was 'get off my bloody arm'. A judgemental bigot! why because I think it doesn't reflect well on parents when a child swears?! I think people are getting a bit overly defensive, understandably so, I'm sure I would too. I do realise children can pick up language from anywhere so society is also to blame. But in this case I would hope that your reaction to such language would mean that the child wouldn't say it again- and come to understand it's true meaning rather than dismissing it for being innocent. I'm certainly not demonising the child, but it is the responsibility of the parent to teach children right from wrong. For me, Dully's post sums up exactly how I feel about this subject: reneet Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- Wonder why people feel that they can be so > judgemental about other people's parenting. Dully Wrote: 'Because parents are raising people, and those people will be the hub of humanity when we're all dead. I swear like a sailor and it is completely reflective of a shitty childhood and a bad mindset. These are obviously things that no one would want for their child. Language is the only real clear indicator for what is going on in a person's mind and if a mind is continually stooping for the lowest, nastiest words it can find instead of reaching for polite and positive language then that is a sorry place for a child to be. I don't think children should be demonized for swearing, just re educated (conditioned!). I am learning not to swear and I'd be happy if my child learns better than me in oh so many in ways.'

Mick Mac Wrote: > Never go to a "stylist" unless you is a gal > James.... > > Is you a gal ? That's not true Mick Mac!

Thought so HH. If they're calling other children gits at 5 years old and telling the teacher to f off when they ask them to apologise where do you draw the line? So no I'm not kidding. That's sounds disruptive to me. How do you know they're not going to continue into primary school with that kind of attitude?

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Which part do you think I'm kidding about?

That's true HH, BUT just because the swearing might not be directed at the children, if the children are swearing at adults doing something FOR them, such as nurses or teachers, to tell them to f off shows a complete lack of respect for people, and quite a spoilt and self centred attitude really.

I'd argue that many people are indeed really rather well off in ED! Even if they don't believe it themselves!!! Just because you might not be quite able to afford private school or are choosing to send your children to the good local schools that doesn't mean you're not well off. If you can afford to buy a house in ED, or move to ED for the good schools you're well off, and it doesn't mean the children coming from those families are not the children causing disruptions in class. Look at the thread on swearing for example!

'uncles galore'? I don't understand what you mean-could you elaborate please? I'm also a bit confused at what your point is?

Reiterating the two posts above. I think it's disgusting if a child tells someone to f off. The comment on the child saying to a nurse 'get off my f-ing arm' is shocking. If I'd been the nurse I would have refused to do anything for the child and asked the family to leave. It isn't funny or clever. It does say a lot about the parents/parenting though!

Tarot Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Loz. its not a case of pesky foreigners,but cheap > labour. > Exploitation, of people in the world, isnt > right,the big supermarkets make enormous profits, > and it is not filtering down to the workers. > The big companies in the world are always finding > the poorest people to exploit. > Taking the land to grow coffee and chocolate,when > it should be used to grow their own food,and water > for their own > people not tobacco crops > Loz your the excited one eager, to pull the race > card. > For decades we have been givig donations to > Africa, whats been done with it.By now Africa > should be looking like Dubai, but its not.At least > the people in the middle east arewaking up to it. > I dont get excited, just sick of people being used > as pawns. I'm with you on this one Tarot.

I know I loved to use Honor Oak park station but I can't bloody get there! And Forest Hill is just that bit too far to be worth it- feels like you're going back on yourself too much.

Thank you peterstorm1985. I want to do whatever works best for them regarding their housing benefits/working tax credits

Forgetting the white, middle class thing, i'm just saying it can be quite strict and very female which IMO has the potential to breed body image issues. But like I said, I probably feel like this because of personal experiences. I'm certainly not attacking the sport. From personal experience I have issues with all competitive sports but that's just me! Also, I think we have come a really long way in recognising and educating children on body image and eating disorders- 20 years ago it was unheard of to talk about such things. So thank god for that!

Victor I'm just giving my opinion that's all. That's absolutely great if it's changed. I'm talking nearly 20 years ago now. But my sister and I also went to a local club in Hackney (that's where we grew up) so it was inner London and fairly multi cultural and it still had an effect on me so knowing this it's made me ultra aware and maybe a little on the over cautios side. It is difficult when a girl goes through puberty wearing such skimpy outfits. I've never been a competitive person though. Even now! My thing was jazz dance when I was a little girl, I absolutely loved it!

I have mixed feelings about gymnastics. I did it when I was little and although enjoyed getting my BAGA badges felt really self conscious in the leotards and thought my thighs were fat (I was only 10 at the time). My sister was at the level of competing and although MANY things have contributed to this, has had an eating disorder for most of her life. I'm not trying to scare parents. My brother does trampolining and the outfits the girls wear are also quite skimpy but when I went to see him competing at Crystal Palace the girls all seemed ultra confident, all different shapes and sizes, and it was very multi cultural. Maybe gymnastics just seems that much more harsh because it's seen as very much a girls sport, and also seems to attract quite a middle class following, so I think if I got my child involved with gymnastics it would be at a club that was very multi cultural and mixed gender and not too serious.

Does an employment contract always have to include the lunch break? ie. if I'm writing up a contract for someone to do 12-8pm but 1 of those hours includes an unpaid lunch hour can I give them a 7 hour per day working hours contract instead of 8 because technically they're only being paid for 7 anyway?

Brilliant Jah!

Moos sterilisation is NOT the same as a hysterectomy!!!! ?Sterilisation? means preventing the woman from becoming pregnant by means of various different operations in which her Fallopian tubes are blocked or cut through ? thus making it very difficult for her eggs to reach her womb. A hysterectomy is NOT offered when you asked to get sterilised. There's no need to think it's so extreme because it's not at all. It's even done as a day patient! Here's some info: http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_relationships/facts/sterilisation_women.htm I hope both men and women realise this. I also think it's deplorable that anyone, either man or woman, would pressurise their partners into it if their partners were not choosing this. I know the burden of contraception falls on women and it's a pain in the butt but gender politics shouldn't come into coercing someone to have a permanent operation they don't want to have- and I think its fair enough if they don't want to have it!

I agree littleEDfamily completely and utterly. However it's just so final that's all. No one knows what the future might hold, even if you feel you take control of one part of your life, you have no idea how you might feel in 10 years time or what might happen. I wouldn't want to put such a final line there, and that doesn't mean your unsatisfied with what you already have. It's a very personal decision that's all. And going beyond the gender implications of this if it was the woman that felt so strongly rather than the man then maybe she would consider sterilisation?

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Yes I figured that Tarot! love it Mic Mac! Congratulations derbyean that's a real achievement. It really annoys me when people say, 'god do people still smoke?'!! aghhhhh- it's an addiction people

Quit what? A shitty job you hated?

I agree Keef. It really needs to be a man's decision. They're not taking the pill, it's a bloody vasectomy! How can you make threats or promises? seriously women get a grip!

I'd absolutely love something like this. However, I'd really hope the prices were reasonable and not over priced just because of the area