Dulwich Born And Bred

Poor you! I don't really know what to advise as it is amazing how strong willed these little people can be, and how little sleep THEY can survive on. My son is almost six months and likes to go to sleep between 11pm to 1am, he absolutely refuses to go down before then, and when I do put him down, he will just simply wake up, and then refuse to go back down properly until his usual hour of midnight. He wakes up at 10-11am in the morning, never wakes up before and when I wake him, he is absolutely grumpy and goes back to sleep again, so I give up...for now!! He is breastfed too, and like Fushia, I co sleep, I have to because he does awake about three or four times in the night for a feed and if he was in his cot, he would wake up fully to get my attention for a feed thus coming completely out of his sleep, and not to mention I too would be awake completely having to get out of my warm bed, brave the cold to take him out of his cot and feed him, thus refusing in it taking longer for BOTH of us to get to sleep. With co sleeping, we both are constantly in a state of sleep, as soon as he starts stirring, I just feed him whilst still in a light sleep and then we both go back to sleep properly, no tears, none of us fully awake and both of us able to face the day and remain sane!! I would never have been able to breastfeed this long if I had to keep going to his cot from day one. I am not a fan of controlled crying and I don't intends to try it not at least he is old enough to understand what it is all about instead of being shocked into realising no one is coming to attends to his needs so he might as well sleep. I know these babies are not damaged by it, but I don't like and as a nanny I would never try it on my charges or my son. Have you tried the pick up and put down? Obviously I cannot advise too much as my own son does not go down at an hour I like but I am pretty much baby led until they are of an age they can understand, though co sleeping keeps me sane and enables me to get a decent enough sleep to function. I have to say re the naps, not ALL babies nap. I have known quite a few babies who have never napped and refuses to, but they do go down early and sleep all the way through. Have your parents or someone had baby SB overnight? Usually you find most kids are well behaved for others and will sleep through so it is worth seeing what they do and if you do it differently. Not much to add but I hope you get some decent sleep, not easy is it?!

I think you need to do what suits your baby. Some like it mashed, some like it whole, it is all trial and error, usually baby led weaning is started because the babies will grab food off their parents plates and shove it in their mouths, as babies were first introduced to solids from 3 months onwards, mashed was best because of their lack of mouth control but at 6 months onwards they are supposed to be better at controlling things in their mouths ( losing the tongue thrust reflex) hence they can handle whole food, hence baby led weaning. My son who is now six months and refusing food, bottles and beakers. He just want boobs, but he cannot have boobs forever! I thought like most babies he would love food but nope, he is not having it at all! Snowboarder, I have a strong willed one too..he refuses to go to sleep before 11pm ( usually at midnight he prefers to sleep and he wakes up at 10/11am!).

EBAYThe necklaces are actually quite short, the babies are unable to pull at them, they tend to fall down their back anyway rather than their front. You are supposed to remove it at night but I keep my son's on 24 hours but we co sleep so there is no risk of anything happening to him. Some parents tie the necklaces around their babies ankles at night etc in order to keep the amber necklace warm as the healing properties are supposably in the resin which worked when warmed up. You need to make sure it is baltic amber, the best. I got mine from ebay , he does pure baltic amber necklaces. Another tip, make sure the beads are rounded in order not to leave imprints on the baby's neck.

newcomer Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > When should a baby 'turn'? Mine is still breech > and I'm 30 weeks. Should I be attempting new > positions, etc. to turn it at this stage, or is it > too early to make a difference (ie, would the baby > simply turn back again anyhow)? 30 weeks is too early, as baby can turn back again and keep turning. Generally an ECV is performed I think at 37 weeks as though some babies turn right up to when labour starts, other babies will have no room to turn so will be stuck in that position hence an ECV being performed. Though I was told that even if an ECV is successful some babies can turn breech again. It all depends on what the baby feels like doing! Mine just wanted to stress me!

I just had the one pessary, I went in at around 2 or 3pm ( cannot remember exact time) and I gave birth to my little man the following day at 3.39pm. It didn't feel that long, I actually thought it was morning when I gave birth but alas it was afternoon! Good luck, hope you have a quick and easy one!

Ahhh I feel for you as I had this problem with my son, see my post :MY BREECH BABY I tried spinning babies, bouncing on my swiss ball, moxibustion, nothing... booked an ECV, and just before I was due to have the doctor turn my baby, my little man turned at the 11th hour! Babies can keep turning until the birth so it is all just pot luck really whether baby will turn by itself in time for labour or whether you go through with the ECV. Good luck!

Oh no, how awful! As a nanny and aunty to various kids I am always on the slides with the little ones on my lap, Have done for many years and never had an accident ( touch wood!) it is just one of those things and looks like you were one of the unlucky ones. Hope the little one recovers soon x

I would if he was happy in it but he is not, he likes the reassurance of seeing me, and he can't in the Maclaren buggy, he absolutely cries and I don't think he finds it comfortable either judging by how he was stiffing his body and crying.

I just think there are some things you don't need to share and having your own teenager son at the birth is just weird more so that he never actually offered support, and she didn't want support either as her son did ask if she wanted him to hold her hand but she said no so instead he just sat on the chair. It was just pointless and weird. He could have waited outside and then come in after the labour to see his brother, but what was the point of just sitting there and laughing at his dad's jokes? Why would a son even want to see his mum in that position? Most boys I know who absolutely love their mummies would not want to see their mum go into labour and watch her in pain. I am all for being a close loving family but I know for sure I would not want my son there! Each to their own.

I suffered from 24/7 sickness throughout the whole duration of my pregnancy, it eased up a bit towards the end but it never went away. The only way I could keep control of it was to eat non stop all the time, I was constantly grazing to keep the sickness at bay then I had the indigestion to deal with...ahhh not fun...I hated pregnancy, I never glowed at all.

Hi Molly, No it does not need to be matching but I thought as the bugaboo is a unique shape it will probably need the correct accessories for its frame but thanks for the link to the website, It is very unique and cool indeed,I shall be using that website! Does anyone know if the Bugaboo Bee Plus can be pre-ordered online? I hope I don't get buggy envy if I see anyone with the new Maclaren!:) I didn't realise exactly how difficult it was going to be with the stairs and buggy as I thought I would be able to carry the baby in the buggy downstairs but no chance, its too dangerous. I just hate not being out to go out when I want, I always have to check ahead if someone is at home to help me with the baby and buggy, its pants!

Looks like the Bugaboo Bee Plus it is....Only one more month cooped up in the house until I get my Bugaboo Bee plus and freedom is mine!!! Thank you Darlin' for passing on that vital piece of information to me, you have saved me some money!

My City Elite first wheels is about 11/12 kg and I find it amazingly easy to push, I think it is all dependant on the height of buggy, the wheels and the handle bars, I find an all in one bar so much easier to push unlike the Pliko which has two handles. The Phil and Teds are quite hard to push, I tried Mellors one the other day and I was struggling and it didn't even have any children in it! Darlin' you have confused me! i was straight onto the Bugaboo Bee Plus website and I am very excited now, I think as the Bugaboo Bee Plus is cheaper, I shall go for that...will the extra 2 inches in the seat size make much difference? I need to get some Bugaboo Bee feedbacks from parents with big babies as that Buggy would be much more suited for me ( smaller, compact etc). I need to work out if it will be cheaper when I buy all the bits such as the footmuff, parasol and so on, as the Maclaren includes all the extras from footmuff, to cup holder , to parasol in the hefty price. How much is the Bugaboo Bee plus meant to be as I cannot find anything on the mothercare website.

On the reviews it said it does fold with the seat in either direction.The Grand Tou LX is also eligible for Maclaren Sovereign Lifetime Warranty, the world's first global lifetime buggy warranty, so it should for that price. Ironic that I was moaning about the price of the Bee but this is way more. I thought I would get more buggy recommendations though! trinity Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Great looking buggy - are you sure it folds with > seat in both directions? The video only shows the > folding with seat facing away from you. I know > that is key for you.

IF I get it:)) I have not sold the City Elite yet, and I am still looking for a cheaper buggy because it IS too expensive and I won't be getting it if I cannot sell both buggies. There are lots of buggies I love but why oh why do the one hand folding ones usually have to have the seat removed?! The Loola UP would have been perfect if the wheels went backwards but for some reason users have said the wheels do not allow the buggy to go backwards, bit rubbish if I take the bus. I have been spending hours and hours looking at buggies,,,,how sad!

Ahh, I didn't make my post clear. Because of the stairs, I NEED a buggy that has one hand folding with the seat unit attached and as I am getting rid of both buggies ( city elite has to be put together so I can never use that buggy to take my son out on my own, Maclaren does not recline all the way back so my son does not like it and he gets upset it he cannot see me) so it makes sense to find one buggy that covers everything. I have been stuck at home most days because I cannot get out of the house without someone to help me with the buggy. As Mellors knows I have stairs from outside to the front door, and then another whole loads of stairs from the front door to the first floor. That means leaving my son all the way upstairs, whilst I go down two flights of stairs to set up the buggy, then leave the buggy unattended whilst I go and collect my son and bags, its too much and especially upon returning as I normally have more bags and a sleeping son. As for the sling, I have an ergo and connecta and my son is VERY heavy, he was near to a stone over two months ago and he must be nearer to two now, and I can manage to the local shops but my back does kill me, not to mention my leg ( I have not regain back all my feelings in one of my legs after my epidural) and at 5 months, I don't really want to be putting him on my back, I struggle enough with trying to get him on the front. So if I sell both buggies, I only need to put a bit more towards the new Maclaren otherwise I need to keep looking for a buggy or stay cooped up at home!

Helena, the maclarens range are quite good for the giant toddlers, my niece who is 4 but wears clothes for 7 years old, gets in her younger sister's maclaren buggy for a break sometimes! It is just not possible for their little legs to keep up with us adults when it comes to walks ( unless you are using a car part of the way) so a buggy is always handy. Molly, The Streety and Mothercare spin require two hands to put down and the spin does not fold with the seat unit on. 15kgs is pretty heavy but then the Pilko, Loola etc are all about that weigh also, I can cope with lugging the buggy up and down, I just need it to fold, face both ways ( as son likes looking at his mummy for now so I might as well have a buggy that can face both ways for when he does want to go forward facing) my main issue was ensuring the buggy could fold with one hand and with the seat attach so I do not need to rely on anyone to be at home to help me thus restricting me for when I need to get out of the house and my son is so heavy that a sling is just not working ( especially with my back after my eqidural) I would get the Bee if I knew it would last until he is 3/4 but reviews do say that the seat is small so that is out. I was looking at the Loola Up but for some reason the wheels does not allow the buggy to go backwards...bit weird that. So one hand folding reversible facing buggies are rare and few between, the Maclaren seems to cover it all but as it is new, the price is so expensive...is any buggy worth ?590?!!! It does include all the accessories but still...I could go on holiday for that!!

Its the new maclaren!! grand tour LX! some of the extras are just plain silly but I love the way it folds and unfold with ease and Maclaren has always been one of my favourite buggy! BUGGY its SO expensive though:(

I always think either words of mouth ( recommendation)is the best or indeed they must have references from local families in which you can phone up/meet to ensure they have babysat for said family/families and there are no issues. I would not be keen on just hiring a random teenager or someone from here unless I know them or the family they have babysat personally. I also would not want references from families who are not in the area, I would prefer someone local to the area. It is all about trust really isn't it?

Smiler Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I stuck my little finger in my daughter's mouth in > desperation, it did work, but was told off by a > nasty night-worker who said "you'll never > breastfeed doing that"! Argh. > > She was wrong though. Ahhh they ALL have an opinion in the hospital and usually it is all different ones. I had half the staff telling me not to put salt in the bath to help with my healing where I had an episiotomy and the other half telling me to make sure I put salt in the bath to help with the healing. My mum got told off for not wrapping my son up in hat, vest, babygro, and blanket despite the ward being hot and another midwife came in and stripped my son off his hat etc saying it is too hot. And as for the breastfeeding? Gosh don't give me started on all the conflicting advice I was given. I just could not wait to get home and be left to it!! If I had money I would have done it the Mellors way because there was really no reason for me to have endured a episiotomy and ventouse, when I went back to Kings to through my files, the doctor agreed that she does not understand why it went the way it did. I just think it went wrong from when the Trainee Midwife inserted the pessary wrongly,plus I was on edge that my mum was not allow to stay with me, and there was a bin next to my cubicle so I had visitors from the other ladies constantly hovering around to use the bin putting me on edge, I could hear everyone else in pain, with their babies etc, it was just strange, uncomfortable and odd. It seriously did disturb me everything that went on, but I just blocked it out and focused on my son ( and trying to get through the horrible pain I was left in during my recovery).

buggie Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > HeidiHi Wrote: > -------------------------------------------------- > ----- > > > what is with the doctors sticking their big > rubber > > finger in a baby's mouth?! They tried to do > that > > to my son when he was ill in hospital and he > kept > > gagging and crying because he hated it, I had > to > > tell them to remove their finger from his > mouth! > > Have they tried having someone stick a rubber > > finger in their mouths?! Not nice! > > We often give babies a finger to suckle on during > blood tests to try and settle them - similar > soothing affect to a dummy - as its a time that > they are upset it can take a little while to > realise the fingers there to settle them but > personally I've never gagged a baby doing this > (there isn't that far a finger can really get into > a babies mouth!)and will often encourage the > parents to do this themselves rather than it being > a completely strange finger. > > We often use a sugar solution to dip our gloved > finger in as it acts as a temp analgesic (babies > are too young to use anaesthetic cream pre bloods) > - if we can settle the baby it is then easier and > quicker to do tests on them. > > Am watching the programme at the moment (in a fug > of post-night shift) and have missed seeing the > Dr's popping their fingers in the babies mouth, > but if it was post the c-section they were > probably suctioning as the fluid doesn't clear > from a babies airway as it does when they are > (literally) squeezed out during a regular > delivery. It was a clip where they showed the baby with his bowels out all wrapped in the clingfilm with a cannula and a blue rubbered finger in his mouth, think it was a preview of next week's programme. I just remembered them doing it to my son with the sugar solution and he was getting more and more worked up and gagging, they asked me to do it too with my finger, I used my pinky and obviously no gloves, he did not gag but he didn't like it. My son won't even have a dummy in his mouth, he gags with that. That approach just didn't work for my little boy but he is strong willed and was fighting to be left alone. My labour was clinical, my midwife spent most of the time gossiping with my birth partners, I did not get any reassurance, physical contact, or even eye contact. I was not updated at all on anything, I think I could have done a lot better in labour had it not been so cold and clinical.

If you saw my stairs you would understand, very dangerous and most certainly not safe enough to bump it down all those stairs with a baby inside the buggy. I have seen my perfect buggy,,,it costs more than the Bee:-$ hoping to sell my two buggies and buy my perfect one! True about the kids walking but for long trips and for when they get tired a buggy is still handy at the age of 3.

The lady was worried about her baby not crying. I felt so sorry for that poor little baby not even being able to get a cuddle from his mummy, just whisked off to have his bowels sorted out. And what is with the doctors sticking their big rubber finger in a baby's mouth?! They tried to do that to my son when he was ill in hospital and he kept gagging and crying because he hated it, I had to tell them to remove their finger from his mouth! Have they tried having someone stick a rubber finger in their mouths?! Not nice! Also, why on earth was that lady's son trying to peek at his mother's bits when the baby was coming? No way would I want my 18 years old son trying to peek at my bits, moreover why was he even there? he was not very helpful. The dad really got on my nerves, he is a policeman, should he not be able to be better under pressure? I was all teary however when the babies arrived safely!

Thank you Smiler, that really helped, the bee is out! Only because my son five months son is already much bigger than other babies his age and there is just no way the Bee will last until he is 3 years old. No communal hall where I live, just lots of stairs outside and inside! ( live in the top half of a maisonette). Thanks ladies xx

Hmmm, I have been looking and looking at the Bee but it just looks so small! Could it really last until my son is a toddler? The wheels are also tiny, it is good on all terrains and a comfortable ride for baby? the reviews shows that some people had problems with the brakes and things breaking off, for that money you would not expect any problems. I spoke to a few people and they have recommended the: Britax Vigour 4 Or Loola Up As I do not have these buggies I have no idea if they are good, I already made a mistake with my buggy so don't want to make another expensive buggy mistake. Gosh...why are there too many choices?!!