Dulwich Born And Bred

Belle, good midwives are like gold dust, especially since we do not have enough of them. There is just a huge lack of communication when it comes to Kings I find.

I had bad experiences with Kings on FOUR separate occasions and different departments so I have no faith in them. Did not help reading the newspaper the other day to hear one of their own midwives committed suicide because Kings did not inform her that she was not to blame for the death of a baby in her care. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1234219/New-midwife-hangs-hospital-fails-tell-blame-sick-babys-death.html Pretty amazing how we all have completely different experiences about a hospital, for you it was fantastic, for me it was hell. I still have one investigation ongoing with regards to Kings and very nearly losing my son at the hands of a Doctor when he was rushed to A&E with an infection. Its a shame about the Albany Midwives as I know people who have used them and they had nothing but good thiings to say about them.

ClareC Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Congratulations veryseriousgirl! Thank you for > taking the time to post such a positive > experience, especially when you must have only > just come out of hospital :-) > > Did all the partners of people being induced at > the same time as you get to stay? Must admit this > is the part that terrifies me most (being left to > deal with the unknown alone). The midwife that > hosted the tour told me this wasn't allowed :-( > Maybe this is one of those things that the rules > say one thing but the reality is often different. > > Mental note to self to bulk buy RLT ;-) No, as my mum was told she could not stay. I had to fight to get the father to stay yet opposite me a lady had three adults with her, and everyone else did not have their partners. Depends on the midwife I guess!

Clare, you are right regarding Kings and inductions. I had my son there 13 weeks ago,my baby's father was told he had to leave the labour ward, my mum had to go home but my baby father did stay because I was not happy at all about being left alone as I was in so much pain, I had to argue with the midwives to allow him to stay and they gave in and said he could stay in my cubicle with me. He did have to leave though after I gave birth, hence I was bedridden and unable to tend to my son. You don't need to explain yourself to anyone, you pay your taxes, you go where YOU feel comfortable.

I tried everything, nothing worked. My son was two weeks late, I ended up being induced after a failed sweep.

Tulip, that was rude, no need to say 'Get over it'. It never cease to amaze me how rude some people on this forum are.

My son sleeps until 12 so it would be great to have an afternoon session too.

LOL Shaggy, sounds like my son!

I had my baby three months ago at Kings. Never ever again. From the moment I stepped in that hospital to the moment I left, everything was a disaster. I found the majority of the staff rude and unhelpful. There were a few who were nice, but the ones who dealt with me, were not. It all went wrong from the trainee midwife inserting the pessary wrong, to the labour in which no communication was relayed back to myself, my mum or the dad. I ended up being cut and having a ventouse delivery, the whole thing was very traumatic for all of us. I had no help with the breastfeeding, the nurse just shoved my boob into my son's mouth making him gag, not noticing he was tongue tied ( thanks to a lovely midwife to visited me at home I got breast feeding established). I could not walk after I gave birth and was completely drugged up from the pain, my mum and partner were not allowed to stay, I was left alone with a baby I was unable to feed, pick up or change his nappy. Asking for help was virtually impossible as they take ages to respond to the push for assistance alarm. I was stuck with a hungry, dirty baby in my arms until my mum came the next day as I had no help and could not move. I could generally just be unlucky as a friend gave birth in Kings a week before me and had a wonderful team, and lots of help. I think if you can get your own midwife to go Kings with you then go Kings but if I had the choice again, I would go to St Thomas, my sister gave birth in Kings and St Thomas and chooses the latter any day. I had wanted to go St Thomas and remembered posting on here asking for advice, most people advised Kings, I went with the majority but I regretted it, I should have gone with my gut instincts and then maybe it would have been just a little bit better than what I endured!

My son won't take the MAM. Looks like I won't be enjoying a drink over christmas....

It is a good thing Skip, because I have done exactly the same, questioned injecting my precious son with viruses and bacteria at such an early age. I think people are rude to think we are being stupid and foolish just because we won't just willy nilly accept that we should just have our babies injected with foreign matter and not to question if we can make it easier for them, instead they are choosingto judge us and tell us how foolish we are. You and even myself have not stated we are against it, or we disagree with it, we are just asking for alternatives, if there is one, and myself I am questioning if it is possible to space them out, instead of being told I have a cheek basically because it is free and so what if it is lots of viruses/bacteria injected into our babies one go. I am glad they have all had positive experiences with their kids not having any adverse reactions to their jabs, but not all kids are as lucky, therefore there is no harm in asking if we can do anything to make it easier. I believe in choice. ( I don't mean choosing to either have my son vaccinated or not, I mean, having a choice of how many he has and at what age he has them). He is due for his second jabs next week.

I am 31 and I like nothing better than to have dinner parties, chill in front of the TV with a bottle of wine, or do lunch anywhere. I have even stopped wearing high heels and live and die in my fit flops boots and shoes! I know i am old also as I used to hate wearing my glasses because I was so vain and thought it made me look older but since having my son, it is out with the contact lenses and in with the glasses!

We always managed to find parking where the flower shop used to be, but it could prove costly though if you are there for hours. No experience with taxis' as we used the car. Good luck with the impending birth!

In that case then it should be down to the Government to chase up people who have not had their children vaccinated, as their GPs would be aware that they have not taken their children to have their jabs. I don't think it is up to us to make it our mission to be rude to people and tell them how foolish and silly they are. If it is a public health matter, then I am sure the Government would make it law that every single child has no choice but to get it done especially if it is going to cause these diseases to spread like wildfire judging by the way some people are reacting. reggie Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Heidi > It is true that people have been rude which does > not help debate but immunisation is a public > health matter which can be considered to take > precedence over personal health decisions.

Sanne Panne, I think that is what Skip was actually referring to, I did point this out in my post. I don't think she is replacing the vaccines with homeopathic ones, I think she was asking about the neutraliser, as I know lots of people who do that, peace of mind I guess, it makes them feel better. I also do think some of the posts in regards to AntiJen are quite harsh, she is entitled to her own views as I am entitled to mine and likewise you are entitled to yours but some of the replies are just plain rude, this thread was not started by Skip so that people can come on here and tell her and Antijen how much they disagree with them it was started to ask about people's experiences with regards to homeopathic immunisations, if you don't like it, don't read it. You could also start a debate in the lounge entitled 'For and Against Immunisations' instead of hijacking this one, no wonder Skip has not replied if this is the response her question has generated!

Only some of the mummies in Dulwich have tasted my food since I cooked for their kids as a nanny....I don't recall macaroni cheese, sweet potato pie and mild curries scoring high or featuring on that programme...or pureed food in plastic bowls....

I love come Dine with me, I love the narrator especially. I have no idea why they wrote to me asking me to be part of the show, weird considering I watch it all the time ( and no, I didn't write asking to be part of it!). I would have taken part, but as I was very ill after having my first child, thus I was unable to,I cannot wait to see who did take part as it would be interesting to see who my competitors might have been! ( Ignoring all the sarcastic comments posted in reply to my first post as that is what you do with kids trying to seek attention...ignore!)

I got a letter asking me to take part in Come Dine with me but had to decline as I have a new baby.

Well done Amy! I am so pleased with you, hopefully he will get completely used to it and you will be able to switch between bottle and breast with ease and without any resistance. I am told it is better to try and introduce a bottle of expressed milk from birth in order for baby to take easily to both bottle and breast but alas, I was too busy trying to get the hang of breastfeeding never mind trying to express also! I start my mission today with the MAM bottles since he refused the breastflow, kind of tolerates the tommee tippee but with tears, so lets' hope I fare better with the MAM.

Well done Amy! I am so pleased with you, hopefully he will get completely used to it and you will be able to switch between bottle and breast with ease and without any resistance. I am told it is better to try and introduce a bottle of expressed milk from birth in order for baby to take easily to both bottle and breast but alas, I was too busy trying to get the hang of breastfeeding never mind trying to express also! I start my mission today with the MAM bottles since he refused the breastflow, kind of tolerates the tommee tippee but with tears, so lets' hope I fare better with the MAM.

I know what it is but cannot say on here. No druggies though!

Thanks everyone, I just got back from Peckham mothercare with my MAM bottles, they did not have any medium flow teats in stock so I shall have to try the slow and fast teat. I hope it is successful. Amy, I am really pleased you are having luck with breastflow x

Rather than take a trip to Peckham on the off chance that Boots sell the MAM bottles ( none are on their website) does anyone know if I can purchase a MAM bottle in Dulwich? I am trying to get my son to take expressed milk, he does ok with Tommee Tippee but only after tears and if someone else feeds him then straight after he wants my breast which is defeating the object, I thought I would give MAM a go but my mum said Sainsbury's do not sell them.

Thank you ladies, I have just purchased a mattress from M&P, I cannot believe his mattress costs more than mine!

There's a two weeks wait to collect your items if you go to all fired up. Molly that is a wonderful idea, I shall get my son one for his 1st birthday!