Dulwich Born And Bred

I had my baby three months ago at Kings. Never ever again. From the moment I stepped in that hospital to the moment I left, everything was a disaster. I found the majority of the staff rude and unhelpful. There were a few who were nice, but the ones who dealt with me, were not. It all went wrong from the trainee midwife inserting the pessary wrong, to the labour in which no communication was relayed back to myself, my mum or the dad. I ended up being cut and having a ventouse delivery, the whole thing was very traumatic for all of us. I had no help with the breastfeeding, the nurse just shoved my boob into my son's mouth making him gag, not noticing he was tongue tied ( thanks to a lovely midwife to visited me at home I got breast feeding established). I could not walk after I gave birth and was completely drugged up from the pain, my mum and partner were not allowed to stay, I was left alone with a baby I was unable to feed, pick up or change his nappy. Asking for help was virtually impossible as they take ages to respond to the push for assistance alarm. I was stuck with a hungry, dirty baby in my arms until my mum came the next day as I had no help and could not move. I could generally just be unlucky as a friend gave birth in Kings a week before me and had a wonderful team, and lots of help. I think if you can get your own midwife to go Kings with you then go Kings but if I had the choice again, I would go to St Thomas, my sister gave birth in Kings and St Thomas and chooses the latter any day. I had wanted to go St Thomas and remembered posting on here asking for advice, most people advised Kings, I went with the majority but I regretted it, I should have gone with my gut instincts and then maybe it would have been just a little bit better than what I endured!

My son won't take the MAM. Looks like I won't be enjoying a drink over christmas....

It is a good thing Skip, because I have done exactly the same, questioned injecting my precious son with viruses and bacteria at such an early age. I think people are rude to think we are being stupid and foolish just because we won't just willy nilly accept that we should just have our babies injected with foreign matter and not to question if we can make it easier for them, instead they are choosingto judge us and tell us how foolish we are. You and even myself have not stated we are against it, or we disagree with it, we are just asking for alternatives, if there is one, and myself I am questioning if it is possible to space them out, instead of being told I have a cheek basically because it is free and so what if it is lots of viruses/bacteria injected into our babies one go. I am glad they have all had positive experiences with their kids not having any adverse reactions to their jabs, but not all kids are as lucky, therefore there is no harm in asking if we can do anything to make it easier. I believe in choice. ( I don't mean choosing to either have my son vaccinated or not, I mean, having a choice of how many he has and at what age he has them). He is due for his second jabs next week.

I am 31 and I like nothing better than to have dinner parties, chill in front of the TV with a bottle of wine, or do lunch anywhere. I have even stopped wearing high heels and live and die in my fit flops boots and shoes! I know i am old also as I used to hate wearing my glasses because I was so vain and thought it made me look older but since having my son, it is out with the contact lenses and in with the glasses!

We always managed to find parking where the flower shop used to be, but it could prove costly though if you are there for hours. No experience with taxis' as we used the car. Good luck with the impending birth!

In that case then it should be down to the Government to chase up people who have not had their children vaccinated, as their GPs would be aware that they have not taken their children to have their jabs. I don't think it is up to us to make it our mission to be rude to people and tell them how foolish and silly they are. If it is a public health matter, then I am sure the Government would make it law that every single child has no choice but to get it done especially if it is going to cause these diseases to spread like wildfire judging by the way some people are reacting. reggie Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Heidi > It is true that people have been rude which does > not help debate but immunisation is a public > health matter which can be considered to take > precedence over personal health decisions.

Sanne Panne, I think that is what Skip was actually referring to, I did point this out in my post. I don't think she is replacing the vaccines with homeopathic ones, I think she was asking about the neutraliser, as I know lots of people who do that, peace of mind I guess, it makes them feel better. I also do think some of the posts in regards to AntiJen are quite harsh, she is entitled to her own views as I am entitled to mine and likewise you are entitled to yours but some of the replies are just plain rude, this thread was not started by Skip so that people can come on here and tell her and Antijen how much they disagree with them it was started to ask about people's experiences with regards to homeopathic immunisations, if you don't like it, don't read it. You could also start a debate in the lounge entitled 'For and Against Immunisations' instead of hijacking this one, no wonder Skip has not replied if this is the response her question has generated!

Only some of the mummies in Dulwich have tasted my food since I cooked for their kids as a nanny....I don't recall macaroni cheese, sweet potato pie and mild curries scoring high or featuring on that programme...or pureed food in plastic bowls....

I love come Dine with me, I love the narrator especially. I have no idea why they wrote to me asking me to be part of the show, weird considering I watch it all the time ( and no, I didn't write asking to be part of it!). I would have taken part, but as I was very ill after having my first child, thus I was unable to,I cannot wait to see who did take part as it would be interesting to see who my competitors might have been! ( Ignoring all the sarcastic comments posted in reply to my first post as that is what you do with kids trying to seek attention...ignore!)

I got a letter asking me to take part in Come Dine with me but had to decline as I have a new baby.

Well done Amy! I am so pleased with you, hopefully he will get completely used to it and you will be able to switch between bottle and breast with ease and without any resistance. I am told it is better to try and introduce a bottle of expressed milk from birth in order for baby to take easily to both bottle and breast but alas, I was too busy trying to get the hang of breastfeeding never mind trying to express also! I start my mission today with the MAM bottles since he refused the breastflow, kind of tolerates the tommee tippee but with tears, so lets' hope I fare better with the MAM.

Well done Amy! I am so pleased with you, hopefully he will get completely used to it and you will be able to switch between bottle and breast with ease and without any resistance. I am told it is better to try and introduce a bottle of expressed milk from birth in order for baby to take easily to both bottle and breast but alas, I was too busy trying to get the hang of breastfeeding never mind trying to express also! I start my mission today with the MAM bottles since he refused the breastflow, kind of tolerates the tommee tippee but with tears, so lets' hope I fare better with the MAM.

I know what it is but cannot say on here. No druggies though!

Thanks everyone, I just got back from Peckham mothercare with my MAM bottles, they did not have any medium flow teats in stock so I shall have to try the slow and fast teat. I hope it is successful. Amy, I am really pleased you are having luck with breastflow x

Rather than take a trip to Peckham on the off chance that Boots sell the MAM bottles ( none are on their website) does anyone know if I can purchase a MAM bottle in Dulwich? I am trying to get my son to take expressed milk, he does ok with Tommee Tippee but only after tears and if someone else feeds him then straight after he wants my breast which is defeating the object, I thought I would give MAM a go but my mum said Sainsbury's do not sell them.

Thank you ladies, I have just purchased a mattress from M&P, I cannot believe his mattress costs more than mine!

There's a two weeks wait to collect your items if you go to all fired up. Molly that is a wonderful idea, I shall get my son one for his 1st birthday!

I did start on re-useables ( ask the nappy lady) but my son is such a heavy wetter that I was constantly changing them and he would get leakages. Not nice having to change a damp new born baby quite a few time during the night, I kept it up until he was 5 weeks and he ended up in hospital with a serious UTI. Since we were in hospital for a few days it was disposables, and as he gets through around 15 nappies a day ( I have to change him up to four times in the night alone as his nappies gets very wet and heavy that it starts leaking if I don't and he poos so much also) I have decided to hold off the re-usables until he is weaned in a few months ( I have ittis and tots bots all waiting for to be used!). He shall be my eco warrior but just not right now.

Mellors Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I've even had to resort to going back to Peckham > Pulse soft play, despite the fact that the ball > pool really smells of wee.... LOL, I had noticed that too...must be why it is so cheap to get in!

Excellent...not too far to go for this non driver who has a baby that gets through a planet destroying amount of nappies....

I am more upset that none of my clothes fit me ( still wearing summer maternity clothes) and the fact that I don't have a coat, I am stubbornly refusing to buy one because I don't intend to wear it for long ( she says whilst eating pink wafers biscuits). My son and I braved the elements today and I was dressed in a thin summer maternity cardigan to protect me from the winds. Warm?...no. On a positive note, the darkness does make me appear slimmer and I don't look half as rough under the cover of darkness. Must be harder if your kids are older as I am guessing they won't be happy just popping to the local shops for biscuits and chocolate among other comfort food....unlike my son who thinks it is absolutely great and falls alsleep in his sling on the way back.

I had my BCG when I was a teenager, however I don't have a scar, not even a little one, is that normal since people are saying the scar is recognised as having the BCG jab? Magpie, they are giving babies the BCG now in areas that are considered at risk of TB, London being one of them, though I have friends who live out of London and this is not considered a risk area so their babies do not have to have the BCG jab.

I am for what Josiebee said: Another thing I would like to point out is that while on the whole most people can deal with immunisations there are people whose systems do respond very badly and there are people who have died directly as a result of immunisations - sadly many of them. Perhaps you regard this as a necessary price to pay to have an immunised society. However there are with some vaccines tests which can be done to see if children can handle a particular vaccination or not. I think it would be good if there could be a slightly more individualised approach to vaccination and some recognition that some children's systems will be less able to handle them. My son did have his first set of jabs and he will be having the rest but as I said, we should have more choices in how we wish to administer them, If we as parents want to pay that little bit extra for peace of mind, then we should have the choice, it is our money, so the NHS is hardly going to lose out if we have to pay extra ( through choice)and not all babies are able to tolerate the jabs. The ones in which I know of, their mothers had faulty immunity ( like myself) and their kids have ended up with health problems, whether it is connected to the jabs, who knows? but it would be nice to be able just to limit that risk and if they still get conditions and illnesses, we at least tried. I don't believe one size fits all.

Looks like this debate could go on and on and on....

Polmoche, you are entitled to your views but at the same time, other parents are entitled to theirs. I didn't say the NHS should license anything, I said that these clinics are using unlicensed medication. These parents are paying their taxs for the NHS also, and if they want to pay extra to have the jabs as singles, or to space them out, they should be allowed.