Robert Poste's Child

IlonaM Wrote: > -------------------------------------------------- > And ... he is known to frequent South London. > Therefore, you might recognise him. It needs no > comment. Agree with Malumbu: you need to tell people what it is, not just post a link and expect them to unpack it for you. Think you'll also find more people will click through if they know what it's about.

Spotted a graphic that helps men check whether they're mansplaining: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-6039399/Woman-explains-patronising-mansplaining-clever-chart.html

I was walking. She drove her car into me deliberately.

Bet she lives around here. I was nearly injured once when I stopped on the edge of one of the disabled bays in Sainsbury's car park while I read a text message (thought it would be safer to be out of the main traffic flow first) and a driver drove her car right up to nudge me out of the way even though other disabled spaces were free. When I told her what I thought (euphemism) she got out of her car and ran at me. She's cured: it's a miracle!

Try Google. I'm sure there are plenty of initiatives and campaigns out there you could join.

Isn't it OK for people to judge for themselves whether they need more space? The rest of us need to accept that, as with disability, neeeds aren't always visible and they don't always stay the same - meaning they may be temporary or intermittent.

Or what used to be called having good manners!

Exactly. Not sure if it's being the change you want to see in the world or just being middle aged, but I've been known to spend half an hour walking up one side of my road and down the other with a plastic bag and a pair of marigolds, making everything nice again. Once or twice a week I also sweep the common parts of the flats I live in; in ten years I've never seen anyone else do it. Then there's my weekly bin tidying and picking up of abandoned dog mess. All completely selfish, of course, as it keeps things looking nice and stops dirt and smells that might make it a less pleasant place for me to live.

James, just wanted to say I love that you've renamed your thread slightly and kept it going! Quite right too.

We can pick them up and put them in a bin! I often clean up my section of my road and generally when I'm out and about. If say 5% of people did that, wouldn't it be great?

I didn't have a phone with me at the time and by the time I got to DLC five minutes later I felt it was no longer an active enough situation, plus when you're the victim, even a potential one, it's all rather confusing at the time and you're not sure if it was a crime or not.

Pugwash Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Maybe the best solution is to have wider bays so > all of us who struggle getting in/out car can push > the car door open wide without scratching another > car. That's a really good idea. Perhaps just one area, badged like the priority seats on trains and buses. Except in ED where it will be called Pugwash Parking.

I wonder if areas like Dulwich, that have felt safe and stable for years by comparison with some parts of London, are struggling more with the police cuts. Many people say they always feel safe in the centre of Brixton, for example, because it's well lit and has a strong police presence.

And a map showing the boundaries of the ward?

My panier was on the inside and the guy was reaching across behind me. I've started carrying a broken phone with me in the hope I'll be able to palm them off with that if it comes to a mugging. It still looks good and seems to work. They won't know it fell down the loo (but I will...).

Agree, but you only have to leave the house to see that plenty of people can't do without it that long so at least it means they can have a line of self-defence.

That's appalling. Did you get any support from the police?

Angelina Wrote: -------------------------------------------------------e > - it's a bit of a snobby dig actually. Or maybe just the truth in this case? The OP wasn't making a generalisation about council tenants, they were looking for practical advice about a specific situation.

Mine's just a simple panic button that makes a loud noise, bit like having a rape alarm on your phone, but there are other apps out there that you can set up to send your GPS location to nominated contacts and call emergency services for you. It looks like some of them you could set up to activate by voice or shaking the phone. Might have to get one of those.

Local councillor? And keep records.

Not much help while cycling but I have an extremely loud panaic alarm on my phone home screen that I can hit if anyone approaches me while I'm using it, or just to have available while I'm walking at night.

I'm not sure they target London either - I think they live here and the ones in gangs literally believe they own the area they live in and cam do what they like.

I think you're taking rather a pessimistic view, uncleglen. More police on the street, both on foot and in cars, a properly staffed phone line so people actually get an answer and some immediate action, and a law that states anyone who gets hurt in the course of committing a crime, including if they take off their helmet then fall off, is automatically to blame for their own injury.

Do you know what mental illness actually is? I find it really disappointing that, despite all the raising of awareness and destigmatising in recent years, some people still have that kneejerk reaction. Why not call it what it is: an assault, and one with a racist tone to it.

For what it's worth, Toffee, I don't think you deserved the rather rabid response you got. I don't know you or whether you have an 'agenda' but the response was out of proportion to what you said.