from my own experience of having to work and the glory of hindsight, life would have been so much easier if I'd swapped nursery / after school club for a childminder who would ensure the kids are home at a good time, eaten, bathed and all chilled. If you have the luxury of not working at all, I would strongly recommend going for it. Childhood years are short and the more time you have available for your children the better. There a many people who do other things in their day - you could perhaps look laterally and see aht alternatives are available to you then your current job. My friend - mother of three young children, one on the spectrum, has stopped working her day job and is homeschooling her children. She has become a successful author and blogger and the voice for a number of child-related companies. You never know how anything will turn out. But one thing you cannot undo is time lost. Give it a year or so and find a new job if you find you can't abide not working. Or ask work for a sabbatical. Or reduced hours for a period of time. Child care is expensive and it doesn't stop when kids are at school.