Cazzyr started the thread with this post: "Are there are gay/lesbian parents out there who'd fancy meeting up mid week on a fortnightly basis? My girlfriend and I are Mums to a 10 month old and feel it would be good to meet up with other parents and do fun things together. I wouldn't intend it to be a discussion group per se...simply a kids/parents get together.There's loads on for hetero parents but v little for the gays in the village!" perfectly reasoned and with a quip! Scruffy Mummy responded with a great informative post and a "Good Luck" Then, and hour later, Lozzy chipped in with his post; "I don't mean to sound ignorant (here goes) but can you also join in with hetero groups and do fun things together or does that not work if you're gay parents? If it doesn't work is it because the hetero group does not accept you or because you prefer to stick with like? Sorry, just curious!" Hardly provocative (how else could he have couched such a question?), but then it all kicked off. OK, so ideally the original post should have been in the wanted section, or Lozzy could have started his own thread to discuss the issues raised. But something - OK its good to have a knockabout on here from time to time, but all the unnecessary personal invective is plain unnecessary. And it's always a pity when an innocent post ends up like this, with new posters feeling hard done to and people being unfairly accused. Citizen - straight from the Relate offices.