womanofdulwich

i have done mon, wed and thurs for a long time. but i divert workphone to my mobile and check e mails on my palm every 3 hours on my day off. If i don't get the job someone else will and i find that if you are not there your colleagues give you the duff jobs. i think it all depends on what job you have. and what kind of clients you have.when my clients were housing associations they were very accepting of a day off being a day off. i think a lot of them worked part time. private clietns don't see it that way.

I think if you have been a cleaner, chambermaid, shop assistant or waitress it can make you a considerate client/customer. OR- like my mum ( worked in a shoe shop for a while-bless her) you might get your revenge by getting every pair of shoes out in the shoe shop and go away buying nothing........... Oh the shame. I think that is why I end up buying shoes that don't quite fit.

I second either a takeaway or eat out one day at weekend. LIfe is for living.I think a microwaved baked potato with baked potatoes and grated cheese is a healthy meal. So too is pasta, cheese and frozen veg.

Goodness- I am sure you can stay in your dressing gown and slippers and have a bath/ shower later in the day for the first month ( at least). Don't be so hard on yourself!! This is serious nesting time with horrible weather out there.

If you can afford it, get a cleaner/ironer. Maybe even someone that prepares a meal for you for when you get home.You cannot be expected to work fulltime and be a mum and "do" the house. if you can't find one person do do this for you maybe ask one of the nursery nurses if she would like to earn some extra money by bringing your daughter home once a week or once a fortnight just to give you a space. If you can use your freezer and microwave to cook up double/ triple meals so that you do not have to cook so much after work. Hope this helps. If are not doing so already, try to eat with her so that when she is in bed you can have your time and a relaxing bath /red wine. Good luck, you are doing rally well to get all that done by 7.30!!

Declan Sainsburys staff are lovely. However since Halfords was opened in Brixton I have not found a helpful member of staff there, let along one that will look you in the eye or smile or make any kind of contact. Maybe it is just my bad luck but there seems to be no customer care at all. Everyone is very begrudging and I buy everything from wiggle now if I can.

Model man, I am sure we had a lovely chat on Friday. As everyone else on the checkout I have chatted to over the past 20 years you are lovely. Most of us have had a job like this at some stage. You just have to make the most of it. I always make a point of chatting ( other than when we are trying to watch a fight move through the store)! :)

I use rubber gloves for all washing now. ALso highly recommend Clarins hand cream. It is ?13 or ?15 but is the best I have come across. Keep a few hand creams dotted around house near sinks to remind you to put it in as soon as you have washed hands. Maybe a monthly manicure? LOL

not sure if that counts as essential travel- but probably essential in order to travel.

sorry minitoots she was offering some remnants late last year.

I am hoping so, what if they leave home, first day work /uni they have been up playing all night and are found a week later slumped over their console not left their room or eaten - does this ever happen? I watched a program about world of warcraft and some addicts can't leave the room to go to the loo.................Don't want that to happen. Just some people seem much more vulnerable than others to this? any other youngsters out there find it a problem?

try monitoots - she is very knowledgeable

Do you think if you are a compulsive on line gamer anything could make you change your ways? Would you have to take up another button fiddling devise or could sex drugs rock and roll take its place instead of call of duty x box live ( halo etc before that?)? Would appreciate older gamers advise how they manage life and constant at home access to x box? ( opposed to mum saying time to stop to 18 year old after 5 hours?)

essential- basic food and gin non essential- foie gras and creme de menthe essential- going to school for a public exam non essential- going to school to sit in class all day and not being allowed out for health and safety reasons essential - going to work to look after people or animals or in a shop that sells essential food items or to supervise public exams non essential- any other work especially if you have a mobile/ pc ( you may not agree with the gin part- you may substitute whisky/brandy/vodka, but nothing fancy)

This all sounds like February doesn't it? Maybe we should all stay in town late, have a meal and a few drinks and get the bus back at 10 ish?

the Bromley pool was being completely over hauled the weekend before Christmas- now water in it and scaffolding- so check before you leave .

Milliband, charisma? only to Hilary Clinton surely?

maybe you were a terrible career father because you know your partner would prioritise the children above a career- typical stereotypes of male/female. That is what society prefers to happen.

Ohh sorry but I cannot let that go Steve. That is too wide a generalisation. Single mothers/ main breadwinners. Can a good father be a career man?

oh eater81 you have hit the nail on the head there!!

definitely still slippered on Isle of Wight in 1973 ( ouch).

I was at the checkout -it was pretty scary as the guys involved ran back into the shop at one stage, and all the cashiers machines were frozen-I was surprised at how many plain clothes security people were there though.

I kept a diary when i was a teenager ay school and going to uni for 5 years ( 16-21). I found it last year and could not believe how miserable life was sometimes- all that angst that you can completely forget. Found it quite helpful having a teenager myself. Funny thing is, some thoughts worries are the same 30 years later, and some seem so childish - you do forget. I kept a diary - of sorts- the first few years of motherhood as I could not believe how hard it was and it helped enormously with a second child to look back and see the records of the first and remember what happened. I certainly would not want anyone to read either of them.

It is a real eye opener if you have to stop drinking for a while and go out with drinking mates. You can enjoy their company for a while but sometimes you just have to go ( pregnancy and breastfeeding did it for me, shame men don't have to do this too).

we did australia with a 4 month old going out and stayed 2 months. it was really easy ( as mainly breastfeeding and minimum equipment required). somehow the time change affected baby very positively to sleeping 10 hours ( from 6 hours) !! qantas and a bassinet . 6 months old coming was good too- but i think it would start to get a bit harder after that.