helenat1970 Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- In their world everything > isn't OK - everything is collapsing around them. I > don't believe in denying them their emotions - > they have a right to tears and screams - trouble > is tears and screams and other such behaviour is > grating to the parent, and the child should not > get to be in a position to abuse this behaviour > (to get their own way for something). Hence > removal - excellent strategy. I am thinking of times when I have been overcome by emotion. Not usually anger, but exhausted frustration ... occasionally in late pg or with newborn baby I found myself in tears or shouting at the other children. Mr F isn't particularly tolerant of this sort of thing, but the best thing for me has been the times he has just given me a big hug and said something soothing. If he just told me to stop and walked away, it would be very hurtful. If I lose it emotionally, I want kind gentle touch... not to be ignored until I have cooled down. I don't see that a toddler is any different.