Fuschia

I think it fairly standard for London schools to hire pitches in Council run parks (along with swimming pools etc) where they don't have facilities of their own. This is not a particularly cheap option though. I do think it's a bit out of order if it was specifically stated in planning meetings that the academy WOULDN'T use facilities at P Rye, for them to change their mind so quickly, but I'm not surprised.

You can have homebirth style but in hospital at Kings (although the rooms are quite medical) if you discuss and plan for what sort of monitoring etc you want. But it helps to have someone confident with you to stand up for your wishes. I'm thinking no continuous monotoring, move around as you want, eat, drink etc, minimal examinations, no unfamiliar faces. All possible by negotiation unless meducal requirements really dictate otherwise.

Not sure I would want a stranger taking over the care of my baby during our first days together, but that's just me. Suppoort from a doula prob has some overlap. For a quick confident exit from hospital and fantastic hand holding throughout, the ?3.5k we spent on IMWs with the twins was worth very penny. Came to see me at home late at night when I was having funny symptoms, tested BP and urine and took me to the labour ward, then viaited me daily when I was in with pre-eclampsia, came with me to scans/see obs while I was sinpatient and DP had to work. Were with me throughout induction, ensured all my wishes were met, liaised with hospital MWs who delivered me, gave me confidence to leave hospital as soon as was possible, viisted me as necessary at home to ensure the twins were feeding and OK. One was quite jaundiced, I fear we would have been rehospitalised except for close monitoring m=by the MWs and help with feeding. Knowing a hospital birth was best for twins, but having a hospital phobia, having IMWs ensured we still got the birth we wanted.

That's weird cos all 3 of mine like salad.. Tomatoes are one of M's faves, T likes cucumber esoecially and C will eat the lot plus lettuce leaves, spinach, raw pepper and celery. M also likes beetroot. When tescos come they will rip open the tomato pack and scoff them before I notice (really!) I can only put it down to the fact that i eat it every day myself and they have had it with nearly every meal... not much chance to reject it!!!

Tee hee http://www.thedailymash.co.uk/news/society/middle-class-to-sell-their-children-201010043135/

expat Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > > Each child is a positive addition to the > economy > Only if they are tax payers. What proportion of the children of higher rate taxpayers don't go on to contribute to society by working?

I had IMWS for our twins who were with me in hospital as 'friends' but gave me confidence to leave hospital later on the day they were born.

These articles are about the costs of fertility treatment but have some info about the NET contribution to society of each child, once benefits and education etc have been netted off http://www.bbc.co.uk/blogs/thereporters/ferguswalsh/2010/09/the_globalisation_of_fertility_treatment.html 'Professor Evers said each new life contributes around 238,000 euros (?200,000) to the economy once healthcare, education, social welfare and retirement costs were taken into account. He based his calculations on the Netherlands but said similar calculations could be done elsewhere. ' http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/5095884.stm

SW: your children will be paying all our pensions in years to come. Each child is a positive addition to the economy if you look at their lifetime... a child doesn't cost more in benefits than it contributes in tax etc over its life, just the opposite. Hence most European countries have policies designed to increase the birth rate!

SW: can he claim childcare vouchers as that will reduce his taxable income? Can be sued for summer schemes etc. NM: I also have child no 4 on the way and CB is very important to us financially. We don't get any help with childcare costs or anything. We ARE the taxpayer! I'd rather my tax went on benefits than nuclear weapons!

Jill Demilew is a consultant midwife and very nice Leonie Penna is also a very supportive consultant

If you have a vaginal birth you can leave the postnatal ward within a few hours. I'd speak to an IMW re HBAC... I can recommend mine (PM me) also recommend C Neillands for hypnobirthing/reassurance to get over birth trauma Doula also an option to spend time with you postnatally x

randomv Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > My 2 year old has just started throwing stuff > around, clearly for effect as he looks at me for a > reaction straight away. I've started to ignore him > the first time, tell him no throwing and if he > throws again I'll put the toys away on the second > throw, That's what I do... good idea with much behaviour, one warning then remove from scene etc. Difficulty with things that are mean or dangerous (biting, hurting) you need a different regime. One strike and you're out. I would probably say... No hurting, that's not kind! And put them on the nuaghty/thinking chair or step for a minute then make them say sorry and ensure they understand they just hurt the other person. With twins you have constant availability of a victim and so endless bites/hits/tears etc!!

Interesting discussion here: http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/secondary/1039265-gcse-higher-lower-tiers-advice-please/AllOnOnePage

Get the sing and sign dvd it's very good, all of mine have lovd dit

Moos Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > > Still, I hear that 4 is a huge improvement, as > they become more able to reason? (she said, > hopefully) I'm afraid 4 is worse. But luckily full time schooling intervenes!

I think once you have explained about the coming out, you can just say mummy and daddy have a special cuddle and daddy squirts a special seed from his willy to mummy's fifi (or whatever) and it swims inside where it finds a tiny egg and starts to grow into a tiny baby and if that seems a bit much you can say the baby starts to grow in mummy's tummy from an egg from mummy and a seed from daddy... and go into the mechanics a bit more when asked, only

I would arrange a meeting with the school to discuss it. If there is reason to believe her target should be B or above then it should be possible to work towards that, I would have thought....

James Barber Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- In exchange the Lib Dems get the Pupil > Premium - where schools get extra money for every > child from a disdvantaged background - based on > Dutch idea. The first tranche of Pupil Premium > arrives Sept 2011. Only schools in deprived areas like the one I work in, which already got enhanced funding through various mechanisms, will apparently lose out substantially as the same money gets spread across more LEAS/more schools. So the pupils in our area will actually get less. And although it was promised schools would be "protected" we are going to have to fork out to pay for many services that we used to receive for free or subsidised, as spending cuts decimate the LEA. I estimaate the effect of these two factors will be cuts upwards of 10% in my school.

Yes Molly, i ignore so much and don't feel like tantrums cause us problemns.. it's mostly down to attitude

The Nappy Lady Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > > I think it is better to prepare yourself for the > chance children may be exposed to this stuff, and > to have had conversations with them about it all. have already spoken about drink and drugs to our 7 yo...

Moos Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- - I shouldn't speak for Fuschia, but I > think she meant the same thing - that to come > across alcohol is inevitable I meant it will happen and it doesn't mean your child is moving in totally tghe wrong circles... it's rife, And was when I was a teenager too...

George Osborne last year "We will preserve child benefit"

dulwichmum Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- If you want well > informed, researach based advice on this subject > you should ask your health visitor. You must have been very lucky in your choice of HVs, is all I can say!!

Society needs the children to be born to work their socks off for years to come to pay for pensions and the huge debt!!