Fuschia

Glad I didn't vote for them. Even in families where both earner are higher rate tax payers, if you have several children the CB is still an important part of family income. Esp when you bear in mind the high cost of childcare

I don't have a teenager but I remember being one. I think if she doesn't want you on FB you can't force her. It's not such a big deal being at a party with dope and alcohol at 14. I think your role is to make sure she knows how to keep herself safe and can confide in you, as you are doing. If your friend can keep an eye on her via FB that's no bad thing.

Great idea! They don't even need to go in, just phone up with some queries about swim lessons, birthday parties etc... see how far they get!

Tanza Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > That's reassuring that your son still reads a lot > despite the distractions of high tech gadgets. > Thanks Fuschia. Total bookworm, rather bucks the trend for boys! I put it down to: dad read him bedtime story for YEARS Lots of books in our house and we do read Good teaching of phonics in reception so he started to read within a few weeks Me ordering books form the librray, starting him on sets by one author... Story CDs in the car The main thing is opportunity I think... read good books with them then give them easy good books to read. A friend ehose little girl same age wasn't reading only had books aimed at 3-5... once she bought an Enid Blyton box set, her DD was off and away!

Our son has one. since he was 6. Very useful for car journeys, wiating for appontments etc. He doesn't play with it much at other times. But we do also have cable TV, he has a PC and we have a wii (rarely used) He reads a lot It's all about moderation imo

And I buy both frubes tubes for the twins and frubes pouches for DS1's packed lunch. So much less MESSY than organic pots.. I think you have to weigh it all up. A certain amount of convenience = a mother who isn't a screaming harpy, after all!

Delivery pizza from pizzahut... Also these days the only fishpie and cottage pie they get (I used to do homemade but DS1 and I are veggy and DP doesn't eat mash) is Little Dish. Oh, and somewhere along the way somebody brought cheerios into the house, previously my regime was just porridge, shreddies and weetabix. Now cheerios is everybody's favaourite! Addictive stuff.

tfayers Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I find it extremely difficult to find a parking > space near my house (near East Dulwich Station / > top end of lordship lane), especially during the > daytimes. I really hope they will make the area a > controlled parking zone (residents' parking) soon. I hope if they do it's purely something to deter commuters from all day parking, like 11-12. Would hate never to be able to park in that area!

I will be there this Tues. My appt isn't till 11 but they always let me come straight after the school drop and squeeze me in. I get my blood taken in clinic as I am in a study, see the dr then usually have something to eat while I wait for my drugs from the pharmacy. Perhaps we can have a coffee. Wull PM you my mobile no if you like.

Few weeks ago M tore the buggy raincover off in a deluge and wouldn't let me replace it. So i trudged from GG to JoJo and popped in to the shelter. The staff were cooing over M asking if I needed a cloth to dry her... I must have sounded really mean when i said.. no, don't bother, it's her own fault! T was wet too, and he wasn't even at fault.

You will prob find the minder can persuade him, years of experience.. plus it's us the mums they like to wind up!! I recommend you stay indoors, share a bath together, watch TV all day and eat chips! Always works for us!

Vickster Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > All really good advice, thanks. I am seeing the > consultant on Wed so will see what she says. As if > labour wasn't stressful enough! It should be a question of them explaining the issues to you so you can agree on a plan... there is nothing that is FIXED and you MUST do, more a question of exploring how you can get the best fit between their protocols and your birth plan wishes while minimising risk. Take someone with you? You have tiem to finetune and discuss further with MWS anyway. MWs are less risk averse and don't "lay it on the line" in the same way, I've found.

PS Might see you in haematology clinic, I go Tuesday ams, monthtly atm. They are lovely there, much more caring than antenatal or scanning depts, ironically! The receptionists are so apologetic if things runs late.

PS Not that I am usually keen on induction AT ALL but once you choose against it, you do risk needing a GA if a CS becomes necessary, so it was certainly a bit of a gamble in our birthplan for the twins. DS1 being a fast, easy birth, luckily epidural never became an issue 9and I'd taken my dose in the morning, missed the evening as I was in labour. . I don't think Kings have a 24h policy, because IIRC we would have been OK with my last dose being 12h previously. I had agreed if I used the pool to get out before the birth in case of bleeding after. There was also some discussion about injecting vs oral Vit K, but I got the oral protocol i wanted. Also worth agreeing how quickly you can leave hospital after. Def worth discussing with obstetrician, the supervisor of midwives and if you have one, your own midwife, so you can formulate a plan you're happy with with the switch from home to hospital birth.

I would worry more abou the timing of labour than the bf after side. I note from that Cornwall NHS guideline it says 12h after prophlyactic dose, 24h after treatment dose (for epidural or spinal anaesthesia) so depending on Kings guidelines, unfortunately you do have a bit of a dilemma about whether to opt for induction to guarantee your access to those things... Are you under consultant care now for the pregnancy? If you haven't yet been referred to a particular one, i'd suggest leonie penna. Good to have a nice clear discussion about the various ins and outs.

http://www.rcht.nhs.uk/DocumentsLibrary/RoyalCornwallHospitalsTrust/NursingMidwiferyAHP/ThromboprophylaxisDuringPregnancyLabourAndAfterVaginalDelivery.pdf

Vickster Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > It is certainly not recommended by the Clexane > manufacturers in the leaflet that comes with the > drug, hence my question, but I too had read the > breastfeeding network advice and my midwife > doesn't seem to think it is a problem. Clexane really ISN'T an issue (it's proven safe in pg after all) It's only warfarin where in the paat it was recommended not to bf on it. I think the notes re clexane warn against using it in pg even? That's just the manufacturer covering themselves, they can't test on pg or lactating women remember. But many hunbdres of thousands of women take it postnatally... it's usual for a few days after a CS, for instance. Don't worry!

Belle, that's all totally normal! It WILL pass. My twin II never gets dressed when told ... now i just go to the front door with twin 1 and we start putting our shoes and coats on then she rushes up to us naked and I grab her then and do it as we leave the house... there are some advanatages of peer pressure whe you have 2. Child no 1 several times went to the minder in his pjs, once my partner brought him home on the bus with no shoes or coat on as he just wouldn't cooperate

minder Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I notice this is information dated March 2009 - > this all happened to me nearly 12 years ago now so > advice was probably different! I was very > depressed about this at the time but now, 12 years > later, things change. > > Oh well, my 4 week premature boy was 18 couple of > weeks ago and is now 6ft 2inches and will be going > uni next year. > > My two girls 14 and nearly 12 also doing well. > > All have never had any ill effects (allergies, > illnesses) so I've been very lucky! I think they probably are less cavalier now about telling mnothers they shouldn't bf when there is no real evidence! I hav eheard of women ebing told it's contradindicated, esp in the US

http://www.ivillage.com/breastfeeding-safe-while-taking-anticoagulants/6-n-137161 Dr Arya said he offers Clexane postnatally now anyway, I think since he had his own child he realises how hard it is to troll up to Kings all the time for blood tests with a newborn in tow

minder Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Fuschia - I was told I couldn't breastfeed while > on warfarin - I had been to some breastfeeding > workshops as well before the birth because I was > determined this time to breastfeed. I didn't with > my older two (one was premature and wasn't > latching on and with my second I had mastitis and > gave up). > > Maybe it depends on the warfarin dosage but that's > prob why you were told to watch baby for bruises. > Warfarin can cause internal bleeding if you have a > knock or bump to the body. I fed on it for 3m. It used to be standard at Kings, warfarin postnatally. i am afraid there is nothing written anywhere about not bf oon the usual doses. You can't get pg while on it, mind you http://www.breastfeedingnetwork.org.uk/pdfs/Anticoagulants_and_Breastfeeding_March_2009.pdf

I'm not sure about that. I was told the damage left by the clot means it will look like a clot for a long time afterwards. They have a treatment regime (to the birth and prob for 3m afterwards) that won't vary anyway. I was prepared for the possibility with the twins that unless we went for routine induction, if the timing was bad and I had taken my clexane too recently, then if we needed an emergency CS it would require a general anaesthetic... in the end I was induced as twin II stopped growing. If you want to be able to rely on having an epidural, a planned induction is the best option I believe. I really didn't want that with DS1. when I was on the treatment dose, we're lucky the timings worked out, as it was a very fast labour with no warning! (Though I didn't want or need an epidural)

Neither heparin or warfarin affects breastfeeding, though I remember being told to watch the baby for any unusual bruises.

I was on a treatment dose of heparin (fragmin it was then) in my first pg, as you are, and also had to drop homebirth plan.... or even delivering in water. As I got close to birth my dose was split into two half doses... you can't have an epidural within x no of hours of a dose (6h?) though that wasn't my plan anyway. Miss the dose when you're in labour, they liaise with haematology when you're in labour in case it goes on so long you need to take a dose. First dose after birth, 6h later. I was then on oral anticoagulants - warfarin - for 3m (awful, reAL HASSLE WITH BIWEEKLY TRIPS TO kINGS FOR BLOOD TESTS) though I believe know they keep you on the injectables to reduce hassle. Soon after that I had a series of blood tests looking for underlying clotting disorders ... which i do have. So I need heparin if I fly etc etc In subsequent pgs i have injected throughout, till 6w after. It didn't affect the twin birth at all... and for our new baby I am hoping for a homebierth.. the prophylactic dose is much smaller.

sb Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Hi Fuschia > > If you join as an Access member it's ?57 annual > fee for a family. This enables you to book > classes, including baby swim, at Peckham/Dulwich > etc, you still pay for classes but it's > discounted. = That's not listed at all now in the price list I linked to above. Is there info about it online anywhere?