hellosailor

Strawbs is he waking and wanting to be fed or just needing to be resettled without feeding? If appatently for a feed, does he just snack for a minute or two? Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > This is happening to me too, Toby is 11+3 and I > feel like I'm living in a torture chamber!!! I > read this thread and got some calgel an have used > it liberally but it didn't work.. I've taken him > off dairy free milk where I was lucky if he drank > 20ml at a time thinking it was a hunger thing and > he is now drinking 120-150ml but still doing it!! > He sleeps soundly from 7.30-10.30pm (thank god !!) > but from then on its 45mins on the dot through til > morning.. > > The tiredness is killing me, I'm considering > getting a doula in to show me what I'm doing > wrong.. > > X

Got a leaflet through the door a few days ago saying Zumba classes are about to start there...

In my humble opinion Nero makes the very worst coffee in east dulwich, tepid, brown water, bears no relation to anything even approaching coffee. dire. Blue Mountain and The Blue Brick Cafe and Homemade are my favourites

ugh, the dreaded restless legs syndrome, was the bane of my pregnancy too, I feel for you, - cutting down or eliminating caffeine can help.

Is another possibility that he needs longer awake time before the morning nap and afternoon nap? At around the same time mini sailor became a bit nap resistant until I realised she needed to be awake for a bit longer before a nap than she used to, just a thought.

Another vote for the widgey, very firm and you can even balance a book or laptop (!) behind the baby for those long evenings cluster feeding! I bought two, one for upstairs and one for downstairs, both bought second hand on here

thanks so much for your long reply oimissus, I have actually already tried the boots angled cutlery to no avail but will keep trying her with them! The list of easy foods you describe is pretty much the stuff I'm trying daily at the mo, having lost heart whipping up lengthier and more complicated / expensive recipes to be thrown on floor - so sandiwches, tomato puree and cheese on toast, scrambled egg etc are the things I'm doing, but if one day she has maximum one soldier of, say, tomato puree and cheese, every day thereafter throws it straight on the floor and won't even taste. That's what I'm increasingly struggling with - having accepted that the days of hearty meat casseroles and fish pies, macaroni cheese etc, are over - at least for now - I assumed some of the failsafe basics like cheese sandiwich or pasta with grated cheese or scrambled egg would be ok to fall back on, but when they won't even eat those...you end up giving yoghurt and toast 3 times a day, sigh. In answer to your question - hard to say if currently teething, not displaying any obvious symptoms tho.. Snowboarder I can't help but feel a pang of jealousy that eating an ellas pouch and a sandwich at a sitting is a bad meal at yours, I would barely be able to contain my excitement if she ate that now, hoho! Gives me hope tho. I am perhaps going to go the toys, books, distraction route a bit and see if it helps or hinders as people have suggested, sure it's against every bit of parenting advice, but frankly if it makes her eat a sandwich I'll do a handstand while impersonating a horse.

I've always been confused about this - is their a link between waitrose and ocado? I used to think ocado was just the online shopping for waitrose with a different name, but now I see waitrose vans I guess they are nothing to do with each other?

We use sainsburys but not sure why as pretty much all the fresh food they deliver to you has an expiry date within 48 hours, as if they think you are going to eat 12 meals in 2 days or throw them away. I understand that they are going to use their online shoppers as a way to clear the food with the nearest expiry date, rather than select the food with the furthest possible date as you might when picking your own off the shelves, but it's a bit much when practically all of your weekly or fortnightly shop is due to go off within the first 2 or 3 days. I imagine they assume that with meat and fish, you will put it all in your freezer, but if your freezer is full, you end up throwing stuff away purely because there aren't enough meal times to consume it before it goes off. I have recently taken this up with sainsburys who have said they will look into it (final straw was when they delivered 3 different meat products at 6pm with a use by date of the following day, which if you took to mean midnight, ,meant I would have had to have eaten all three meals in the few hours before bed..not good.

Thanks so much for replies, really do appreciate the reassurance.. Uptime - yes, I have tried eating with her a lot to see if it makes any difference but so far it has not. Actually the best thing I can do is wander round the kitchen pretending to wipe down the surfaces or wash up, so as not to look bothered whether she is eating! She is not encouraged to eat by me eating unfortunately..will keep trying it in case it changes. embo71 - wish that magic wand existed!! Yes, breakfast is always at home as is early, but typically do at least one meal out of lunch and tea out and about with another mum and baby or group of babies. This is very hit and miss - sometimes it seems to encourage her to eat a few more mouthfuls, the distraction of the change of scene more than the other baby eating it seems, and other times it makes it worse than if we were at home - like the distraction is so great she just throws every single thing she is offered onto the floor and plays about without even tasting stuff - and to refuse to eat anything at all like that is not likely to happen in the quieter / calmer environment of home, where she would at least eat her 1 blimmin toast soldier usually. so I never know whether to take her out or not, but actually will have to keep doing so as frankly, 3 meals a day as gruelling as this in our kitchen, is not an option for me! Fuschia thank you I will read the link you posted.. emza78 - funnily enough the letting her hold her own spoon even if she didn't really use it, while I handed her finger foods and popped spoonfuls into her mouth with another spoon, worked okay for just a few days, but after that it has been no help. It's been about 3 weeks since that made a bit of a difference, though I still hand her a spoon hopefully during meal times!

thanks both for replies! Snowboarder she used to eat philadelphia sandwiches in the days when she used to eat generally, but no, wouldn't now. Even with a piece of buttered toast she will eat 1 soldier and then throw the rest on the floor. she will basically eat a small amount of toast (1 soldier) a small amount of cheese - few bites a few pieces of banana - just sometimes a fromage frais just sometimes some of a yoghurty ellas pouch just sometimes a few pieces of pasta with cheese melted on top just sometimes some shreddies (wouldn't eat all these at a sitting! just might have 2 o 3 things of this list over the course of a day!) she would not have any of the ellas pouches with savoury food now - just the yoghurty ones sometimes and she certainly wouldn't have any 'proper' food I made for her. if you remember any more tricks please let me know!

Yep, another thumbs up for cafe prov - very geared towards babies and children

My almost 11 month old daughter has gone from being a great eater to a terrible eater over the last month. I posted on here a couple of months ago when she started refusing to be spoon fed but was not dexterous enough to feed herself anywhere near the amount of food she was used to eating, so she was miserable and hungry all the time. Luckily on that occasion she started taking the spoon again after a week and guzzling down all the pots of home made food I have made and frozen for her. A month ago - triggered by teething and illness - she stopped eating for a few days and that in turn triggered her now longstanding refusal to be spoon fed or, even with finger foods, to eat barely anything. Obviously I only have the option of finger foods now - and the limits of this I find reeeeally stressful - yes of course you can try and be imaginative but there is a limit, really, to what an 11 month old can eat with her fingers. (she will only play about with the spoon, grab the wrong end etc, if handed one, there is no point me trying to get her to feed herself a casserole, pasta, etc, I have tried and tried) There is definitly a strong power play / bid for independence element to it - much of the time when I hand her foods or place them infront of her, she eyeballs me and dashes them on the floor etc. Often when she does put something in her mouth and I think she's swallowed it, she will suddenly spit it everywhere as she has actually only been storing it in her cheeks. I feel like rather than getting out and about with a thermos of warm food, easily peasily defrosted over night, like we used to be able to, I am now chained indoors most of the day, cooking stuff for her to throw on the floor, and what was briefly rather endearing(ooh, she's rebelling, how sweet!) a a few weeks ago is now making day to day life actually pretty miserable. It may sound faintly ridiculous but I wake up with a feeling of dread now '...3 meals to get through before bed...' Where she once would have had a hearty portion of lamb casserole, fish pie, chicken hot pot, veggie bake, for lunch and dinner, it is now a big deal if she has eaten a few bites of cheese and 1 toast soldier for a meal. Inevitably, like most babies she will often make an exception and allow me to feed her a fromage frais, but even this is sometimes spat out. Advice has varied from 'make her even more things to try' to 'stop even trying to give her meals, just give her milk'. I know people may kindly say reassuringly that 'food before one is just for fun' but I don't find that hugely reassuring as firstly, she is pretty nearly 1 and this may well be the situation after she is 1 too, and secondly, she gets so hungry now that she screams the house down for her milk feeds well before they're due because she is just not eating anywhere near what she is used to. The other day she screamed blue murder at 5am because she was so starving - she has not woken for food in the night since she was 2 months old, so I just can't make myself buy into the idea that just milk is suddenly enough when solids has been the bulk of what she consumes for months. The evidence of my own eyes is telling me that milk is plainly not cutting it on its own. Plus, when you are used to your sprog eating a lot of filling and nutritious food, and all that cooking having a high vegetable / protein content, the idea that they basically only eat toast feels far from fun! Is it really okay if your baby only eats toast and yoghurt? even if this goes on for months? if she wakes in the night or early morning because she has starved herself in the day, do I just start giving her more and more milk? really don't feel great about teaching her that it's fine to refuse food all day because mummy can just get up and replace the refused calories with milk! Am really torn between slaving over more and more annabel karmel finger foods to try and tempt her, even though it takes all day and they will prob be rejected, or just deciding that I have a child that only eats bread, and only making bread. sorry, rant over, any opinions or reassurance very gratefully received!

Yes we chose the bee and we never felt the lack of a carry cot in those early weeks as the bee cocoon is so snug our daughter loved to sleep in it. as you use the carry for for a relatively short amount of time if you choose a buggy with a carry cot, it's prob a good idea to think about what would suit your needs best in the longer term. I think even if we had been sold on the idea of needing a carry cot, we still would have opted for the bee as after the initial period the carry cot element would have stopped being useful and I felt the manoeuvrability of the bee and the size was the best choice for us longer term

The beco Gemini is basically the same as the ergo except you have a third option , forward facing front carry so the baby/ toddler can face outwards, which I don't think is poss with the ergo? Plus prettier fabric options! Though my other half still hasn't completely forgiven me for getting a floral one given that he does most of the wearing, and is ribbed from time to time by his mates over the pretty pattern!

have heard very good things about lidl 'toujours' as others have mentioned - though have not yet tried them. Whatever nappy you buy, it's possible to save money by buying in bulk from sainsburys's etc (i.e 1 pack is 8 quid but if you buy 2 it's 2 packs for 12 quid or whatever) but I would also say that it's a good idea not to buy anything like nappies or wipes in bulk ahead of having your baby as if you find that a particular brand doesn't seem to fit your baby well, or they get nappy rash from a particular nappy or wipe, it's a bugger if you've bought hundreds. Find out what works for your baby before buying in bulk!

Ah, yak, we crossed in the ether! That is indeed the thread! Am going to try 'pizza' tonight! x

I could have written this post myself about my almost 10.5 month old - looking forward to reading any replies! I think there was a similar thread on this recently, will have a search...

40 mins after lights out and still trying to get our 10 month old to go to sleep, maybe it wasn't my most brainiac move to do present opening directly before bed! Hope everyone has had a lovely day! x

Strawbs it happens most when the water is very hot as others have said, so helps to let it cool down in the kettle first. I use doctor browns and I don't shake the bottle when I add the formula, I stir it vigorously with a spoon for a few seconds instead.

Yes Merry Christmas Family Roomers, knowing you lot are here, in the ether and in person, has made a big difference in my first year of motherhood, thank you all! xxx

A Doll's house which you can add furniture / ornaments to each year? admittedly would come into it's own more in a few years but I had a doll's house which my mum would buy a few things for each year and I loved it. It had been her doll's house before it was mine.

rafe is a smashing name. Much prefer rafe to ralph as a spelling and avoids the correcting people problem - keep working on your husband!

That is fantastic news SW!, Congrats!

You do need the cocoon when the baby is younger, it lasts for about 9 months depending on the size of the baby. After that you can either get the bugaboo branded footmuff or a lot of other brand footmuffs like buggy snuggles also fit perfectly well on the bee. You can buy a good condition cocoon on here or on eBay for about 25 or 30 quid.