tog_in_sox has a point. The question does cut close to the bone for me because for one Remembrance Day always held an important place in my upbringing but its observance was a lot less military focussed than what I see around me and far more focused on the society which the soldiers were a part of not mutually exclusive to. The prescriptive nature of it is also difficult, it seems that it is incumbent upon everyone to mark the day or they may as well be spitting on veteran?s graves but they have to do it in the prescribed way and give to the prescribed charity. That?s hardly the spirit of an international day of observance. I also don?t mind one bit donating money to the Legion but I object strongly to being made to feel as if I have to. Secondly I spent 6 years of my childhood not knowing whether my 2 brothers (who are 19 and 16 years older than me) were going to come home from their tours in Angola alive. I was also all set to join the army myself when I was 18, I even considered coming over here and serving in the British army, until I ended up in 2 situations where I had to use a gun to defend myself and got to thinking very seriously if I would be prepared to do that at the behest of some government?s political ends. So I do get quite emotive about the subject because we really, really do have to mark the tragedy of war and especially those great wars of the last century but this world is so sick with war and violence that I can?t see how any message can in all conscience not have an ultimate pacifist end.