sazzle Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 I got this from some colleagues for a big '0' bday 3 years ago and have never worn it. Its not my cup of tea, bit dainty for me, but at the time i thought it was more the thought that counts and decided not to take it back. I have never worn it so am thinking about selling it to get something i might wear, is that morally acceptable? Where is the best place to sell stuff like this ebay?Saz Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/11640-is-it-wrong-to-sell-a-big-bday-present-i-have-never-worn/ Share on other sites More sharing options...
matthew123 Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 I suspect your colleagues would be saddened if they found out you'd now rejected their gift. For your action to be morally acceptable imo you should seek prior approval from your colleagues. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/11640-is-it-wrong-to-sell-a-big-bday-present-i-have-never-worn/#findComment-329457 Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsMc Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 I say 'sell' and don't feel bad about it, they're your colleagues not your grandma! Might be nice though, if you bought something else with the proceeds that you really do like. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/11640-is-it-wrong-to-sell-a-big-bday-present-i-have-never-worn/#findComment-329463 Share on other sites More sharing options...
benjaminty Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 sell sell sell! Lets face it Tiffany jewellery is gash! Be thankful you didnt get a heart and arrow necklace as you'd probably get naff all for it now.ebay is full of moody tiffany gear so you still may not get a pretty penny (to the point that tiffany took ebay to court a few years back). Don't suppose you have a receipt? Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/11640-is-it-wrong-to-sell-a-big-bday-present-i-have-never-worn/#findComment-329465 Share on other sites More sharing options...
sazzle Posted June 3, 2010 Author Share Posted June 3, 2010 Quite a few of them have now left work, i guess they mjight be sad but they would probably also be sad to know it was gathering dust in a drawer and will never be worn...Thanks MrsMc, yes i did plan to buy some jewellery i would wear instead. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/11640-is-it-wrong-to-sell-a-big-bday-present-i-have-never-worn/#findComment-329466 Share on other sites More sharing options...
sazzle Posted June 3, 2010 Author Share Posted June 3, 2010 Yay Benjaminty! I think i might just have the receipt... does that help on ebay then? Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/11640-is-it-wrong-to-sell-a-big-bday-present-i-have-never-worn/#findComment-329467 Share on other sites More sharing options...
benjaminty Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 it may help with ebay but worth trying it on with Tiffany - you have nothing to lose... apart from a 180 knicker that is.A lot of exclusive goods sellers tend to take a photo of the receipt and put that on ebay to prove authenticity.good luck!P.S. Why does the blue bag mean so much with women when the reality is a piece of overpriced bad jewellery? or should Tiffany gear be called jewllery? Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/11640-is-it-wrong-to-sell-a-big-bday-present-i-have-never-worn/#findComment-329468 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ladymuck Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 Well, I'm an utter peasant when it comes to certain possessions (they just don't interest me). However, - somewhat perversely, friends (and one member of my family) very generously insist on buying me ludicrously expensive gifts such as Royal Doulton place mats, a Swarovski snowman, a gold bracelet, sapphire earings, Mont Blanc fountain pen, a pearl necklace, luxury lingerie...you name it. I keep suggesting to them that they not bother I have no use for such items and that, if anything, I would much rather have a box of (Hotel Chocolat - no less) choccies - or if they really want to spoil me - a Manchester United T-shirt. But they take no notice, so I do end up selling the stuff and spending the resultant cash on ballet tickets or down the pub. So, I say FLOG and buy/do something useful (to you) with the dosh!Anyone interested in buying some pearls?:)) Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/11640-is-it-wrong-to-sell-a-big-bday-present-i-have-never-worn/#findComment-329470 Share on other sites More sharing options...
sazzle Posted June 3, 2010 Author Share Posted June 3, 2010 i have all the wrapping but no receipt :-( I guess we all have different taste but brand name is not important to me so i agree with you. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/11640-is-it-wrong-to-sell-a-big-bday-present-i-have-never-worn/#findComment-329471 Share on other sites More sharing options...
SteveT Posted June 4, 2010 Share Posted June 4, 2010 What's the price of seafood these days, would 'four tenners' be any good?My daughters birthday's coming up. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/11640-is-it-wrong-to-sell-a-big-bday-present-i-have-never-worn/#findComment-329583 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nero Posted June 4, 2010 Share Posted June 4, 2010 Tell and sell. Thank them for their thoughts again and explain you liked something else better. Simple. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/11640-is-it-wrong-to-sell-a-big-bday-present-i-have-never-worn/#findComment-329619 Share on other sites More sharing options...
edcam Posted June 4, 2010 Share Posted June 4, 2010 Just sell it and if anyone asks say you lost it. They might buy you a replacement which you could then sell and make even more ????????s! Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/11640-is-it-wrong-to-sell-a-big-bday-present-i-have-never-worn/#findComment-329629 Share on other sites More sharing options...
womanofdulwich Posted June 4, 2010 Share Posted June 4, 2010 I really don't think you should tell them you sold it . Discretion is called for - however if you are in a position where you think they might buy you something, you could give some hefty hints to make sure that you don't get something you don't want. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/11640-is-it-wrong-to-sell-a-big-bday-present-i-have-never-worn/#findComment-329631 Share on other sites More sharing options...
woofmarkthedog Posted June 4, 2010 Share Posted June 4, 2010 Have... ..a photo done of yourself wearing "it"Put this on your work deskThen sell the "thing"End of..Next ?W**F Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/11640-is-it-wrong-to-sell-a-big-bday-present-i-have-never-worn/#findComment-329709 Share on other sites More sharing options...
*Bob* Posted June 4, 2010 Share Posted June 4, 2010 In the interests of good manners you ought to give your colleague first refusal on the sale - perhaps with a few pounds knocked-off the asking as a gesture of goodwill? Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/11640-is-it-wrong-to-sell-a-big-bday-present-i-have-never-worn/#findComment-329715 Share on other sites More sharing options...
RosieH Posted June 4, 2010 Share Posted June 4, 2010 You could try an exchange at Tiffany without the receipt. There might not be anything you'd want to exchange it for though.Got any christenings coming up - they do a nice line in silver rattles... Then you can spend the money you would have spent on baby gift on something from Crazy Pig. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/11640-is-it-wrong-to-sell-a-big-bday-present-i-have-never-worn/#findComment-329723 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brendan Posted June 4, 2010 Share Posted June 4, 2010 Crazy Pig? Silver Rattles? No idea what you?re on about (suffice to say that the world is just getting madder and madder) but they would both make good stage names. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/11640-is-it-wrong-to-sell-a-big-bday-present-i-have-never-worn/#findComment-329726 Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeckhamRose Posted June 4, 2010 Share Posted June 4, 2010 So what's it actually like being fifty three? Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/11640-is-it-wrong-to-sell-a-big-bday-present-i-have-never-worn/#findComment-329743 Share on other sites More sharing options...
SteveT Posted June 4, 2010 Share Posted June 4, 2010 Much better than being sixty four. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/11640-is-it-wrong-to-sell-a-big-bday-present-i-have-never-worn/#findComment-329749 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brendan Posted June 4, 2010 Share Posted June 4, 2010 PeckhamRose Wrote:-------------------------------------------------------> So what's it actually like being fifty three?You don't get a seat on the bus but you don't really want it anyway because of the piles.I'd rather be Silver Rattles to be honest. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/11640-is-it-wrong-to-sell-a-big-bday-present-i-have-never-worn/#findComment-329764 Share on other sites More sharing options...
sazzle Posted June 4, 2010 Author Share Posted June 4, 2010 peckham rose u know me better than that! Its sat in the drawer for 3 years. Most of my colleagues have been made redundant since then. . . The idea was to sell it and buy another piece of jewellery to replace it. majority of people seem to think ivs ok to sell so i might look into it. Thanks for all your opinions :-) x Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/11640-is-it-wrong-to-sell-a-big-bday-present-i-have-never-worn/#findComment-329795 Share on other sites More sharing options...
ryedalema Posted June 5, 2010 Share Posted June 5, 2010 I think the statute of limitations is up after 3 years. Sell it and don't feel guilty. Telling your colleagues (the ones you still keep in contact with) may make you feel better but may make them feel sad - why would you want them to feel sad?Sell and get yourself something nice - sadly I feel that the best bit about Tiffany's nowadays is the box (and I've never had one OH!) but I got my OH a lovely fountain pen and pencil set there and my daughters both have engraved rattles and baby hairbrushes? (I know - we're chav!). It's the stuff with 'I'm from Tiffany's' stamped on it that I loathe. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/11640-is-it-wrong-to-sell-a-big-bday-present-i-have-never-worn/#findComment-329814 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Belle Posted June 5, 2010 Share Posted June 5, 2010 I think it's fine - often people actually include receipts saying if you don't like it, change it - so what you're doing isn't far different to that. Much better to get something you'll actually wear otherwise it was a waste. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/11640-is-it-wrong-to-sell-a-big-bday-present-i-have-never-worn/#findComment-329822 Share on other sites More sharing options...
jollybaby Posted June 5, 2010 Share Posted June 5, 2010 I agree sell - I feel far more guilty thinking that something is sitting unused in a cupboard. We recently had a bit of a conundrum about an unwanted gift . . . . . we were bought a silver photo frame and clock as an engagement present by Mr JB's dad and stepmother. they are not really our style and have sat in their boxes for the past 6 months. Now Mr JB's mother is getting remarried soon and Mr JB thought it would be a good idea to give her the frame and the clock as a wedding present!!It took a lot of persuasion on my part to explain that she may be a bit put out if she knew her gift was not only second hand but also from her ex husband!! Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/11640-is-it-wrong-to-sell-a-big-bday-present-i-have-never-worn/#findComment-329940 Share on other sites More sharing options...
ruffers Posted June 5, 2010 Share Posted June 5, 2010 Just sell the damn thing. They're forgotten they bought it you anyway and even if they remember I'm sure they'd rather you had something you liked. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/11640-is-it-wrong-to-sell-a-big-bday-present-i-have-never-worn/#findComment-329946 Share on other sites More sharing options...
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