Jump to content

Recommended Posts

To be honest, I just meant the party bit. Not sure about renewing vows. Has anyone done it, and did it feel worthwhile? I'd be really interested to know.


I haven't been married all that long, but the saying and hearing our vows was so wonderful (that strange, intense public/private declaration) that I don't think I'd want to risk trying to re-create. I do have to remind my other half about 'all that I have I share with you' every now and then when he gets grumpy 'cos I've nicked his jacket.

Mr PR and I were together for 18 years and I discovered that if one of us died the other one would not be entitled to their pension rights, so I thought that's a tad unfair. So we got married. It meant little as far as our relationship went and was just a sort of political thing really, but we decided to make something of it.

We had already booked Charlton House Park or whatever it is called in Somerset for a splashy weekend away and so decided to use that as our honeymoon.

We wrote to seven of our closest friends and told them to meet us at the Petrol Station on peckham Road with no cameras and no dressing up. Five turned up, two on bikes. We were dressed in leathers as we were going straight to Somerset after.

We met them at the petrol station and they had no idea what was happening -

(I've done this sort of thing before - arranged something fun like all of them going up Tower 42 in the evening for a drink, or theatre or something - so they knew to expect something fun) -

but then I simply walked them across the road to the registry office.

The two who were unable to make it still didn't know till afew months later!

Great day.


I agree with others above. Do what you want and I love the one where your friend takes you aside and says, "This is your day, enjoy it".


Mr PR has been a professional photographer for years and has taken many wedding photos and could write a book about the nightmares involved! We have no wedding photos. Just the memories!

Just to echo what others have said, I think it's really important to make sure it ends up being "your" wedding. We kept ours small (30 people) but glam, and described it a "lunch party with a wedding attached" (4 hours at a nice restaurant in town, only 20 mins of which was the actual wedding bit). It was pretty stress free and everyone had a great time, us included.


It helps if you're paying for it yourself, as we were, and that neither set of parents are the type to get offended or upset that we didn't involve them in the organisation.


The key bit for us was that every guest was someone we just couldn't imagine not being at our wedding - there were lots of other people it would have been nice to invite, but we couldn't afford it, and just making that decision cut out a whole layer of agony (work colleagues, more distant family, people who invited us to their own wedding etc). And you know what, the people we couldn't invite were just fine about it (I think!).

All I remember about my actual wedding ceremony were the eyes of the female registrar which looked like they were about to pop out of their sockets at any moment, and her voice, as she 'en-un-ci-ated' every syllable. My bethrothed and I had to avoid catching each others eye or we would have ended up cracking up with laughter.
Miss felt-tip started to cry at the altar and I tersely said under my breath "pull yourself together for god's sake" but I said it louder than intended and the vicar's mic picked it up, some people gasped and the vicar was thrown off course. I had to take control of the situation and pointed at the vicar and (pretending my original invective was directed at the vicar) said loudly "you're getting even worse. come on!" The reaction made me think that I'd made things worse and so I just stood in simmering silence glowering at my bride to be for starting it all and ruining my day.

Ladymuck Wrote:

-------------------------------------------------------

> Ha ha Cassius!

>

> I actually did "crack up" at my wedding...and was

> severely chided by the Registrar who said: "I

> would remind the young bride that this is a very

> solemn ceremony". Told me! LOL! Makes me laugh

> even now.



Could have been worse LadyM you could have wet your knickers...it's been known

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
  • Latest Discussions

    • What was he doing on the stage at Glastonbury? Or on the stage at the other concert in Finsbury Park? Grinning like a Cheshire cat whilst pissed and stoned 20 somethings on the promise of free internet sung-- Oh Jeremy Corbyn---  What were his policies for Northern mining towns with no jobs or infrastructure? Free Internet and university places for youngsters. What were his other manifesto pledges? Why all the ambiguity over Brexit?  I didn't like Thatcher, Blair or May or Tony but I respected them as politicians because they stood by what they believed in. I respect all politicians across the board that stick to their principles. Corbyn didn't and its why he got  annihilated at the polls. A socialist, anti imperialist and anti capitalist that said he voted for an imperialist and pro capitalist cabal. He refused to say how he'd vote over and over again until the last knockings. He did so to appease the Islington elite and middle class students he was courting. The same people that were screaming that Brexit was racist. At the same time the EU were holding black and Asian immigrants in refugee camps overseas but not a word on that! Corbyn created and courted a student union protest movement that screamed at and shouted down anyone not on the left . They claimed Starmer and the centre right of labour were tories. He didn't get elected  because he, his movement and policies were unelectable, twice. He turned out not to have the convictions of his politics and died on his own sword.    Reform won't win an election. All the idiots that voted for them to keep out Labour actually enabled Labour. They'll be back voting tory next time.    Farage wouldn't be able to make his millions if he was in power. He's a very devious shyster but I very much doubt he'd actually want the responsibility that governance requires.
    • The purge of hard left members that were part of Corbyn's, Mcdonnel's and Lansmans momentum that purged the party of right wing and centrist members. That's politics. It's what Blair did to win, its what Starmer had to do to win. This country doesn't vote in extreme left or right governments. That's partly why Corbyn lost  We're pretty much a centrist bunch.  It doesn't make it false either. It's an opinion based on the voting patterns, demography and statistics. Can you explain then why former mining constituencies that despise the tories voted for them or abstained rather than vote for Corbyns Labour?  What is the truth then? But he never got elected!!! Why? He should have been binned off there and then. Why he was allowed to hang about is an outrage. I hold him party responsible for the shit show that we've had to endure since. 
    • Depends on what the Barista says doesnt it? There was no physical confrontation with the driver, OP thinks she is being targetted when she isnt. These guys work min wage under strict schedules so give them a break unless they damage your stuff
    • CPR Dave, attendance records are available on Southwark's website. Maggie Browning has attended 100% of meetings. Jon Hartley has attended 65%.
Home
Events
Sign In

Sign In



Or sign in with one of these services

Search
×
    Search In
×
×
  • Create New...