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ryedalema

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  1. Oh and - I'm afraid to say, contraversial as it might be, I tend to agree with all R&A's points. The family bond/relationship is more important than anything and if you need OH to go back to work to get the respect back and need to outsource the childcare to achieve that then that's what it takes. Someone else posted once that the most important thing for a child to see/feel is the strong bond between Ma and Pa - makes them feel secure and safe. I tend to agree with this and don't mind my children going to nursery so that they have happy parents too. G*sh that sounds selfish when said out loud. I hope you understand the spirit of my point x
  2. R&A Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > > edit to say - if woman keep 'doing it all' are we > just going to breed another generation of men who > expect that? Very true R&A - I'm so sick of the 'I can't do it - you do it sooo much better' excuse. Grrrr. And I fall for it each time cos I haven't the energy to 'teach him'. Sorry for the man bashing - I'm raw today as it's my last day of Mat. leave and my OH has decided to WFH as he has 'Manflu'! xxx;-)
  3. Hi Yorkie - I'm sort of in a similar boat to you work wise. This is my last day of maternity leave :(. But during the last six months, every week day I've: - looked after our little baby - looked after her three year old sister - taxied my husband to the train station - made his daily breakfasts, packed lunches and evening dinners - kept the house clean, tidy and the washing basket from overfilling - done all the morning routines (dressed, teeth and hair, tea/milk for all) - most of the going to bed routines (bath, pjs, teeth bed etc) - plus kept our family social diary, paid the bills, done the budget, booked holidays, organised birthday parties, baked (!) and other random things - oh, and i did 95% of the night calls. And at weekends - he's had the lie-ins! So I don't think you are getting it fair coming back from a full day's work to housework, night calls and g**dness knows what else. Yes, you're the only one with the equipment to bf, but there's an awful lot else he could do to make things easier for you (see above). In addition I remember how it was last time I came back from mat. leave - it was such a shock to the system. Without sounding over dramatic (and very sorry to anyone with actual PTSD) it did seem a bit like that. What you've effectively gone through is similar to the heart wrench of your child's first day at school, their first day at Uni, the first time you leave your beloved for a time - it's a severing apron strings thing. Yes I know you go back to them every night, but it's not the same as the constant looking in their eyes and feeling like you are preparing them for the world. I remember during my first few months of work getting to 5pm and getting a taxi to the nursery (which was a simple bus ride) because I couldn't wait to see her again. It's such an organisational feat to get out in the morning and do a full day's work I'm not surprised you are going up the wall if you come back to a messy house or more chores. Btw - my OH is not best pleased the other way around if he comes home and I 'attack' him as he steps inside the door with the bath routine or feeding a tot! Plus - on top of all this - your OH is getting all those lovely cosy moments that you had not so long ago (and perhaps some firsts?), I'd feel the same in your situation. If I were in your situation what I would want is: a) some damned strong and vocal appreciation of my plight (chocs, flowers, massages etc for starters) b) some time for myself (this comes at a price though as as soon as you get it you tend to want time with the tot IME) c) time just you and the tot. It's a very difficult time - my OH and I had some of our worst rows during this time, nearly coming acropper on a number of occasions. I'd suggest, stick with it, be completely open about your feelings (calmly if you can - it's easier for them to understand). And....what I did was phone the Samaritans. They are there (and others) use them. You aren't being silly - no one can negate your feelings, and you ARE worth it! Hope it helpsxxx PM me if you want a chat xxxx
  4. I feel for you having a horrid journey - I did a commute from Ryedale to Farringdon for the past two years with little one in the buggy on the Number 63 - dropping her off at nursery in Waterloo on the way. Sorry I'm not the bearer of great news but have you thought about how you are going to negotiate the steps at Honor Oak? I tend to avoid that station if poss just because of that - not sure if they've plans to be more DDA compliant and put in a lift though (maybe you've checked?) Also whereabouts in Honor Oak/Forest Hill are you? Would the 63 bus be an option for you - takes more time but is def more comfortable (at least on the morning journey) as you'll be at the start on the bus route.
  5. L...out....bloomin L! That's soo gross, yet soo funny. I'm sorry LB - I'm sure not funny for you. When our youngest was a few weeks old we had to take her to the special care unit at Kings (she had prolonged jaundice). The doc left the room as I undressed her and took her nappy off - a stream of mustard colour poo all over his: - wall - telephone - unit of sterilised equipment - cupboards - pooter. Boy was I red faced when he walked back in - it looked like the place had been gunged (ala Ministry of Mayhem if anyone watched that)! xxx
  6. Really good I think - the folding mechanism on ours gets a bit stuck sometimes, but it's invaluable as an out and about potty. After not having it with me and our daughter having to 'go' behind a van, she now wants to find a van and go behind it every time, so I'd say keep it with you - it even fits in our car door pocket. Having said that I'd not use it as a main potty - but def an essential addition for travel.
  7. Thanks everyone. I've had the whole lot lopped off by Willis B - and am going back today to 'go red!'. (Think I'm having my mid life crisis) At least I won't have to fish manky hair out of the plug hole now after each shower (not my favourite job). And thanks for the tip about the Kerastase. In my younger - not spending a fortune on childcare - days I used to use those products. I'll have to find them - does anyone know if the hairdresser on North Cross Road sells it? They do Kerastase don't they? Also - how long does this hair loss last? I gave up bfing 10 days or so ago and it's still going on. Thanks again xxx
  8. I was always bought Startrite and Clarks shoes when I was a nipper so when we ventured to John Lewis (Oxford Street) and they had a huge range (plus other brands), we plumped for Clarks for her first shoes. I'd go to John Lewis - it's heaving with kids and parents but they have a large range and the staff are well trained. We got her first pair of 'cruising shoes' when she was about your son's age. She curled her toes up for a bit making getting them on quite difficult but soon loved them and I think it encouraged her to 'cruise' a bit more. Good luck - you might want a sedative before you go there, the noise level is crazy.
  9. My advice would be: - if the chicken is red in the middle, don't eat it (same goes for eggs!) - food isn't supposed to have white fluff on it (unless it's candyfloss) - find out where the girl lives before you try and pull her (if she's your next door neighbour and you aren't serious, it makes for an awful year!) - be careful what you sign up to in Freshers week - you only have so much time and there are a lot of clubs! Hope it helps ;-)
  10. Morning all - I hope you have some good recommendations on this one. My hair's in the worst state I've ever seen it at the mo - bfing/post pregnancy has left it falling out in handfuls and seriously dry and tangly. I need a compassionate and highly skilled hairdresser to come to the rescue. I have a few days to myself before going back to work (3 and counting) and could do with someone sorting out this sorry mess. Also - I'm child free for the next few days so can actually venture to a hairdresser and bask in the relative splendour of 'not our home'. Can anyone recommend a fabulous hairdresser in ED or surrounds? I normally go to one near work in the City but am trying to avoid going there unless I have to. Would really appreciate your help. Thank you oh wonderful forum-ones !! xxx
  11. My OH framed our marriage certificate for our first. I gave him a couple of beautiful photo albums for all the family photos. Tickets to the Proms are good - you can get tickets from ?12 so not too expensive and something to look forward to post-bubs.
  12. Wavelengths is the one in Deptford. I'll def check out Bromley one - shopping shopping shopping ;-))
  13. We got our 2.5 year old the fisher price one link here and she loves it (Grandpa's a photographer so totally obsessed). It's really rugged (has def been knocked about a fair bit) and the buttons are really easy to use. No masterpieces yet but it is funny to see things from a child's point of view. xx
  14. Someone recommended The Bridge to me yesterday. Is it a traditional kiddie pool or does it have slides etc? Or does anyone know a kiddie pool around here with slides, other than Wavelengths? We want to go somewhere on Monday for eldest d's birthday treat and I just find Wavelength's changing and shower facilities bizarre - would be nice if there was an alternative. I'd really appreciate your help xxx
  15. Ours all begin with C. It's a tradition on my OH's side of the family. All offspring have to have names beginning with the same letter as the Ma. Very annoying when choosing names but I guess it could have been a worse letter.
  16. On the plus side - he could end up a champion pitcher??? :)) (Then he can pay for you to live in luxury in your dotage!)
  17. My husband was raised in Papua New Guinea - his Mum used to make all three kids and the Dad get into the empty bath together before serving them peeled mangoes - then hosed them off afterwards ;-) My daughter and OH now do the same every Sunday...aww.
  18. Umm - well I'm doing a fair bit of swimming there anyway (have a spare tyre or five to try and shift) so I went to reception and booked all the sessions we're going to for the week (3pm today - can't wait!). I've heard it's more difficult to try and book by phone. I believe you have to be a member (?20 a month for a swim only pass) but haven't tried phonin them yet. I know you can book up to a week in advance if a member - anyone else have experience of the phone service?? Btw - the pay and display machine in the car park is still bust so it's free parking, hoorah!
  19. We've been taking little c (now 6 months) to Peckhamm Pulse Jelly Babies. They have formal lessons too but it seems to be just bobbing up and down, blowing bubbles and singing nursery rhymes. We do this ourselves so save the money and just go to the Jelly Baby times in the hydro pool. She absolutely loves it - and as it's the temperature of a spa, it's not bad for me too.
  20. Laminate em! But really - plastic fronted bibs definitely! And I dress them according to the colour of the mush they are going to eat: Porridge and rice = whites and creams Tomatoey stuff = red etc etc. (It's the other end that's the problem - not many pretty yellow and brown clothes for girls) If still in trouble I use Vanish - direct on the stain and in the washing machine drawer.
  21. Oops - just read your last sentence again 'This is NOT an attempt to start some Lounge Vs Family Room nonsense!'. Sorry! (Perhaps I'd better retreat again)
  22. Hey Keef and all - good topic for a thread. Perhaps you could do a Family vs. Lounge thread in the Family room to get the other side of things? Just a thought. I remember this was one of the questions the researchers asked at that focus group a few months back. Some said that there was a different 'vibe' to the different sections and a few (me included) said that they/I felt a little intimidated posting in the Lounge but felt 'welcomed' in the Family room. I know I sometimes feel a bit like a hedgehog/meerkat/snail (take your pick) popping its head out to see whether it's safe to go out, when posting in the Lounge. Then usually retreating back to the Family room when the pace/tone takes an unexpected tack. Sorry - I'm probably a wuss (goes back into hole).:-$
  23. :)) My non-gravity defying boobies are contraception enough! Hee hee! See you at Sports day??
  24. Mmm - me too sillywoman. I can't believe that Mummy and Bubs mag endorsed such strong views from one of its own on such a sensitive and personal issue. Unless of course they are provoking just this sort of reaction from others.
  25. ?12 Keef - probably a bit overpriced but worth it I reckon (our little one travels backwards in the car and gets full on sun sometimes).
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