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This sounds lovely. On tuesday mornings I only have my 18m old - will she be too young - ie are they ok with toddlers running around or is it really a sit down thing?

When I was younger my two older brothers used to teach me swear words and tell me they meant something else. Apparently we were once in Harrods and I saw a toy horse and started shouting from the top of my voice "i'm a w**ker, i'm a w**ker" - my mum was totally mortified, my brothers giggling with tears running down their faces and there's me thinking i was telling everyone that I liked riding horses :)

Have you got a syringe? Then you can really hold them down, open their mouths and shoot it in!!!!!!! (it works when needed though) Also, try mixing with milk/juice - sometimes they're too clever for this but it might work? Good luck xxx

I like that DenMotherSmith I'm assuming then that you would recommend Marie Stoppes because that was the one he/we were considering? I think what I liked was that he said to me why don't i rather than me persuading him - if that makes sense

Huggers - thanks, that's a great insight

I apologise derbyean - I wasn't suggesting you didn't but just that the way you phrased your last comment wasn't how we viewed things.

Jollybaby - thanks, just asked her and she did have menopause immediately - I think i thought if you had a hysterectomy you wouldn't have the menopause - very naive i know. Saffron - your poor mum, how horrendous for her. I think the other naive thing is I never realised it lasted so long/side effects for so long

I would love someone to explain HRT to me cos i'm a bit confused. I think i'm of the opinion that I won't be affected mentally cos as you say it's not like we want any more children however i'm worried about physically - and I really am very dense in this subject - but my mum had a hysterectomy at about 45 but she still went through the menopause and had to take HRT?

North cross road r great for adults and kids. Above pharmacy. Can't remember name

Keef - I just asked my husband whether he would have considered it before and he laughed and said absolutely no way so I do think it's something that a man can only come to terms with when they are ready to finish their family too. derbyean - obviously everyone has their own thoughts and opinions of what marriage is and luckily my husband and I are of the opinion that ours is for life, irrelevent of statistics and actually when i argued against my husbands offer and said are you sure i used the analagy of what happens if I die and you meet someone and want to have a family with them? I'm not ignorant (I come from a broken family myself), I just believe 100% in my marriage.

Thank you everyone and even though I have forwarded Mr Pebbles this thread he is still going to book appt with GP tomorrow. Nappy Lady - I agree, it has to be mans decision, it's major for them and therefore they need to feel it's the right thing for them. Luckly for me as the coil isn't working for me (tmi) and condoms just send shivers down Mr Pebbles spine at the best of time let alone for the next 15 years or so he jumped (well not literally) at the chance of a solution that he could help with!!!

Wow, just caught up with the thread. Funnily I was speaking to a mate last night when hubby arrived home from work and i told her that he wasn't in the best of moods!!! she then logged into EDF a few hours later for me to ask about vasectomy's and she thought - oh my god he must be in a seriously foul mood for her to want to do that to him!!!! I think GP is the way we should go then. Kids old enough for them to listen to us then!! I'm v v lucky in that he volunteer himself rather than me having to do the persuasion.... the fabric scissors way :)

Quite an embarrassing question - has anyone or anyone's partner had a vasectomy and if so can you recommend where? Also what sort of price are we looking at. Many thanks in advance

I'm pretty sure all nurses do them - you just have to book a double appointment.

I know it's the last thing you will want to do while tired but doing a bit of exercise works wonders for me. I suffer from insomnia as well as having kids so the last thing i EVER want to do is go to gym but if i get up before they wake to go for a swim the difference in my mood during the day is quite unbelievable.

Just a quick response about your question about working from home. I think people can only successfully work from home if their children are in childcare and the benefits that you get on that day is that you don't have to commute so you have an extra say 2 hours with your child/ren in the morning and evevning. I've been a stay at home mum for 3 1/2 years and in Nov started doing some part time work from home while youngest slept and when kids were playing nicely around me etc. Luckily it was for my brother so was very flexible. However i've just had to stop as I've totally found that working from hoome while kids are at home with no childcare just isn't possible. I wish you well in your decision

Congratulations, great news xxx

My son is also 3 1/2 and to be honest I'm just leaving him until his nappy is dry at night (some mornings it's drenched and others it's definitely a very recent wee)!!! He does it in his sleep so i'm of the opinion that i'd much prefer him to stay sleeping and therefore still wear a nappy than waking up to go to the loo. I think maybe come 4 1/2 (i'd be interested to hear from parents of sons) I might re-think if it's still wet.

Done - i'll email you my address

When can babies and children: Q: Roll over A: Between 3 and 5 months Q: Brush own teeth (with help) A: 16 months (not sure whether we call it brushing and maybe a little more of sucking!!! Q: Sit up A: Between 5 and 7 months (son at 5m and daughter at 7m) Q: Play on their own for longer than 30 minutes A: ????

When my daughter was born a darling friend of mine's sister was diagnosed with cancer and had to induce the birth of her baby so they could get started with chemotherapy. She obviously was coming to terms with so many things but something that upset her to the core was that she couldn't breastfeed and there wasn't enough donated for her baby to have anything. I am one of those very lucky few who had an enormous amount of milk and could express a lot in a short amount of time so therefore I offered to express for her. I think as I was feeding my daughter she just trusted that I was being sensible (plus she trusted me as i was her sisters great friend). Anyway, I was able to express enough (also added to my friend (her sister) who also did the same thing, enough for her to give breast milk for the first 6 weeks of her daughters life. This is something I did easily and with no thought but bizarrely if I had just been feeding my daughter i definitely would have had a glass of wine most night, spicy foods, citrus foods etc but I didn't want to "risk" her daughter so I actually was a lot more careful as it was for someone elses daughter. Anyway, i'm waffling, what this was meant to say is I think the cost of breast milk is immeasurable and in my eyes if you have enough of it then it should be given for free for babies who can't for whatever reason get breast milk in the first few precious weeks of their life.

I'd also like 5 - pls provide me with details of where to send money. Good luck

Mine didn't react to their BCG but I do know children who have (less pussy than when we got it as teenagers though) however I'm sure I've always been told not to get any kind of jab if baby is unwell or unsettled. I still haven't given our no.2 her mmr booster cos she's had ear infections etc and i've been told to wait until she is totally back to normal. Personally I would wait until back on form.

Thrilled to hear that it was worth your losing your cats - well done for making what was obviously the right decision for your little man.

I haven't read all of thread so apologies if already suggested but my boy took ages to actually tell us he needed a wee so I just would put him on the loo every 2 hrs or before we went out. What happens if u put her on loo before tea - and bribe with chocolate? Good luck