Tony.London Suburbs

Hona:Where art thou? G.O.L.D. Channel 133 at 1.20AM-The Bernard Cribbens Epidsode of Fawlty Towers. Comedy Gold:"I'm Alan Partridge" now followed by FT!(No Fawlty Towers-No Comment):))

;-)Maybe the punters on here don't like Pizza RC

Also to everyone. More answers/views as to the second scenario when they were 2 of several couples(original wife/current partner and M8/future wife)invited to a general meal/drinks by a mutual friend of my M8 and his first wife and wife number 2 says she will not go if Wifey1 is present as she does want to get over-friendly with her....which means he goes alone(won't happen he told me) or he and wifey2 don't go.As he was married for 10 years(up to 3 years ago) with Numero Uno then they have many mutual friends so this scenario is likely to be repeated in future and,obviously,the future wife will continue to maintain her stance.He is worried(3 months in advance of the Wedding) of the implications for their future relationship/decision making process as he prides himself on being very fair.

ChavWivaLawDegree Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > What I can't get over is that wife 1 thinks she > has a right to go to the wedding of wife 2 and got > upset when wife 2 didn't want her there! > > How arrogant is that? Hi! CWLD. I'm sure you're right but kindly expand, as then I will explain the psychology of this view to my M8 from a Female perpective. Cheers.

SteveT Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > He should either move on, or make his mind up who > he wants to be with, why should she(2) put up with > all his old baggage from a previous life. > > It is her day and should be as she(2) wants it to > be. > > It sounds as if he is insecure, and cannot let go > of the past. > > Or is he a greedy little bar stud and wants it all > his own way, when he should compromise compromise > compromise. No. No. This is the first response I don't agree with at all. Firstly all parties know he wants to be with (2).He has no romantic interest in (1) though they parted on as good terms as you can get.They used to occassionally speak on the phone but he lost interest after their Divorce and both moved on to other Partners. Her Day? Of course,although I feel it is a teensy-weensy bit "his" day,as well.:)) "He" is insecure??...He is just being decent and would not have thought that her coming along would be a problem(maybe naievely)....surely if anyone is "insecure" its Wifey2 over the presence of Wifey1. Wants it all his own way??...Again,it is his future Wife who is NOT compromising and telling him how it is going to be,not the other way round.How is she compromising??...She says "No!" and its "No!"..Funny old compromise and also the original comment was about TWO scenarios. Number 1-The Wedding(her day) but Number 2 was one of many mutual friends built up of over 10 years of his original marriage inviting various couples for a meal/drink.She is not compromising at all on this even though she is only one of many invited parties. So,particularly,Scenario 2 when its not her special day means that(if she has her way) that he'll never socially see Wifey1 again,unless he goes to future "Couples" functions on his own!

annaj: "I think different people have different boundaries (as this thread neatly demonstrates) You are right and I expected a variety of responses as I could see that this situation could be viewed from many angles. Interesting to see what others feel,as well.

mockney piers Wrote: But that doesn't surprise me Tony, rule number one is that in trying to please everyone you please noone.. How very very true mp!!

The farce is that my friend has done nothing wrong in any way and currently BOTH Women are not speaking to him!

mockney piers Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > That's just ridiculous. I tend to agree. > .. all wifey2 is showing is that > she's insecure, though nice bit of toys out of the > pram from wifey1; she should have banned wifey2 > from the dinner party for real parity ;-P. To be fair I did say "This weekend a mutual friend of his first wife and him invited a few couples for a meal and/or drink" i.e It wasn't WifeyMark1's do it was a mutual friend of her and her Former Husband. Also my M8 is worried that this situation(with so many mutual friends over his original 10-year marriage) will occur in the future.(6)

"Uninvite the ex. "....I assume she was never officially invited originally but,obviously,my friend had to tell her she wasn't going and she was hurt.(as she knows she is truly only friends with the Guy).

A Friend is getting married in April for the second time to a lovely Lady.As he is still friends(only)with the first wife since their Divorce 3 years ago he assumed that there would not be a problem her attending the Wedding.WRONG! Wife-to-be says No! and thinks the first wife (who she has been civil with on the few occassions they have met) is even being disrespectful to think about coming.My friend passes on The Lady's decision to his "ex" who is now not talking to him(even though HE wants her to come). This weekend a mutual friend of his first wife and him invited a few couples for a meal and/or drink.New wife says "Fine" and as an afterthought adds "xxxx won't be going will she?" "Er,well actually she will" (with her current Partner of 1 year). "Then I'm NOT going says wife-to-be!" "You go on your own (to the "couples" do).Now they are not talking to each other for 3/4 days. Is she right to refuse to have her at her Wedding,even though she accepts 100% that they are truly "just friends" and Is she right to drop out of the "do" as the 2ex2 is also attending? Ladies what would you do and what do you think please?

bigbadwolf Wrote: T.L.S and PeckhamRose I'm going to cut off your central heating when I find out where you wake up at leisure:X You'll never take me and Rosy alive! No Surrender!(tu)

Thanks! Haven't had a Pizza for a while and never eaten in Sidcup so why not?(tu)

Absolutely Splendid! Judging by the atrocious spiellling anyone would think the Author was not over-familiar with The English Language but we mustn't pre-judge.:)):))

karter Wrote: In recent months i have known five goldfish being assasinated and then flushed down the toilet ( the kids are lovely really though) Please look after goldie.:) Well the Pet Shop Owner told me that Godfish(presumed "dead" but in a state of "shock" do need another shock to enliven them so who knows?..Your Famous Five might still be Alive!":)) Look after Goldie?..Her Male companion does that job! He never stops growing and soon lets me know if they are hungry by flailing around and threatening to jump ship until I get the message!B)

HonaloochieB Wrote: Sets one up nicely for Pip and Fern that does. Pipsqueak and "Not-So" Little Ms Britten? Nah! Flat in Brockley for sale on "Buy It,Sell It,Bank It!"....

Sadly,Alf Ippititimus"has gone permanently aphwaay....

HonaloochieB Wrote: I'm genuinely sorry it's come to this TLS, but you > have to be warned and warned now. > Never, under any circumstances try to > cross-pollinate Monty Python and Fawlty Towers in > my presence again. As Bernard Cribbin's character in the Fawlty > Towers' episode The Hotel Inspectors remarked "I'm > not a violent man..." > TLS, I trust you'll accept this in the spirit > intended. LOL As Bernard Cribbens also said in that famous episode "Fear not Sir! It matters not one jot!" ....must go as Bernard Cribbens also,also,also said "There is a Tele-Visual Feast at the moment"...

SeanMacGabhann Wrote: 15 minutes on a quietish bus, 25 mins walk from E&C to Blackfriars - weekly cost ?14 odd quid...easy peasy. Plus I get free excercise. Whatcha all complaining about?? ;-).... How ironic! The year was 1982.The journey to work near Fleet Street(opposite The Sun) was East Lane Market thru' E&C. to Blackfriars. One day I got the BR Train home from Blackfriars to E&C and was horrified to see the train hurtle past E&C. I asked someone where the first sto was and was horrified to hear "Bromley South",,,bleedin' Country!...to my amazement in around 22 mins I was there and that set the seeds in my mind to "emigrate"? from where Generations of my family had lived as The Suburbs,I realised,were within easy reach.Saw a place right next to Danson Park(amongst others) put down ?250 deposit(!) and moved in May,1983 and only yesterday as I walked the 7,000 year old Oxcleas Woods I thought "this is ruddy fabulous"..housing still cheap and within half-a-mile of a London Postal District and all because of getting on the wrong train from Blackfriars to the area where my heart will ALWAYS be "The E&C"...

Moos Wrote: Gee Tony, thank you for once again for bringing the flavour of the 'burbs to the discussion. That would have been the "flavour" of virtually every Working-Class Family and their beliefs when I grew up in the heart of Working-Class,Southwark,Sarf London,as well:(...so 1960's I knows....B) Moos Wrote: Call me radical...... Au Contraire! Considering other views expressed just b4 you were:- 1/Posted by:keef So she has kids by different dads, so fecking what?!? then: 2/ Posted by: georgia Today, 03:18PM Well said Keef. then: Posted by: SeanMacGabhann Today, 03:32PM spot on indeed Keef then:Posted by: Strawbs Today, 03:51PM I dont see what all the fuss about her is really..... ...I would say 'tis I that is the radical one:))

You've heard of the Pythonesque "stunned" Dead Parrot well the Pet Shop Owner has just told me that "Goldie" was in SHOCK!! "She not dead,she in shock Meester Fawlty!"...:))

Thats why I just love this Forum. We are seem to be agreed that its marvellous,fantabulous even to have as many kids by as many different Fathers as possible.>:D< Just finished watching Donal McIntyre's show on Bravo last night where he was looking at the new generation of gangster families and asking what they be more vicious than their Parents. The Godmother only had 6 kids by 4 different Dads,so plenty of room for improvement but one of the 2 vicious 19-year-old "New Generation was one of 22 kids which should be applauded I feel even though he,strangely,never got to know his Parents. Funny Dat! The more the merrier I say!:)-D

Now PLEASE type in "Dead Goldfish" on You Tube. 1 minute video well worth watching but I won't spoil it!

So what nonenties did you notice in there BN during your 5 minutes worth? The Ladyfriend I'm visiting tonight likes nothing better than seeing many people she does not know or will ever meet chat pointlessly about nothing at all so I'd better prepare myself(!)

...the Female Goldfish has literally risen from the dead! A deceased Goldfish she is no more! So I was cleaning the tank out for Goldie and her terrifying Male companion(who seems to take up half the tank) and inthe seperate bowl I temporarily keep them in I noticed serious signs of distress from both of them.The Male was struggling for breath and Goldie just stopped and floated sideways. I put the new system in the tank and put the Male back in,but was not going to bother with Goldie,who was not moving at all and was "obviously" no more. I put Goldie in the empty kitchen sink where she lay motionless. The Male had fully recovered in the Tank but what was the point of re-introducing him to his dead companion? But to try to show him she was "gone" I put her in and he ignored the 2dead2 body.She floated sideways and got stuck under the tube circulating the water.No movement apart from being swirled round by the flow of the oxygen system. As I was about to fish her out,I thought I noticed a mouth gesture.Surely not!? Then the fins "appearred" to slowly move but surely it was the ebb and flow of the tank.To my amazement there was life.She stopped floating aimlessy sideways and definitely made some solo movements!(tu) Anyway bottom line is they are both swimming merrily around eating their food wondering what the fuss was all about!:)) I'm fairly new to Goldfish ownership(having simply rescued the 2 goldfish left behind for 3 months by my previous next-door neighbours so can anyone tell me-Is this normalB)