Tony.London Suburbs

lozzyloz Wrote: - and followed by the weather forecast in Czech? Have you seen the weather in Czech M8?

PeckhamRose Wrote: Tony London Suburbs. You wrote: " Who knows? When I saw my Darling Mum lying cold in the Mortuary in 1996.Cold and hard and remembered all the life and vitality and goodness in her,I thought that Heart,Soul,Mind,Spirit surely must have gone somewhere(hopefully to a "better" place) and the contrast was so great to that lifeless shell lying in front of me." in response to my feeling that after we are dead we are just meat. > I apologise profusely to you and all others I may have been insensitive to. Humanist celebrants tend towards saying that the person lives on as a memory in those of us they came into contact with. Thanks PR but there's no need!(tu) I,truly,did not give it a single thought.I was just saying what I feel completely oblivious to any other comment, Thanks again anyway.;-)

Quick update that might put a slightly different slant on this:- 1/ Ex-Wifey is married and has been for 3 years. 2/ They divorced 8 years ago not "3". 3/ Wifey1 persuaded her New Husband to have my M8 to their Wedding even though he had reservations,indeed my M8 says that he was so much part of "Ex-Wifeys" big new day that he "MC'd/Hosted the reception do as well as attended the Ceremony.

PR: "It's uniquely human to want to believe that this can't be it, but if we made more of "it" together then we'd be happier and more content with what "it" is. Just my idea! Have a happy day then, the good news is that it is now all the way up to three degrees hot!" Who knows? When I saw my Darling Mum lying cold in the Mortuary in 1996.Cold and hard and remembered all the life and vitality and goodness in her,I thought that Heart,Soul,Mind,Spirit surely must have gone somewhere(hopefully to a "better" place) and the contrast was so great to that lifeless shell lying in front of me. Who knows?

Jeremy Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I wonder whether an axe would suffice in a similar > situation today? Well its possibly not recommended in the A.A.Handbook(available at all good stores) but "back-up" might be needed circa 2009!(this was in the quiet Early 1980's?) They tell you to stay by the vehicle!!!:))..once I saw it parked in the deepest part of The Estate with only one way in/out I was "out" of there quick-time and waited in Brixton Police Station, I have rarely been so happy as when he fibally got the car started!(reality is,of course,they had long since gone and probably had no connection with the Estate at all,just the local dumping ground).

EVERY age has its compensations KK! "30" for me was like well,"20"/"40" even "50" I could go where and when I wanted to. "30"??..Downside?..I was still "wet behind the ears" for my age and not assertive enough.Did not realise that besides all the multitude of good people there are(many I had met) thee were a multitude of "bad" lurking round the corner,reasy to pounce. Example:Car Theft. When I was 24/30-I had my cars stolen a few times thru' bot taking sufficient care where I parked. The last 25 years of driving in and around London there have been no bad experiences as I'm VERY careful to give myself "the best possible chance of my car NOT be stolen" Locks/Nothing visible/No side turnings etc. What brought me to my senses 25 years ago was when my car was stolen in Streatham.I,personally looked round the Housing Estates of Brixton the next day and found it(!) called the "A.A." and the Estate had only ONE entrance/exit so if the thiefs came back we were trapped reclaiming my own car! The A.A Guy CARRIED AN AXE,I kid you not as he had many unpleasant experiences on that patch!.Got out of their a.s.a.p. and vowed to be more careful. One lives and hopefully learns:(

...I wish I was "30" again,I tell ya(!)

KalamityKel Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I think you'll find I did not shout... was merely > stating the optimist... ah nevermind I never make > myself understood... *goes back to rescuing cat > from chimney* Hey! Kel Baby! "Misunderstanding"B)... p.s.I know you didn't,its just a Ladyfeiend who I stayed with the other night is 30 and she was making subtle remarks about our age,which funnily enough,has always been the age gap since I first met her in Sunny Peckham many moons ago;-)

..B):))

KalamityKel Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I look forward to reaching such an age and > reaching such excitement... IN THE MANY YEARS AHEAD OF ME What yer tryin; to say Darlin;(6)

Hugsy: Oh! Please! I've spent mucj of the last few months experiencing more aspects of one of the 2 most vibrant and stimulating Cities on Earth: Ladeez and Genelmen: I give you LONDON TOWN!! Whatever you want)can't do the exotic or mountains-Sorry!) its here in abundance.The variety is amazing and its realistically impossible to see all of it in one lifetime,which I'll never achieve. However,living on the edge of Londinium its so easy to reach and enjoy the pleasures of the truly Beautiful(and green!) English Countryside as well.Next week my walking partner isback from Hamilton,Canada and we will go to The Seven Sisters,South Downs.The air will be crisp and envigorating. Spring is around the corner and a walk thru' the English Meadows with its multitude of Bluebells and wild primroses is a wondrous experience so trust me "Perfidious Albion" or "Blighty" still has a great deal to offer. I'm nearly 55 and never been so excited or stimulated about life!>:D<

wizardonwheels Wrote: ... and they wonder why borough councils pay for recruitment over in places like Austrailia and New Zealand each year. Whats really worrying is that so many intelligent,skilled Professional people are emigrating to Oz/NZ/Canada to give their children "a better future" and to disstance themselves as far as possible from this type of behaviour.(Yes! It DOES happen Worldwide but its all about Scale and Proportion,surely. Read so many threads on the Ex=Pat Site from really good,loving and helpful people who have given up on "Team GB" it saddens me.(5.5 Million since New Labour came in did I read? and by definition most departees must have some skills to be allowed permanent residence in those Countries.

What is it about "Born-Again" Christians that make you wish they had never been born in the first place?

AllforNun Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I pee'd on a group of kids on the no 12 coming > back form oxford street at about 9pm. I had never > done anything like it before but it seemed a good > idea at the time. They were completely stunned and > spent the first few seconds trying to work out > where the "rain" was coming from. "Golden Showers"..THATS THE SPIRIT AFN ! and don't feel guilty if they dun nuffink,innit! Innit?

I like The BBC. Over the last 45 years that I have watched regularly I feel certain that they have been the Worlds greatest Broadcaster(if they are not I'd like to know who has been!) but I hate the false laughs and looks which any given 2 BBC Presenters give each other the split second b4 they are back "on air" so they "appear" to be breaking off from their funny little "sideways" chat to speak to the viewers! I read once that they admit it is entirely false. How could it not be! Watch "Breakfast" tomorrow,for example,and see how the moment the 2 Presenters return to the screen after a live link,they appear to be deeply engaged in laughter/conversation but have to break off to addres The Great British Public and nearly every time(Bill Turnbull with his little smile to his Co-Presenter is a shining example!

...of course you can let the "Law" deal with it but seeing as only yesterday there was a disgusting London item on the news of the Rimg-Leader of a cruel,evil Dog-Fighting syndicate who was brought to justice and fined ?10,000? ?4,000? ?1,000 No! ?400 FOUR HUNDRED POUNDS ((!)) oh! and "Community Service":)) then there's not always a great deal of hope really,sometimes. ...to think of those loving Staffs,often cross-bred and used as "bait" for more vicious Staffs(already brutalised by the Leaders) and the fighting Staffs themselves(often abandoned and broken after their "career" it makes my blood boil but,at least,he got "Community Service" THAT WILL MAKE HIM THINK TWICE IN FUTURE,EH!! (Note for TLS-Kindly stay on topic-Thank You!:))

I HATE "bullies" with a passion. I HATE "Anti-Social" people with an equal passion and when you have a group of bullies effectively saying "We are going to take advantage of your collective tolerance and good nature,going to be as loud as possible and you know what there's NOTHING you can individually or collectively do about it! So sit there and suffer in silence you meek,compliant lot!"....its sooooo good that,just for once,there is a little retribution. p.s. Shows what those on the "Atheist" thread know! "Sometimes" there IS a "God!":))

Here it is from another Website from one of the respected elders of that Site on the 20/8/2008 "It's stressful enough travelling on Public Transport let alone some ignorant youth playing their MP3 or Ringtone outloud in Public. The Youths that do that know that the majority of passengers would prefer not to have to listen to their Music. It gives them a sense of Power, as normally people do not complain for fear of ironically either the Law or the Lawlessness in our current society. People who play thier music, will follow the arguement "Its mine and I can do what I want and I don't care if you like it or not" . Depending on what mood I am in, I.e cannot be bothered or CAN be bothered. If I can be bothered I will do the classic A then B. A: Ask the offender if they can turn their music down as it is distracting for fellow passengers. Offender Option I : Often times will comply and some times innocently had not realised that the music was so loud. Offender Option II: Gives a glum look and pretends not to hear the complaint or tells you they can do what they hell they like. B: Up the ante: Stand very close the the offender and start DANCING TO THEIR MUSIC IN A VERY STUPID MANNER. At which point the Offender is now faced with any communters nightmare: Having to stand right next to the NUTTER! While dancing start clapping to their Music looking them in the FACE. Offenders: Now start getting agitated and ask you to stop as you are now distrubting them. At which point you glare and say what is good for the goose is good for the gander. Always works. Of course they size you up to see if it's worth pursuing the matter but a stern look usually tells them " Don't even go down THAT avenue" ." p.s Interesting for me to return to that Site to realise I have a CRYSTAL BALL(!)....as I predicted in May,2005 that there would soon be a "Mixed-Raced" President of The USA::o

There was a great thread on this very Subject on another Website recently. General consensus was that the "youngins"(hope I got that right)_ DELIBERATELY often play their music loud(particularly in safe groups) to "test" their captive audience. Naturally,most Londoners/LT Customers we being "oh-so-tolerant" and not wanting any bother/confrontation allow them to continue which thet fully realise and thrive on! The remedy(which would appeal greatly to my fertile sense of the ridiculous) is to dance crazily RIGHT NEXT TO THEM to their music like you really dig it Man!:))(As CRAZY as possible)....sadly,for me,I fear that if I was ever in this situation I would watch their rudeness,listen to their rudeness and possibly even accept their rudeness and do NOTHING! TO MY ETERNAL SHAME so speaking as someone who has NEVER laid a finger on anyone in 54 years(not even at School) then allow me to say WELL DONE MY SON!!:)-D p.s LUDICROUS comment about "the cripple"..absolutely ridiculous as one is attacking someone who is DELIBERATELY being obnoxious and the other(attacking the "cripple" is just an insane thought.(6)

Bobs My Uncle and Charleys My Aunt if you would like to construct a story around that. Feel Free.

I don't believe in Atheism so I won't be hopping aboard.

Its good when someone goes out of their way to help Annie. Thanks.

RosieH Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Yes, TLS, I'm inclined to think that as the dinner > party situation has only just arisen, is as was > posted early on, a fallout from the wedding > situation. > > I really really do think that on this your friend > needs to give his fiancee her way over the > wedding. You talk about fair, but how fair is it > that on the so-called happiest day of her life, he > feels ok about making her uncomfortable and > unhappy in having his ex there? Of course you're > on his side, you're his friend, but in asking > where's the compromise on her part, answer where's > the compromise on his? > > Let's face it, we all know that our partners have > a romantic and sexual past, but mostly we prefer > to push that slightly uncomfortable fact to the > back of our minds. But when you're getting > married, you don't want the woman your beloved > loved so much that he married her first sitting on > the groom's side. > > The resolution for the dinner party situation can > come after they're married, but in showing no > flexibility on the wedding, he's pushing his bride > to be into a corner where the only way she can > exert her power is by not going to the dinner > party. Very true RosieH ! Good points I must say but he has told his Former Wife that she is not coming and has accepted that himself. Its now she has brought the absence from a random meal/drinks do that has got him irritated,and worried about if this is a character trait that will continue but it will probably be OK in the future after the marriage.

Sonners Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > It may be that wife2 was fine with couples dinners > prior to the wedding invite situation (although I > am sure that TLS will expand) and will be fine > after the wedding but is now not wanting to go to > such a dinner at the moment because of the wedding > invite brouhaha. THERE'S THE ANSWER imo!!...I should have thought of that as now you mention it,its obvious Sonners! No Woman(in particular) likes to feel uncomfortable socially or at work and come to think of it many Women I have known would always choose to avoid any potential awkward situation by being absent,or literally even resigning from work. Also you said "I think it's entirely reasonable that she doesn't want wife1 at her wedding, I wouldn't have wanted an ex-wife at my wedding as who wants a reminder that their chap has done it all before with someone else etc, as indiepanda says" Indiepanda and you make complete sense about the reminder aspect,as well! Sonners..I have to say you know your stuff! What are you,a bleedin' Counsellor?:) Also,as you again(!) :))and Indiepanda said

Hi! indiepanda Wrote: Has he not tried to socialize with them both in the past - and if not, why not? Or was the wife to be ok about it until he tried to invite the ex to the wedding? They have met a few times(I think) and she has been polite.No reason not to as they are both really nice people. > Am curious to know how long he has been with the > wife to be. I am assuming it can't be that long if > he has only been divorced 3 years, although I > suppose I am working on the assumption she wasn't > his reason for the first divorce (possibly not > unreasonably since he is still friends with the > first wife). Second Lady? Around 2 years. Had nothing whatsoever to do with first marriage break-up. He never knew her.