Tibby I'm so sorry that this awful thing has happened to you and that now Huguenot has added to your distress . Please try and ignore him ,IME his main interest in posting is to appear clever . And IMO that is not always an appropriate response, it puts people off from posting on this forum ,which I think is a shame . If his posts cause distress ( and I can sense his clever reply which will include a dissertation on the meaning of the word distress and the fact that you said you were furious )he really doesn't care ,he'll just carry on . He'll write some nasty response to this ,completely missing the point and I shall ignore it . If you can ,I'd recommend that you ignore him as well .