You have a point Cassius, though I never read the original title as being provocative, only a call for celebratory comment from those who have kids. I generally think you can take the "..for me.." as read in any such title. Nevertheless, I feel it is a pity that a thread about why having kids is great, a thread that provided some beautiful comments, really thought-provoking opinion and heartfelt debate has rather descended into some without-children people feeling that they have to fight their corner. Shame though it is, i think it somewhat inevitable. Here?s why. Having children is not the opposite of not having children. People without chidren can be split into several catagories: those that cannot biologically have kids, those that choose a vocation that precludes them having kids (such as the priesthood) and those that have actively chosen to remain child-free. The debate centres on the last catagory because they have an incredibly unique relationship with children. Whereas they decide not to be parents, I would argue that no one with kids actually chooses to have them. As an individual, you can choose to remain childless but an individual cannot simply choose to have kids. Having kids is a complex, convoluted social, sexual and biological process beyond the power of one humble human. But at the same time it?s something practically everyone does. Becoming a parent is not a choice as such but an unfolding life phase rather like being a teenager or becoming old. Someone on this thread earlier said that choosing to remain child-free was a rather noble position. I agree, especially for those who do something nobly in service of humankind for which having their own children would be a hiderance.