womanofdulwich

surely it is only the presumption between the couple? i think you have to lay it on the line for men- explain what you are prepared to do and what they need to do. If they are not going to help- and as most women prefer to deal with the minutae- then women should buy in what they need in terms of extra care. we cannot physically do all of it ourselves. We are not superwomen.

if you reward illness by shopping and new shoes/ outfits you may find she is more ill than ever. At home, in bed and story tapes/cd's. Believe me as they get older they play you.

Yes sorry reneet the being tired is normal- but I don't think many will be trying to tackle as much as you are! If the above ideas dont work maybe you could cut your work hours back slightly? half an hour a day? (hahaha I hear you say, not in this climate- but if doing your job and being seen to do your job is very important you must get help!) why are you taking to nursery and picking up? I feel desperately strongly that you are doing too much- surely most couples - one takes to nursery and one collects? I feel like rushing round and giving you a big hug!!

you are working a long day, pregnant and then coming home and cooking a family meal? Not on. Either get him or you to cook/ freeze ahead by preparing food at weekend or get help at pick up time from nursery.Think about getting a local teenager to pick up 2/3 nights a week- it wont cost much and they will be able to commit themselves to this as it wont hurt their social life/ studies. As you get bigger it will get harder and you need to get help now. YOu sound like someone that should have had a nanny - you are trying too much. good luck.

MY friend has the barclays account you are speaking of- he pays his foreign bills- but has to go to sydenham barclays at weekends when he is back - and that is a bit of a pain............

Im with you, texting is great for quick messages, especially when you cant speak/ at work etc. But not chatting- - unless you are talking teen speak/blackberry meesenger etc.

I dont think there is much snow at the moment- so make sure it is a high altitude .

On a longer term note, I did not go through this stage- mine would not go to sleep easily and have never been good in the mornings- night mare when they have to get up early and go to school/nursery. My friend who had girls that woke early always went to bed easily and are generally much better in the mornings. SIster in law is AUstralia always had this. If it does not get much better you might have to start thinking about changing your lifestyle- go to bed earlier because we know No 2 will soon be with you!

I agree Kate-I was the same, but like snowboarder says you have to look at the books first.

I was in the bar humbug camp - but i had 12 rede roses delivered to work with chocolates today. I have been with the man for 25 years, and it is the first time he has ever done this. IT was absolutely fabulous- I was a bit embarrassed on the tube- but then I realised there were a lot of people looking at me and the flowers and I thought "bloody marvellous". Probably wont happen again,but it made me feel great- especially as he is working away.:))

ANywhere near Lake Garda is lovely-especially if you are higher up to the north-west where is is a bit cooler and there are lots of smaller lakes and campsites

richmond park is great as 5 year old can trike / bike there too,

Kate W your previous posts have displayed all the normal worries and concerns of a new mother - do you have to be quite so assertive? Being pregnant is a new place for a lot of people and whilst some are ultra confident some are not.

Some people are not as confident as others and if you have no family nearby and have never held a baby before, books can be really helpful- as long as you realise there is no ONE way- jsut what suits you-sometimes when you are jsut plain knackered you cant always assess a situation correctly and books are a big help to lots of people.

i dont know, but its usually form them seeing some of your personal details- if you leave a bank statement hanging around and someone sees it- you might have to start burning/ shredding personal bits of paper- or like me not leave in a drawer at work where a cleaner saw it and got me to pay their council rent ( a bit daft of them really). ( Hope the shoes fit)

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Would it be possible for there to military escorted convoys across the area where the pirates operate? Or are the speed of the various vessels too diverse to manage this? Just wondering as it worked in WW2.

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Would it be possible for there to military escorted convoys across the area where the pirates operate? Or are the speed of the various vessels too diverse to manage this? Just wondering as it worked in WW2.

If it is still around Toddler Taming by a Dr ( Philip Green coems to mind but not sure)is helpful. Also a book called soemthing like how to talk so that kids listen and listen so kids will talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish.

13( thats at least 7 too many!!)

Maybe you can swap some skills for food? I wonder if that is reflected in those stats?

?1 also buys a lot more if you dont live in London. It certainly goes much further in some parts of Glasgow.I know my father in law buys loaves of bread for 10p in the reduced section- I never see it that cheap here.

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IS it just me or is it fiddly to download podcasts on to an i pod? I seem to manage it but its a different way each week - and i have just tried to subscribe to womans hour but only got the last program -I find it really hard to rememeber what to do- the i tunes website makes it so difficult!!( why didnt i get an i pod years ago when everyone else did and then i would not look such a dunderhead). if anyone has any "simple" foolproof method please let me know before I hit the whisky. Thanks