djsw, You asked for any advise and you would appreciate it. Yes by all means find a different counsellor but they come at a high price. My advise if I was your partner is, I would want you to be romantic, funny, flowers, chocolates (low fat of course) make her feel she is appreciated, go that extra 5 miles, candles around a bubbles bath (together) or on the more practical side - do the washing up, cook a lovely meal (her favourite) put up some shelves, do odd jobs around the house, take her out to a lovely restaurant. Do something special together that you both like. The list is endless, you have to work hard if you don't want to loose her. You don't say what age range you are both in, but hey love has no age. You need "you and her time". Best of Luck. I'm routing for you. Lavender27