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Have you tried calling the helplines suggested earlier in this thread? Sounds like you could benefit from attending a support group. You'll have really hard days and others that are not as difficult, can I suggest trying to focus on doing something every day that occupies you for a few hours at a time and see how that goes?

If stations are to be "closed" where will fast response officers be based? Will they all be mobile in cars and vans or parked up in places waiting to respond to incidents taking place. IMO another short sighted idea of this new policing method.

In time (over probably six month's to a year) the grieving will ease and you'll gradually adjust to the loneliness. Had a quick look for bereavement groups locally and found these; http://www.stchristophers.org.uk/our-care/st-christophers-bereavement-services/ http://www.dmccrystalpalaceroad.co.uk/info.aspx?p=1

Does he pack them like sardines

Does he know the plaice on the lane that sells fish?

Will the door to door fishman be soled out tomorrow? and how does he keep rocking??

Hi, I have posted a couple of times on the thread and hoped these with others comments may have helped you. Are you looking for someone to talk through what happened with your loss or are you looking for ways to move forward? Can I suggest you talk to one of the help groups mentioned on the thread or make an appointment with your GP. They are professionals who help people who are grieving and can provide the support you probably need. Each person grieves differently and for some it takes longer than others. Crying is a natural way to release the grief you are experiencing. If you start talking with them and it's not helping just end the call, but also as I have previously said try to think about what you want to get from the conversation/session. In my case I used the internet to read about grieving, the different stages and how to cope, I also tried a councillor and after one session realised it was not for me.

let's carp it going!!

must have been trawling for business.

window cleaner, gardener, hairdresser, cleaner (house), oven cleaner - what other jobs are cash in hand??

I was hoping these posts and suggestions may have helped you to see others experiences so you can compare where you are in the bereavement process. Are you looking for someone to talk through / compare your experience of your bereavement/grief or are you looking for direct support? Have as was suggested above tried " "Cruse (specialise in bereavement, not sure of hours but believe it's free to call) - 0808 808 1677 Sane (emotional support for mental health, local rate or included in mobile minutes, daily 4.30-10.30pm) - 0300 304 7000 Samaritans (listening service, free, 24 hours) - 116 123" "Generally bereavement / grief have five stages: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance which form part of the framework that makes up our learning to live with the one we lost. They are tools to help us frame and identify what we may be feeling, but they are not stops on some linear timeline in grief". Councillors exist who help those grieving and as I mentioned in my post, if you go to see one have in your mind what you want to gain/achieve from the session and agree the things you want to achieve with the councillor at the start. Review it at the start of the next session to see how much progress you have made or feel the support has given you? The sessions can become expensive and if not careful one sided talking sessions, you do the talking and the councillor makes nice noises but no real concrete suggestions and little or nothing changes as a result, depends if you are looking for something fluffy or rather more robust support in terms of what you take away from the session with the councillor. I am just an ordinary bloke who has like hundreds of thousand of others in the last two years has also been through the grieving process. The person who you lost although not being here to see or speak with any more, is and will always be in your memory and you'll never ever ever forget them. Although nothing is the way it was or will ever be again and as much as it hurts and continues to hurt right now, as time passes it will help to ease that pain of loss which you have experienced. Whilst difficult, make the most of each day you have yourself, because you never know what the next corner of life holds for you. I say that from very personal experience, if we ever meet I will happily expand on that for you, but here is not the place. In time you will find other things that interest and occupy you, but because you cared you'll never ever, ever forget the person you have lost.

green flag?

JohnL Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Anyway on thread :) All I'm looking for is the > opportunity for the coal line project to be > protected. > > I's also like the Peckham Lido plan to actually > happen too. - Never going to happen, way to expensive, had it not been filled in probably a different matter.

Do tart's come with custard?? Give me a scotch or pork pie with lots of peppery spice followed by a custard tart or apple and blackberry pie with a thick and creamy custard.

Murray struggled but came back fighting to win, lets see how his hip holds old, no more wardrobe surfing for Kim then!!

"well cooked venison" needs to be on the rare side.

what is the reliability like from Peckham Rye to St.Panc International by train ay 6-7.00AM?

Robson already out in round 1.

I went thorough a bereavement just over two years ago and to begin with it hurt like hell, you feel lost and not sure what to do or where to turn, what to do or even how to carry on. There where days that I didn't want to be here any more. I saw no point and soon days went past that turned into weeks and months. Try to find something that interests you and try to focus on that, be it a job, hobby, interest or something else. You'll ask yourself why it happened and could you have done anything differently. Don't beat yourself up. I spent a year arguing with the hospital trying to get answers. Keep on fighting if that is what you need to do. You count the days, the months, the years, Nothing is ever the same. In fact you have a huge void that you just can't seem to fill, you probably actually don't want to fill the void. Some days you'll be sad and angry other days you'll laugh, but you'll always remember them and they'll always be in your thoughts and memories. You'll see some people who just seem to move on, that's them, this is your grief and you need to work your way through it at your own speed. If you need to cry, well cry their is no shame in it. Let your feelings out, don't bottle them up because eventually it will effect your own health. Remember the good times you had with them, the things they liked and did. Try to keep some of those things going to remember and honour them. People will ask how are you doing? They generally leave you to get on with things because they don't want to intrude. It seems to be the culture here. If you need help from someone, don't be afraid to ASK or go and speak with your GP. They can advise you. Being on your own is hard but in time you adjust to it, in fact you adjust to not seeing the person you lost and them not being around any more, easy to say I know, but in time you'll start adjusting over the coming weeks, months and years. Remembering them hurts, as is the anniversary of their birthday and death. month one, two, etc. Time keeps ticking by and before you know it, it will be already be a year. Time helps, BUT it doesn't heal. You'll never, ever ever forget the person you lost, but in time you'll start to accept your loss and begin to move forward. It's not easy, never give up and keep on fighting your way through it, eventually you'll see a light at the end of the tunnel. I went to a so called bereavement counsellor and to be honest I walked out after an hour and felt what a waste of money, if you see one make sure you know what you want as a result of the or each session. They can become talking shops where you do everything and the counsellor just sits and listens, I suppose it all depends on what you want from them. I wanted something robust not something fluffy and unmeasurable. Hope this helps, its taken me over two years to be able to write anything about my experience of bereavement. And there are still days when it hurts, but not as much as before.

possibly someone feeding the foxes??

If and when she goes and the royals cease in their current roles (what will they do??, and who will wipe ones nose??), then who should be elected president?

Sadly it is a case of shop around to get a good deal.

surely its cruel.

With P. Harry's revelation this week that none of the royals wishes to be the future king or queen and they only perform their roles out of duty to the country, is it now time that the royals cease lording it up over us and we become a republic with an elected president? And just think how much that will save the treasury from having to waste money on them and their live style. For starters when they vacate the royal palaces, they can all be used to provide refuge for the homeless.

Expect free fireworks tonight on Peckham Rye with the fair.