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The screaming even during feeds also makes me wonder about reflux as others have - both mine had it. Dr.Prakrabhan at DMC is a good GP to see for infant reflux. It can take months to get referred for an apt at Kings for infant reflux tho. It is expensive but for about ?150 (if I remember correctly) you can see, within a matter of days, the same consultant privately at Kings that you have to wait months to see on the NHS, and therefore get medication quickly. You can then transfer to his NHS list for future appointments so you don't have to keep paying privately. He is called Dr. Babu Vadamalayan. It could well be reflux but it's also easy to assume something is wrong when they're colicky, so it could be nothing to do with reflux, frustrating I know.. Keep using infacol before all feeds as the effect is cumulative for wind by the way so you need to use it every time.

And he's bringing up wind ok after a feed? Does he draw his legs up into his chest as if in discomfort? When he cries at night does feeding soothe him?

You poor things, sleep deprivation is so difficult and heightens everything. But please please don't think for a moment that you have done anything to cause the crying - a LOT of babies are like this at this age. We used to say of both our kids in their first few weeks 'If they're awake, they're crying.' I remember my partner once turning to me a few weeks after having our first and saying 'maybe some babies are just really, really unhappy and she'll always be like this.' It definitely affected bonding because it's hard to get to know someone who is screaming at top volume! But, please don't worry, however you feel at the moment is not indicative of how you will feel in the future, so often people have perfectly easy babies who it takes them a while to bond with properly, I don't know many people who were hit by a feeling of unconditional love in fact, a lot of people describe more of a slow burn, whatever the temperament of the baby is, it's so normal. Have you noticed any pattern to the crying? Does it get worse after feeding or is it totally random? Are you managing to get a hearty burp out of him after a feed? Is it mostly in the evening, which is a classic screamy time for lots of babies (our first screamed like a power drill between the hours of about 5pm and 10pm for several weeks, every night, and then it stopped, as suddenly as it had started.) Are you swaddling? (tightly with a stretchy swaddle not just loosely wrapping) It can make a big difference to sleep. I know it isn't very helpful when people assure you it will pass, but it really, really, really will, tho possibly not for a few weeks. Is he getting very little sleep by day? He could be screaming with over tiredness if so. But wind is often the culprit which is why I ask about burping? xx

If so please pm, thanks! x

crikey it was 5p when I was little!

Strawbs Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Hey Hs. Yes on Neocate, omeprazole , domperidone > and gaviscon, it's like toddler Strawbs all over > again except baby Strawbs screams a hell of a lot > more! X grim. ugh, it will get better as you know, hang in there!! Baby HS is 1 in July and I think growing out of his reflux tho still on omeprazole. I know you have the allergies to deal with as well?you're doing brilliantly xx

Hi Convex, What happens if you pop him in his cot and leaves the room to be with your toddler and keep him away from the baby, would he fall asleep without you in there? Strawbs is he on omeprazole now?

Yes the Spin Doctor is Steve, he's great!

Hi convex, It's 15 hours, based on term time so 33 weeks a year. This means that it equates to 15 free hours only in certain settings like school nurseries. In full time nurseries it tends to mean a reduction in your monthly bill rather than it working out to 15 free hours a week, so for instance our toddler's 2 full days at nursery per week went from costing about ?450 a month to about ?250 a month after the grant kicked in.

That's interesting, yes I can see how it might

why did they recommend not getting a video monitor out of interest?

We're going away together for the first time without our kids (3 and coming up to 1) for a weekend wedding abroad soon and I was wondering, is it better just to get updates or to actually talk on the phone / FaceTime etc? I guess it depends on the child (thinking of my daughter here as hoping my son is too young to mind too much) but not sure whether it will make her miss us more or less if we check in with her while away, any advice?

The summer infant range is very good, we have the one called Slim and secure Angelcare apnea monitor is good

Shaunag makes a good point, only yesterday my 3 year old daughter was playing with a 3 year old boy with perfectly painted pink toenails and another boy pal of hers often has painted blue fingernails, both sexes can enjoy playing around with stuff like this..

as Sue says, there are a couple of really great GPs there (if you ever get an appointment with them!) That's what keeps us there

lack of choice / not being in the catchment for other, better surgeries.

wot Sillywoman said

srisky Wrote: - > > When I was about 8/9y old (primary school age > anyway) I remember pretending to be Sandy from > Grease and even blew out talc powder rolled up in > paper pretending it was a cigarette. I did this with talc too!!

Come on people, loosen your judgey pants, poor emc? She started her post by saying 'I don't love the idea?' but is trying to accommodate what her daughter wants for her birthday. I'm sure it would be more edifying if her daughter had asked to work at a soup kitchen for her birthday but she's 8, so she's asked to have her nails painted. Doesn't mean she isn't going to be the next female prime minister.

are you waking he up or is she waking up naturally? My 3 year old did this when she was 2 if I woke her rather then let her wake up on her own, but it was tricky cos I couldn't risk her kipping for too long! In the end I used to bring a small snack up to her room so there was something to divert her attention which often used to avoid the massive meltdown. But even then she wound't want her grobag off for about 30 mins after her nap so eventually I accepted that I wasn't going to be able to just get her up and get out with her in minutes like when she was younger but had to factor in a half an hour period of adjustment before thinking about leaving the house.

I would say that you would have to live fairly close to Magic Moments to make it work as the sessions are only 2.5 hours. Very reasonably priced tho and have lots of friends very happy with it

I have friends on Hindmans who are currently moving (within East D) for that reason, they found that they would not have got into any school with first round offers, looking at the stats for last couple of years, but then as others have said, the new Harris should expand catchments by adding another 60 places.

I believe that Little Fingers Montessori on Barry Rd have spaces and do half days.

sillywoman Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I think it was hard because the age gap was 3 1/2 > years. Too big for me: I'd just started to get a > bit of life back, had a lovely part time job and > was thinking of the future. To go back to nappies > and sleepless nights was tough - well I thought > so! You're certainly making it up for it now tho! Onwaaaaaards!

buggie Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > > think i saw the same lady in a cafe with her > youngest two who are the same ages as my 2, I felt > frazzled and was having great trouble getting my > toddler to eat her lunch along with the baby > grumbling, she, on the other hand, was in an oasis > of calm with her 2. > When I complimented her on how calm they all > seemed, she mentioned they were No's 6&7 - I was > gobsmacked! Yes that would have been the same mum I think! I met her when I was frazzled with a rampaging toddler and crying baby and she was with no.6 and heavily pregnant with number 7 and having a very serene coffee with her impeccably behaved toddler and looked very unfrazzled! I was in total awe of her!