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Thanks so much all for your replies, I'm going to call that organisation today Sillywoman. I fear my friend may be psychologically some way off documenting the abuse, getting together a case, talking to anyone, and is more at the 'just wanting it to stop' so they can all remain as a family stage. I don't know whether it is at all realistic to think this is a possibility? I have also wondered if it could be some sort of pnd, as it started after the birth of their child, but then I guess you often hear of people starting to be violent only after a certain time in a relationship, perhaps when they feel secure when they have married someone, had children etc, so it could also be that I suppose. But I have wondered if it could be some sort of chemical imbalance post childbirth etc

I'm planning on ringing the National Domestic Violence Helpline as well but wondered whether any family roomers have advice.. I have a male friend who has always had a turbulent relationship with his partner, lots of intense rowing and dramatic bust ups over the years, but not actual violence at that point. They now have a 2 year old child and since having the child, his partner has become physically abusive too. Very small stuff can make her fly off the handle, such as him arriving home from work 1/2 an hour later than she expects because he has been called into a last minute meeting. She flies at him in a rage and hits him, gouges his arms, neck etc, so that he regularly has bruises and deep scratches and has a lot of scars on his arms. I found out recently the extent to which this was happening and also that she does it in front of the child, in fact, this week, she attacked him while he was actually holding the child, so when his head flipped forward in recoil, he actually bumped heads with the child quite hard so the child was bawling from that, quite apart from what he was observing. If it wasn't for the child I think he would leave her, but he can't bear the idea of not living with the child, and also knows that she would be incredibly angry and vindictive if he were to leave and would try and prevent him from seeing the child. She is never particularly apologetic after one of these incidents, using the classic 'I've never been like this with anyone before so it must be you making me do it' routine. I think me and my partner are the only people who know about it and I'm just not sure what the right thing to do is?any advice very gratefully received xx

In several papers today http://www.telegraph.co.uk/education/educationnews/10711927/Mother-wins-victory-for-boy-too-young-for-school.html

This has come up before on here, I think with JennyH, if I remember correctly you need to send off for a replacement bit from bugaboo which fixes it, but I expect JennyH will be along in a minute to clarify..

Buds in the Goose Green centre (in the church on Goose Green) is really lovely.

Cargiant do some stuff like tell you they still have a certain car on their forecourt that you enquire about and then when you get there it's not true, they just wanted to get you to the premises. Also, when we went to look at one car through them, it turned out to be the same model and colour as the one we'd been looking at photos of, but not the same actual car, instead it was in worse condition. They said they 'sometimes used photos of a different car'?er? prob best to avoid..

We found it easiest to find the second hand car we were looking for on auto trader, then we got RAC or AA, I forget which one we're with but they both offer this service to members and non-members, to come and do a check which was about 140 quid I think. And when they said it was all fine we went ahead and bought it. http://www.rac.co.uk/buying-a-car/vehicle-inspections/vehicle-inspections-for-private-buyers/

This man is utterly awesome!

WTF? No ruby slippers with a Dorothy costume?? Otta Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Really annoyed. Rushed to Argos to buy this > > http://www.argos.co.uk/static/Product/partNumber/1 > 431764.htm#pdpFullProductInformation > > And after spending ?25 it comes out and it's just > the crappy polyester dress, no ruby slippers and > no basket (they are sold separately, but not by > argos!). > > Feeling robbed, and hating world feckin book > day!!!

I agree smart trikes are a total waste of money, they can't pedal them at that age and by the time they can they really want a micro scooter as jollymummy says. They are hard to steer for the parent, even the '5 in 1' Mothercare ones with better steering. We bought one, used it just a couple of times, sold it. There was a thread on this a while ago with lots of people saying they had found the same.

looks like plenty of people are thinking about it, and there are some good tips on things to think about in these threads, even the ones that aren't London based xx http://www.gingerbread.org.uk/Forum/messages.aspx?TopicID=3551 http://www.movethat.co.uk/London/Forum/Single_Parents/ http://www.netmums.com/coffeehouse/advice-support-40/single-parents-support-45/954313-single-parent-house-share-all.html

I have a friend who did this (she and her son rented a house with another single mum and her son) and it worked very well. They met up to get to know each other and talk about it a couple of times before introducing their sons to get their opinion too, and all four were into the idea of giving it a go so they did!

Hi Jenny, There was a thread on cat allergies recently and someone - Pickle I think - suggested a product called Petalcleanse which I think you apply to your cat's coat once a week. I have just ordered some to try with our cat. It gets good reviews http://www.amazon.co.uk/PetalCleanse-Cat-small-animal-treatment/dp/B00379F0AQ

It may well be that they don't let you switch to omeprazole until you've done the requisite amount of days trial with ranatadine - (2 weeks? from memory?) We pressed to be changed but had to wait until we'd done the suggested amount of days with ranatadine (frustrating at the time but I guess it makes sense.) Omeprazole has worked wonders for us but, I remember thinking on about day 7, it's just getting worse, it's not working, and then bang on day 8, it kicked in and everything changed, so sometimes I think they really do take a while to work even if they look like they're not going to. Fingers crossed for you x

Laura Mercier tinted moisturiser is great, gives you an instant lift, kind of dewy looking, and is light. Also has SPF. I started using Benefit mascara recently, it's expensive it has to be said, but lasts for ages cos the brush is economical. I have never worn blusher until a few months ago as I thought of it as something my mum would have worn in the 90s, but I had my make up done in space NK and ended up buying a Laura Mercier blusher which is peachy in tone rather than rosy, and it looks up to date and (I like to think, hahahahahah!) quite youthful! I feared I would look like Aunt Sally from Worzel Gummidge when they first suggested it, but it's actually great for giving you a bit of a glow. Hoola bronzer by Benefit is good because it lasts forever and is brown in shade rather than orangey which a lot of bronzers seem to be. Plus it's matte. The glittery ones remind me of my first misguided forays into sparkly powder from the Body Shop hastily applied on the school coach! I was given something very nice for Christmas which is a scent from the Demeter Range which my partner got from Rouiller White on Lordship Lane. You can get one that smells of virtually anything! http://www.demeterfragrance.com/58083/All-Classic-Scents.html

Such a terribly sad thing, your poor friend. I started a thread on this to ask for advice when it happened to a friend of mine. http://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/forum/read.php?29,843046,843588#msg-843588

The Beach school sounds wonderful, I would go for it!

thanks for info, do others reckon Norfolkvillas is right in thinking catchment may expand for Sept '15 a bit due to it having been a couple of years since bulge (is that right it's been a couple of years?) I assume goodrich isn't bulging this year??? gawd. simonethebeaver, how does a kid start as first in waiting list and then go down to tenth?? forgive all the questions! Belle, what's the furthest road you know of where a kid got in? thanks!

thanks all xx

Sorry to be SO dull? ..But we're considering moving and have found the info that the last place offered at Goodrich last year was 460m, does anyone know if this was in the first round of offers, or was this the furthest distance that a child eventually got in from on the waiting list even after the shake down etc? thanks for any help! I can feel my blood pressure rising even having to think about this..gah.

Yep

???? Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Not all of us with kids are as worried about > schools been run as businesses, shock horror, with > results and reward etc how dare they eh? Just > feels like a wave of leftish establishment > propoganda against anything that threatens the > status quo they had until new labour sensibly > began to reform our then failing state education > sector. yeah I guess it works out ok for the bright kids who don't get expelled for bringing the overall results down. Tough shit if you're not academic I guess. You can leave school and work in a shop.

whereabouts in ED will you be?

Jenny is there a reason you're trying colief before infacol? (we were told lactose intolerance is not that likely but infacol is good for general digestive / wind mares) SMA went down better with R than aptamil. We didn't try the aptamil comfort as he was constipated already and that is more constipating. What are G's symptoms? xx

I agree with you Sillywoman! it is a brilliant location! But?.you are unlikely to get into DVI or Hamlet from here based on recent years, or certainly, if you did, it would be last offer on the waiting list and by no means a certainty. You were one step ahead when you moved here years ago!