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Yes it does get easier! As everyone says, when the little one is even a few months old, they will start to 'play together' and actually it gives you a chance to get a few things done or just sit and watch for a bit, I know that probably seems unimaginable right now, but it will happen. If you haven't slept and you're exhausted and struggling there is NOTHING wrong with putting CBeebies on and getting a chance to sit down for a bit!!

Loz Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > edcam Wrote: > -------------------------------------------------- > ----- > > It's a shame these revelations weren't out there > before his memorial service. I feel for the poor > > people who were fooled by him and attended. > > You mean all those people whom he helped and > comforted over the years? I'd like to hope they > were grown up enough to separate the good stuff he > did for them over the years from his personal > issues. I don't think watching videos of children being sexually and violently abused can be classified as 'personal issues'. And it negates the good stuff for most people I'm afraid, and not because those people aren't 'grown up.'

Thanks all, I ordered the Koko Bear one and it's arrived but seems a bit too grown up at the moment I think. Also, it does use the word divorce a lot as part of the story and my partner and I weren't married so that confuses it a bit, but may tweak my own version. Will look into Divorce Poison and Dinosaurs Divorce too, thanks guys x

Hi all, I'm looking for a book that will give me advice on how to make it easier for children when a parent leaves suddenly, when they are too young to go in for lengthy conversations / explanations. People have sweetly been giving me advice but it tends to be appropriate for older children with better comprehension. My eldest is 3 almost 4 and my youngest 1. They 'know' their father 'is not living with us now' but of course my eldest only retains it for so long and then starts to ask when he's coming home again a few hours later. I can't seem to find any books on how to handle it with such young children, so would love to hear if anyone knows of one. Though a couple of people have suggested it, I am keen to avoid taking my children to a child therapist if at all possible, as my own father left when I was 2 and I still recoil at the memory of those therapy sessions that my well meaning mum took us to! Made us feel more 'different' than we already did!

Ugh, had this with my first when I stopped bfing. I took nurofen, stood under a hot shower as others have said and expressed a tiny amount, just enough to take the edge off the pain without encouraging production. I had big lumps too and I took a hot flannel while standing in the shower and kneaded and massaged the lumps loads which really hurt but did get rid of the blockages..

Thanks Mariamadeit, that's a useful bit of advice. I must admit I'm still in a quandary tho cos a couple of other people have replied saying the opposite - not to put schools in order of genuine preference but in order of likelihood by distance, confusing! Xx

Sorry tedious thread alert!! Can I just ask those who have already been through this process, is it more sensible to put down your schools in order of preference according to your ACTUAL preference, even if they seem unlikely, or should you be more tactical than that? ie, we live on Upland Rd and would be pretty unlucky not to get Goodrich at the distance we're at, (but who knows in East D!) so if Heber would be our 2nd choice, does it make sense to put it down 2nd even though I know we would never get offered it as too far away and it's not even going down as our first choice? Ditto Goose Green and Bessemer? Given that loads of people who have these schools as there nearest school / 1st choice are not even going to get a place, is it a waste to put them down as your 2nd and 3rd choices, rather than the one you reckon realistically you have a more likely shot at for 2nd choice, which I guess would be Harris primary for us location wise, even if you prefer other schools further away? Any advice? Thanks!

sorry if repeating cos haven't had time to read whole thread..my daughter also asked for a nappy to be put on once a day for several months after she had stopped wearing nappies by day and was using the loo for wees, and also just couldn't do a poo on the potty / loo however long she sat there for. Then someone suggested lining the potty with a nappy so there was a more familiar sensation and she immediately did a poo in it. After that she felt confident and within a day or two was using potty / loo without any mention of nappies. Worth a try for your son?

Hi Monkey, How is he today? Hope he got to see your usual GP, sending hugs xx

I completely agree with you Otta, to be honest even if they were plain balloons it sounds like the sort of yawn fest we churned out in Theatre Studies A-level but to use hello kitty balloons presumably to deliberately attract children makes it just plain odd. I reckon write to them and link to this thread, the artist was obviously keen for people to actively engage in their work right?!

WTF! Was she dressed in a costume or normal clothes? Did she make eye contact? Maybe some sort of hidden camera rubbish?how amusing, to upset a child..

ps I'm not actually intending to have a go at you Otta, I generally agree with 99% of what you say and think you're really sound! But making a more general point about some of the reporting / discussing of suicide being pretty off key sometimes, no offence meant. xx

Otta Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > > Would you condemn a thread about a teenager being > stabbed and killed in the street? There have been > threads on exactly that subject, and I don't > remember anyone saying that it was irresponsible > because they family might see. My point wasn't anything to do with a family that we don't even know exists, it's that I find it in poor taste to start a thread about someone's suicide as if it was a point of local interest. The section is called 'General ED Issues/Gossip' - out of interest which one of these would you classify someone presumably suffering from mental illness or depression taking their own life as? General ED issues? or Gossip? It wasn't even in ED.. It is not even comparable to discussing someone being stabbed on the street and dying in ED, which is relevant to the larger community as a serious violent crime is something we reasonably might want to know about for issues of safety etc. A close relative of mine committed suicide, albeit in her own home, out of interest if she'd lived in ED would this also have been worthy of the local issues / Gossip section of the EDF or would the fact it had been in her own bedroom rather than local woods have meant it was treated with a bit more seemliness? Plus the 'think of the poor person who found them' line is always one that has irked me. Yes, not good for the person who found them, but a f*** of a sight better than being him or potentially his family, to be honest.

also if you really can't suppress your urge to announce someone's suicide on here, why find it necessary to put the mode of death in the title? double tasteless.

No need at all for this to be discussed on here, no good reason at all to start a thread on it, it's not like starting a thread on local public transport or traffic problems which are linked to a road accident. tasteless

NCT classes with Tess Dailey on Trossachs Rd are fab, she's great, we loved them, book now if you want them tho cos get booked up fast xx

My daughter shares her bedroom with a condenser tumble dryer?only place it fits! I bought it on here for about ?40 and it's been going strong for years so you might be able to pick up a bargain on here or gumtree / ebay Otta?

Other things to try might be porridge or mushed avocado. Try to see if she'll go for one of the ella's pouches that has some veg in it like the broccoli pears and peas, which is still sweet but not as sweet as the banana or apple and strawberry ones for instance, so that she isn't getting used to very sweet foods. Will she eat pureed sweet potato or pureed carrot?

Hi Susan, There's a spreadsheet with the southwark distances on this thread. (first round distances) http://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/forum/read.php?29,1305288,1305288#msg-1305288

It's size 3 from 6 months + xx

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Oh strawbs that is brilliant news, Nicola is fab! Yes it will probably take a little time for you to stop being on red alert and relax a bit at night even with him sleeping well! But sounds like it's well on its way to being sorted, so pleased for you! Days will be so much easier with him sleeping well at night too xx

good luck Strawbs, keep us posted xx

Hi Strawbs, If you pay a sleep expert to stay at your house then they're there to crack the problem, not just give you a temporary break, or they can obv advise you over the phone and you do the training rather than them stay over. My friend used someone she thought was brilliant, she stayed a couple of nights, then got them to implement the stuff for another night or two (it was already way better after her 2 nights) then she did another night, let me know if you want details xx

Yes great response, thanks DPG!