hellosailor

I?ve been on this forum for many years and I can categorically say it?s always about you. And very, very tedious that is too. The Palmerston is a big part of our community and it?s a real blow. DulwichFox Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Sidll1 Wrote: > -------------------------------------------------- > ----- > > Ye# Dulwich Fox a good E D business is closing, > 20 > > odd people are probably out of a job and still > > it?s all about YOU > > I used the Palmy for many many years before the > Owner Reg decided to turn it into a Restaurant. > > The Long term much loved Tenant Landlord Keith (No > longer with us) and his two boys were evicted. > People lost their jobs too. A much loved busy > local Pub was lost to make way for an expensive > eatery for the wealthier residents of East Dulwich > and turists. > > > So NO its NOT just about me. > > > DulwichFox.

edcam Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Maybe try doing what the lollipop man asks? He'll > have been told to do that for a reason. The need to be passive aggressive is strong with this one.

I think the fact that a major supermarket has clarified their position on it is fairly relevant. But I would also say that the original discussion was not about people?s individual shopping bag habits but whether it was ok that busy rabbit took it upon themselves to tell a total stranger that as a co owner of the cooperative they needed to stop using their bag. I?ve seen lots of people putting shopping directly into their bag to take to the till. Personally I probably wouldn?t do it because I?d wonder if a security guard would question it. If I did do it I would not expect for another customer to take it upon themselves to tell me to stop. If the OP had genuinely thought that the man was shoplifting they surely would have just quietly gone up to speak to a member of staff. They didn?t think that. They knew what was going on and wanted to make a self important point. And then they?ve posted the entire thing on here with the caveat that they?re too busy to read or engage with replies. It?s just..so..,.bonkers...

Quite. The OP?s behaviour was beyond inappropriate. An adult going up to another grown adult and saying this is absolutely extraordinary. I don?t believe they thought there was a chance they were shop lifting from what they?ve written, they sound like a self important control freak with no concept of behavioural boundaries or what is or isn?t their business. Even thinking about it has really cheesed me off so I can only imagine how the man going about his shopping felt. Well done him for remaining calm and polite, I suspect if the OP behaved like this with a lot of people they would have had quite a different response.

Sue Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > hellosailor Wrote: > -------------------------------------------------- > ----- > > I?m confused, does the OP mean he/she co owns > the > > co-op? > > > No, she (it's a she because she has put her real > name on a post in a previous thread - click on her > name and you can see the previous posts) means she > has one of those yellow Co-Op cards which give you > money back because you are a "member" of the > Co-Op. > > It's a bit like the divi was, back in the day. > > Thousands and thousands of people own the Co-Op :) This is fairly mind boggling then. I?m rather impressed the shopper managed to keep their temper. Or is it a wind up?

I?m confused, does the OP mean he/she co owns the co-op?

Wrongly or rightly I assumed when the OP said ?perched? they meant precariously balanced not in a child seat. My point was very much about adults who balance kids on their bikes without seats which is not an uncommon sight, not about cyclists who use child bike seats. I meant my doc friend said he and his colleagues were appalled by that, not children in proper seats to be clear..

I?m confused, have you read the original post? I?m responding to the exact subject raised..

Can you really not see the difference between someone cycling with a helmet sitting on the seat and someone perching a kid on the handlebars with no helmet? You genuinely feel that putting a child in the back seat of a car with a seat belt on or walking down a pavement with them is the same in terms of the risk you?ve exposed them to? If my kids were hit by a car walking down the pavement I would feel horrified but not that I?d done anything that was a mistake but if my child was injured because I balanced them on my bike with no helmet on I?d feel absolutely stricken with guilt. So no, In answer to your question my friend has never mentioned despairing of the parents decision when a child has been injured by a car mounting the pavement or while strapped into the seat of a car because it?s sinply incomparable. Presumably you think proper safety seats for children to ride on a bike with an adult are for snowflakes and a waste of cash when the kid could just balance and grip onto part of the frame? I genuinely can?t get my head round this viewpoint.

When I see someone cycling on a busy road with their child perching on the cross bars or getting a backy my mind boggles. It?s especially bizarre when only the child or only the parent is wearing a helmet yet the other isn?t, what?s the thought process? However good a cyclist you are you can never trust that a bad driver or even a good driver who is distracted by something doesn?t hit you. I have a friend whose 4 year old son ended up seriously injured in hospital because they were cycling on a road with the boy perched in front of the dad on his bike and they were knocked off by a car. I can?t even begin to imagine what they said by way of explanation to the paramedics or to their child who presumably assumed he was safe because his parents were saying it was ok. No parent is perfect but it blows my mind when I see this. Another friend works in Kings A&E and says they genuinely despair when kids get brought in because an adult has risked this. Edited to add : this isn?t an anti cyclist thing, I?d think the same if people drove around with kids sitting on their car bonnet or boot. I?m 40, I can?t drive, I haven?t got a pro car / anti cyclist agenda. It just seems nuts.

When I walked past earlier the tank and terrapins were gone.

Admim I know this should prob be in the Wanted section but I need it asap so posting here where it will get seen by many more people in the hopes I can find one asap, hope that's ok. Looking for a duffel coat for a girl in size 5-6 ideally but could be 6-7. any colour in good conditon considered, thanks! x

when they're older this might work (expensive!) but not sure what you can do in the meantime unless you put the 5 year old in the front and the adult passenger goes in the back for a few months.....? https://multimac.co.uk/home

Would you be prepared to say where you live Sol? I?m curious about how far charter ED catchment is going to go with the shake down of places xx

Thanks bodsier, where did you find that info?

He came to ours as well, also on Upland, and was arsy when I said I couldn?t talk because my 4 year old was having a sobbing meltdown, which he could see for himself as it was happening in the hallway!

What's the furthest kids have got in from? Does anyone know? Thanks

My friend, a local shop owner enquired and was told 70k a year by the estate. Perhaps they?ve brought it down to 50k now, still ludicrous, especially when factoring in the low passing trade in the village

Lucy the goodrich catchment was unusually small this year due to an unheard of amount of sibling places. It's likely to be bigger this year so you stand a very good chance of getting in.

He knows that he's being discussed on the forum because many of the people who have taken him food / blankets / clothes / sleeping bags (sleeping bag was destroyed in the fire, someone earlier in the thread was asking about giving him a sleeping bag) have told him that they found out about his plight by reading the thread. He was also interviewed for a local newspaper which was how others found out about his situation. He doesn't feel offended or patronised, he says he feels very touched that people are doing what they can to help him.

That's precisely what some people have said.

alice Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Colluding with an ill person will keep them a > rough sleeper and increase their chance of dying > this winter. > A blanket won?t stop pneumonia. Let Streetlink do > their stuff. Alice, he was in a half way house for a while, he says he was placed with a heroin addict and a paranoid schizophrenic and couldn't cope with that environment where he felt less safe than on the streets. If people find it galling that others are trying to make sure he has blankets, food etc then perhaps best to avoid this thread because I really can't see why anyone would follow it if they felt that way. As others have said, helping Paddy does not preclude helping others, volunteering or giving to charity. It depresses me that people have come on the thread to patronise and talk down to those who do care enough to help. Rather than asking admin to close the thread maybe just don't read it? Might be a less drastic solution than locking a thread about something that lots of people do care about just because you don't feel the same.

Sweetgirl if you don't have a spare room but would feel comfortable asking him to live with you then I'm sure he would be very grateful for the sofa

Just as I ask. He was a legend. I think he?s still doing the blackheath coach run.

What an utterly bizarre sentiment, being concerned about one person doesn?t mean you?re not concerned about others. People aren?t ?fascinated? by him. They?re worried about him. Because he?s homeless. And unwell. And has one leg. And it?s freezing. And the sparse shelter he?s made for himself has burnt down just after he?s had an operation.