hellosailor

Thank you everyone. My research so far tells me that.. If I work I get ?64 a day before tax. I will now need to pay ?85 a day childcare, so if I work and my ex doesn't have to contribute anything to childcare, I will lose 20 quid a day by working, while he pays no childcare costs. This means me not working at all to look after our children or paying the entire childcare amount even tho it means I'm losing money simply in order to facilitate him earning 60k a year. The alternative to me working for a loss is to have benefits. *Note to self* - if I get up to the pearly gates and reincarnation exists, come back as a man.

tomskip Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > So, one half of a couple leaves the other, leaves > the two young children behind, and then never has > to worry again about the cost of their childcare? > How can anyone even think that is logical or > acceptable? Presumably HelloSailor has "work > needs" because she needs to provide for the > children apart from anything else. The alternative > is to give up work and become totally dependent on > benefits. Yes Tomskip, that looks about the size of it from my research.. If I work I get ?64 a day before tax. I will now need to pay ?85 a day childcare, so if I work and my ex doesn't have to contribute anything to childcare, I will lose 20 quid a day by working, while he pays no childcare costs. This means me not working at all to look after our children or paying the entire childcare amount even tho it means I'm losing money simply in order to facilitate him earning 60k a year. The alternative to me working for a loss is to have benefits. *Note to self* - if I get up to the pearly gates and reincarnation exists, come back as a man.

Thanks Mick Mac, but why would childcare be considered as my work needs as opposed to his work needs? i.e if I went to work and refused to pay for childcare then he would have to stop working altogether or miss work twice a week to look after our children? We both have parental responsibility so surely our work needs and childcare needs are the same if we both work? If we both want to go to work to earn money then can it really be that only one parent has to pay for childcare to facilitate that, even if that parent earns a fraction of what the other parent earns? I hope not, agh!

I have applied for an appointment with a family mediation firm but in the mean time wondered if anyone could tell me the answer to this? My partner left last year. We weren't married tho we had lived together for years. Our eldest child (aged 4) has just started reception and our youngest child (aged 2) has 2 days a week in a nanny share. if the child maintenance he is legally required to pay is around ?400 a month, yet he works full time and I work 2 days a week (so nanny share needed 2 days a week for youngest and after school pick ups by a childminder needed twice a week for my eldest) is it the case that he doesn't have to pay for any of the childcare? That it's supposed to be included in the general maintenance equation? I've been told different things by different people?any light you can shed forum?

Thanks all and good idea Saffron xx

DulwichFox Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > They sometimes close for 1/2 day for staff > training sessions.. > > They have 100's of registered patients.. I > cannot see it has closed without warning.. ?? > > DulwichFox Actually the last time I checked (approx 2 years ago) they had over 60,000 patients (no I haven't typed an extra nought) and they're still accepting new ones, which is why they're unable to provide any kind of service to the patients...

I have applied for an appointment with a family mediation firm but in the mean time wondered if anyone could tell me the answer to this? My partner left last year. We weren't married tho we had lived together for years. Our eldest child (aged 4) has just started reception and our youngest child (aged 2) has 2 days a week in a nanny share. if the child maintenance he is legally required to pay is around ?400 a month, yet he works full time and I work 2 days a week (so nanny share needed 2 days a week for youngest and after school pick ups by a childminder needed twice a week for my eldest) is it the case that he doesn't have to pay for any of the childcare? That it's supposed to be included in the general maintenance equation? I've been told different things by different people?any light you can shed forum?

I believe this came up in a thread here years ago but when I was about 5 or 6 my mum made me dress up for a party as a poacher, complete with my soft toy bunnies stripped of their clothes and strung upside down with garden twine from a pole. It wasn't even Halloween, just a regular kids birthday party. Everyone else went as a princess.

intexasatthe moment Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Well we all have our views don't we hellosailor ? > I think it's inflamatory and aggresive to use > words like "jeering " . > You think it's inflammatory and aggressive to use the word 'jeering'? I'm genuinely perplexed. Perhaps you know a different definition from me?

Clearly the words 'living through' suggest that the OP was looking for tips on how to make life logistically easier while living in a house that's undergoing building work?.not suggesting that it was actually a life or death matter which they might not live through, in a literal sense. Ludicrous backlash.

I think jeering at people and telling them to 'have some shame' on a thread asking for advice and helpful tips is pretty unpleasant. If you dish it out, you have to be prepared to take it..

As everyone above says, if you put a school 6th on your list and someone else puts it as 1st choice, you would still be offered the place before them if you were nearer. So no need to be tactical xx

anecdotally I'd heard that the liquid omperazole works better than the tablets, but as you say, GPs don't want to prescribe it as more expensive. BUT if Babu Vadamalyan prescribes it for you (you can ask) then your NHS GP will most likely continue to prescribe the liquid once he's written to your surgery. This is what happened with my two.

Hi there, Dr Babu Vadamalayan is the senior gastro paeds consultant at Kings, you get referred to his reflux clinic via your GP but the waiting list is sometimes months. Alternatively you can shell out to see him privately (at the Guthrie clinic at Kings) and you will get an appointment within a couple of days. Both mine saw him privately as the waiting list to see him on NHS was so long and they wouldn't feed, screamed non-stop and the idea of waiting for months was unbearable. I think it was about ?150 to see him. if you can pay to see him privately, he can then add yo to the NHS list so if the reflux is ongoing, you can then start seeing him on the NHS when you get to the top of that list. His secretary's number is 020 3129 8486. How long have you been using the omeprazole for? xx

Digbina Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Are you aware of sex discrimination laws? bl**dy Nora

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Curmudgeon Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > My children slept as long as they slept ...never > wake a sleeping child is my motto > > It never affected bedtime Classic Curmudgeon. ?..How does your good luck help the OP, who is describing the opposite?

Hi Convex, Recommended is about 2.5 hours but you could shorten if he's taking ages to go to sleep at night? Does he wake up by 3pm? I reckon after 3 makes it trickier at bedtime, so 12:30 - 3:00 or 1:00-3:00 generally good timings I've found xx

littlethistle Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Uhhh, really? Clapham has a lot more to offer than > East Dulwich. I'm intrigued?like what?

Does anyone have a lightsaber I can borrow tomorrow? Will give you wine! Please pm if you can lend! X

French Cafe on Forest Hill Road do a nice almond croissant and also a nice apricot pastry. It's no Barry's tho.

The croissants in Barry's on Barry Road are the best, still warm and they're 55p - win

a balloon? get a bag of nice coloured ones like silver (you can get in Celebrations card shop on LL) and divide them up?

That's such a lovely post - thanks for sharing with us, so glad you're feeling better xx

Hello all, can I just ask, if you're kindly dropping stuff off today, to please check the original thread or the Calaid website to ensure that your items are still on the list of what the charity is accepting as they WON'T accept donations of stuff that isn't on the list anymore such as women's clothes, kids clothes, pillows, etc. Thank you and see some of you this morning! Gracie