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I just thought I would point out a blog that has been started by local resident Ben Brooks-Dutton following the tragic loss of his wife last year:


http://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/forum/read.php?5,997393,997771#msg-997771


http://lifeasawidower.com/


I find this quite inspirational in many ways. He is working through a tough time by sharing his thoughts to try and help others. The support he is getting from the public is fantastic, and people are really opening up to his thoughtful words.


Great work Ben, you are such a strong and wonderful person. My thoughts go out to you and your son, but he is a lucky boy to have such a great father.

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I spoke with Ben at the nursery Christmas Party ? his boy and my little one were part of a small gang playing at the end of the hall


I knew about his situation when I was talking to him but didn?t feel it was the right place to bring it up ? besides I figured he has that same conversation dozens of times every day


But he impressed me enormously - he would have anyway without the incident, he just is that kind of cool guy.


Reading his blog subsequently, and the big article in last Saturday?s Guardian is both heartbreaking and heartwarming

Here's the article from the Guardian from a few days ago.


http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2013/jan/19/telling-toddler-mummys-dead


A sad, yet strangely ... I want to use the word 'uplifting', but that doesn't seem right ... read. I doubt anyone can finish the article without a small tear or two.

Sure, every post will make you weep but, despite that, reading the blog doesn't feel intrusive or like you are reading someone's private diary of grief. He somehow manages to be outward-looking and (striving for the right word here) generous with his spirit - and because of that I think he's helping everyone who reads it.


It's quite remarkable, actually.

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