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What's better... staying in on NYE on your own or going to a party where you don't know anyone?

Cityjules

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indiepanda

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Do you really know no one at this party? Or just very few people?


Despite the fact it's overhyped and can sometimes be a bit disappointing as a result, staying in alone wouldn't be my choice.


Though having said that with various friends being either away or not going out because of family committments I might end up doing that for the first time in about 15 years myself. Would I suppose make a nice change not to start the new year with a hangover....

Cityjules

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The party is being held by someone who is a very new friend, so I know little about her or her friends. She seems very nice, and it could be a lovely evening with the possibility of new friendships.


Staying home I could be completely selfindulgent and watch hours of my fave tv shows.


I guess I will just have to see how I feel on the night. I don't like this pressure to be out having a good time though!

indiepanda

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Well, I would have thought being selfindulgent and watching your favourite TV shows is something that could be done most weeks but meeting a group of new potential friends isn't that frequent a possibility.


The pressure to have a good time is more or less in the mind... I think most of us imagine other people are paying more attention to us than they really are. Truth is most people are too wrapped up in their own worries to notice anyone other than those they are really close to.


If you go then I'd suggest arriving early so you can get introduced to people as they arrive - it can feel a bit uncomfortable at first, but it's actually easier than arriving later when you can get the impression everyone already knows each other well, although in practice some of them were probably only introduced a couple of hours earlier.

charliecharlie

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I'd go to the party, especially if it is local... definitely a good idea to get there early as Indiepanda suggested, always nice to meet new people, might be lovely new friends for 2009 and if go, I bet you will wake up the next day saying... "glad I made the effort"
summerjt

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Hi everyone, new to this forum. Cityjules - I'd go to the party, deffo, and be openminded to possible new friendships. I find that once you make friends, you never know who they are friends with, etc. However, if you don't know your new friend that well, I can understand if you're worried about conversation, especially if you don't know anyone else, and it seems that everyone knows each other and has done for ages. Sometimes it's an idea to approach someone who is maybe a bit quiet, and introduce yourself to them.


I normally go to a NYE party at a friend's house where everyone has known each other for years. This party isn't going ahead this year, so I'm taking a chance and going to a soulnetwork party with a new friend. Am determined to have a good night - wish me luck!

Cityjules

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Hi Summerjt, thanks for your thoughts.

Everyone seems unanimous on the subject, so I think I will endeavour to be brave and join the party.

Welcome to the site btw, I'm also new to this. (New years resolution 1 to take more of active role in ED!)

summerjt

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Thanks for your welcome Cityjules. I intend to check in to the site a couple of times a week. I use the internet for work, study and boring stuff like bills, so wanted to do more fun stuff online. Hope you have a great time at the party. This sounds really sad, but I read a few books on networking (for work stuff mainly) and the advice was basically make the most of every opportunity to meet new people. Have a good one!
Tony.London Suburbs

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Test of character for 2009 Cityjules!:))


Be bold,go out and try to socialise with complete strangers without being certain of any degree of success or take the easy way out and shy away and stay in?::o


Time for you to mingle:)-D

indiepanda

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Welcome cityjules and summerjt :)


Why not make it your new years resolution to come along to the monthly EDF drinks? The next is on the 9th of January. Speaking as someone who moved to East Dulwich last summer, I've found everyone at the forum drinks I've made it along to was really friendly - great way to get to know people in the area.


(My resolution is to quit working so hard and make it along to more forum events in 2009!)

Keef

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This seems to have been the year when most of my mob have settled down a bit, or moved away, so have no idea what we're doing, and surprisingly to myself, I find myself not really caring anymore. Will no doubt still find myself very drunk somewhere though...
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One of the compensations of getting old is not having that awful am in the right club/bar/pub/party with the right people? bollox that seems compulsory on NYE until you get to your 30s...friends with a baby coming round few beers up early (no choice with the quidlets) and then in search of a pub for a lunctime beverage with just a minor hangover
summerjt

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Hello Cityjules, and thanks for your welcome indiepanda. Friend phoned to say that she can't come on NYE, so I'll be going with new(ish) friend who hasn't got back to me with when/where we're meeting on the night. Also got to try to shift spare ticket - may have to use "persuasion" to get my brother to come along. However, I agree with ???? that NYE doesn't seem to matter quite so much now as it did in my teens and early twenties. I'm sure that life will go on on 1 January 2009, regardless of what I do or don't do on NYE.


What is everyone else up to?

indiepanda

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Cityjules Wrote:

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> I am intrigued by this EDF! What and who are you

> all?!

> I may well come to the next get together, but want

> to know more first....


EDF as in East Dulwich Forum - the monthly drinks have been running for quite a while now, before I moved here anyway. Thread below gives details of next evening.


http://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/forum/read.php?20,199055

mockney piers

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Haven't been out in pubs or clubs since about 2001. After one too many disappointing evenings with far too much time spent queueing at the bar, have generally spent nights in with mates.

Just a quiet one this year, a couple of mates over and a few faces popping their heads in on their way to other parties.

Really rather looking forward to it, especially as there's a world class rum heading my way :)

Jah Lush

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I don't do New Year's Eve anymore. I certainly haven't done pubs on NYE for about 15 to 20 years. You have to pay to get in to most places these days and you find yourself surrounded by people who can't hold their drink.

Best though is going to a close friend's house with just a few of you and celebrating it together with plenty of good wine a little something to eat and a maybe a little of the heavenly 'erb.

I'm staying in on my own this year as I have done the last few years with a little bit of weed, a bottle of Jack Daniels' and Jools Holland's Hottenanny. Bliss.

But, whatever you choose to do have a good time and enjoy yourself and have a Happy New Year.

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