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Undoubtably, but I think you meant "can I". To which the answer would most certainly be, yes, you are capable of pickiness. So, what you really meant was "may I". Ms Picky (no relation)

Try thisfor online reporting, Fuschia.

Umm, ok. That's quite a response to a simple question. Thank you for clarifying. Although I don't necessarily agree with all you opinions, or the way you've expressed them, it's interesting to know that they're based on personal experience. As for the rest, well, I'm sorry you're so unhappy and disappointed by the area and its women, but that was an awful lot of rather unpleasant generalisation, (presumably about me, since they were in response to my post) based on knowing nothing more than my basic anatomy, parity and opinion on bunting. Edited to add paragraphs. So much neater

elderflower, may I ask one question?* Have you actually been to an EDWI meeting yourself? *as the owner of both tits and a vagina, and a childless woman who can think of several uses for bunting, I think it's ok for me to have an opinion, isn't it?

HeidiHi, cruelty to a child, such as you described, is wrong and should always be challenged. You were right to do so. But suggesting that someone would abuse a child, because they are Nigerian is racist and racism should also always be challenged. I have reported you post.

As much as I'd like to see the Belle-Carnell team in action, particularly David who I recall last year vowing to run every day for a year and beat everyone, I'll be giving this a miss this time. Have fun and make sure there are lots of pictures....

Just wanted to say that it's actually not a good idea to do pelvic floor exercises while you're peeing. I'm glad it worked for you, Adelle, but it can lead to incomplete voiding which in turn leads to urinary tract infections. Trying once or twice while you're peeing, just to make sure you're doing the right thing, is fine, but you shouldn't do them regularly while peeing. supergolden, they should work if you do them consistently, hold for long enough and do enough of them. The technique is to squeeze and hold for a few seconds (3-5 to start with) then release. Try not to tense anything else, like your tummy or bum, just focus on squeezing and holding the right bit. It can be easier to do them sitting down at first. Build them in to your day, do them while you clean your teeth or on the bus, and it should start to work. If not, as Adelle said, see your GP.

Thanks sazzle! I looked at this thread, because I've got a 2.5 year old niece and nephew and I'm always on the look out for really great present ideas. Instead I've learnt that I'm a PANK (does that make MrJ and PUNK) and found savvyauntie.com. Brilliant.

Now that was a quality flounce Huguenot. I agree with pretty much everything you've said and entirely understand your decision, but I also agree that you'll be a loss to the forum. For me, the decision to take a huge step back has been a very good one and I'm much happier as a lurker and occasional poster, but then I was never one of the voices that shaped the forum in the way that you are. Your posts and your outspoken and strident opinions have driven me to despair and fury in the past, but you're one of the posters I'm most curious to meet and I can't imagine the forum without you.

Ok, well, since at least one person thinks it'll be useful, I'll add a medical perspective. My intention here is simply to add clear and objective information, not to distress or criticise anyone and certainly not to fan the flames of an arguement. I'm going to be as clear as possible, if it slips over into overly simple or patronising, I'm sorry, that is not my intention either, but I've learnt at work that it's better not to assume that things are undrestood or go without saying. The key here is the word apparent, or apparently, which, whilst it might seem like a minor linguistic point, marks the differnce between two entirely different situations. The first is that which Fushia described, the foetus is found to have died in the womb before birth and delivered. This is medically termed inter-uterine death and normally referred to as stillbirth or a stillborn. In these cases no resuscitation is attempted. The second is the apparent stillborn, where the baby is delivered and on delivery found not to be breathing and without signs of life. In this case there are two possiblities: that it is an inter-uterine death that was not picked up or that at some point during the delivery the baby became compromised. Which of these it is may be obvious if, for example, the baby was being monitored during deliver and so was known to have a heartbeat shortly before, or may not. Resuscitation is attempted, because there is a possibility the baby could survive if it only recently became compromised. Resuscitation is part of my job. I lead a resuscitation attempt at least once a week, often more, admittedly usually with adult patients, but not always. Part of my role, as a resus team leader, is talking to families after failed and successful resuscitation attempts and so I know how varied, and often unrealistic, peoples' understanding and expectation of resuscitation can be. Because of that insight I have to say (and this is my opinion now not objective fact, but it's an opinion informed by over a decade as a doctor most of it in Emergency Medicine)that I think LTEC was right and that using the right terms is really important to avoid misunderstanding. As users of a public forum I think we do have a responsibility to ensure that the information we're putting out there is accurate and to consider how it might affect those who read it.

Mockney, Peter Bennison is the man you want. But please try and stay on topic.

Best. Thread. Ever. Seriously. Beats the pants off Colin the Catflap Fitter.

When you put it like that, Mark, I do see what you mean. I've only had good experiences, where people have been grateful and PM'd nice thank you messages (and also I've only given away small things like unwanted gifts and make up samples that I'd feel really guilty selling) but I do see how you'd feel if you thought you'd given something away to be used by somene who needed it, and perhaps couldn't afford it, only to see it sold again.

Jeremy, I see what you're getting at, it does feel vaguely wrong that people might be making money out of other peoples' good will. But on the other hand I'm inclined to agree with LM. I give stuff away for free because it would go in the bin otherwise, which is a waste. It's free either because I don't think it's good enough to sell or because it's worth so little it's not worth it. If someone else sees potential in whatever it is that I don't, and has the time and inclination to sell stuff, I don't think I mind.

The opinion here that really matters is daizie's, because she was there, and her very tactfully expressed opinion was this... So, if a third person who was present felt nothing untoward occured, I'm happy to admit that I misread the situation and for that I am sorry.

You people get up too early. I had a lie in and woke up to blazing sunshine!

Oh dear. Ladymuck, as I said in my PM I'm greatly relieved to have heard from you and more than happy to accept this was a misunderstanding. Loud music, nerves, and a bit of alcohol can make the same conversation feel very different from each side and I accept that no snub was intended and I'd like very much to forget all about it. I posted on here about what happened (or at least what I felt had happened)when I got in that night, not with agenda or intent, but because I was upset. As Huguenot put it (not without a mocking twinkle in his eye, thank you H) it was a hurumph and nothing more. I honestly didn't expect it to become this big a deal and a certainly wasn't setting out to ruin any reputations. As for mentioning it on the night, well, yes, I did tell the forumites that I'm close to about what had happened, I think that's only natural, but I certainly didn't spend my evening stirring up trouble or asking anyone to ignore you. This is really getting too silly now. I'm so glad you approached me to sort it out and grateful that you wanted to and more than happy to accept that I misread the situation. Can we please move on now?

Oh how could I have forgotten to mention giggirl, to whom I confessed my forum crush and then accidentally (honestly, it was an accident - I just turned my head the wrong way!) kissed almost full on the lips on leaving. Lovely to meet you, giggirl, you were every bit as fabulous in person.

I'm fairly certain. I walked over and introduced myself with a smile and a jokey remark about getting on better in person (much the same as I did when I first met you) and was met with stoney silence and a slow look up and down (what in my Gloucestershire teenage years we used to call a "dogging up") I know bars are noisy places and misunderstandings arise, and I'm all for the benefit of the doubt, but it felt pretty deliberate and pretty unkind. But I've no intention of naming and shaming, it's really not the end of the world, especially not after so many lovely posts from everyone else. Lovely to see everyone and to meet daizie who was very nice and chatty (but did say I was older than she thought I was from my posts - apparently I post like I'm 20 and don't know anything. I'm trying hard to see the compliment ;-))

Well, I had a completely new experience after two years of forum drinks... I tried to introduce myself to someone and was completely snubbed. That is not what the drinks, or the forum, used to be about. And to think, the person who did the snubbing is one of those who bleats a lot about inclusivity. Kind of ruined an otherwise excellent night. Shame.

Maybe not that masculine...

Well, DM, since you ask, I've just started wearing Amber from L'Occitane. I wasn't sure at first, but I like it. It's slightly masculine, in a good way...

What RosieH said. Especially "spurious tosh" not just because it's true, but because it just sounds lovely... go on try it a few times...

Oh, very good giggirl... Anyway, I stand corrected. Who knew? I will never thrown anything away again.

They haven't been in sunlight. They weren't in their original boxes, but they have been stashed in a box, because I don't use them. I took them outside and tested them all earlier and they smell ok I think - the thing is, I'm not a big perfume fan (which is why I have so much of it unused) but they smelt, well, perfume-y to me.