I don't think Cazzyr was attacked, merely asked, in a very low key way, a fairly reasonable question from someone not in her situation. Curiousity can't be condemned even if it was unintentionally tactless. Her response was very defensive which is sad if she feels her back is against the wall from previous experiences, but I don't think anyone was denigrating her life choice. If we can't share our thoughts and beliefs then we would be very insular, ignorant and (sweeping generalisation) 'ghettoised'.