Seeing as this debate has deecended to my level, I want to pose a rather delicate question to the good folk of ED. Is giving oral a submissive act? I like to imagine he's worshipping at my fountain when he's doing the honours and I wouldn't dream of submitting first as I am too dominant for that. If he's done a particularly good job, then it would be rude of me not to return the favour, but I always feel like it's a bit of a submissive act, so I have to be pretty pleased with him to do it with gusto. Is it just me, or do others feel that giving oral is submissive?