Well, as a dad, I'd do exactly what is best or YOU, your baby, and your toddler! You're the one who is home dealing with it all, and seeing the effect on the toddler. As a general rule, I have come to realse that it's best if I just follow Mrs Otta's lead on things. Obviously I'll offer my opinion, but when our opinions are very different, I'll usually bow to her, because at the end of the day, she's with the kids ore than I am, so knows about their moods in the day, when I (unfortunately) am not there.