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we have a cage over our letterbox, mainly to stop dog eating lovefilm arrivals, but good idea anyway.

Cassius, what bit is sydenham and which bit dulwich?

I'm with First Mate on this one, taking away dog bowl is a sure way to exacerbate that guard instinct and make one snappy fella.http://www.dogsey.com/forumdisplay.php?f=17 is a good source of all things knowledgable dog and the current consensus is that removing food is a bad bad idea that comes from the erronous outmoded idea of 'dominance'. Be very very careful of who you choose to help you train your dog!

yup, we women are programmed I'm afraid, to treat all males with caution in unexpected or isolated places or late at night.

crikey!

prostitutes by tescoes in ed road? really?

bah, lightweights, you should have been there for 6.6.6.66

today went from Peckham Rye to Shoreditch high street for bethnal green where I was doing a weekend workshop.Yesterday I did it by driving to Brockley. wonderful!

Bellenden road area bigged up in today's 20p Independent newspaper- buy now, get in, it says , as the new overground makes it a cheaper hoxton.

yup the more exercise he has the fatter he gets.

we have just successfully fought off cpz in se15 south of bellenden road. we don't want it or need it.

bread and sometimes whole cauldrons of spaggetti bolognese dumped on northern open end of peckham rye turn my dog into a deaf- to- my- calls soon- to- be billy bunter.

Ive often told people that areas are dog on lead ones and had no trouble- i too say its important not to give the anti dog lobby any fuel .mainly people have just been embarassed or confused... and yes please DON'T write to the council or it will become one of those runaway CPZ for dog type things.

the pond has always been dogs on lead area but is perhaps not clearly signed from the woodland walk (eastern)approach.

yes they do have to be on lead round pond, japanese garden, picnic area and new wildlife garden. Is the cygnet the one that looks like a white duck?

sex addiction.

I used Lordship Lane carpets when we first moved here and they did a good job but a bit expensive. Next job we went elsewhere and ended up with a squared pattern lino not squaring up and looking awful, but it was cheaper. Last job- which was our stairs- we went back to Lordship Lane carpets and very pleased with job. It wasnt the cheapest quote but then again we only had to have it done once so it probably was.

the map has a cutoff at West Brompton, where does the ELL go after there? I had no idea it would take us all the way west, I think that's brilliant.

I am registered TPS and still get loads of calls. Straight away I tell them I am about to charge them one pound a minute for wasting my time. Inspired by case a couple of weeks ago where a bloke was able to do exactly that! The court forced the cold call company to award him the costs he had invoiced for their time wasting cold call. It soon shuts them up.

Moggy it's swings and roundabouts, ok more crime than Edinburgh new town but less hills.

Can I add that after my brush with brief boyfriend I was so depressed and shaken to my core that I had 18 months of therapy to try and decipher why I had been preyed upon and so open to it. Much of the reason is we assume the best of people, we are decent people. I am a complete bullshit detector as a result now! and I met my nice husband very shortly after the therapy finished, as if I had suddenly made all the nice men appear- or maybe I was just seeing that they were there for the first time. I say that because its so hard when you have invested so much hope in someone and you can feel that that's all there is ever going to be. I so feel your pain Pinky. I wonder also if there is a reason it's only now after 8 years that you are considering moving in together. Has he kept you a bit at arms length? Sometimes a distance has to be kept for these relationships to function at all and mine was long distance as were all his relationships as otherwise he would have been unmasked.

As a student I shared a flat with a compulsive liar and was able to observe the escalating devastation he effected on the people he had relationships with. Like a lot of compulsive liars he turned the 'trust' thing on its head and used it as a way of blaming the people who questioned him so we felt we were all going mad. I only had to live with him a short while, but one of the consequences was that we all lost our deposit through his actions. It got worse and worse, the lengths to which he went to protect completely meaningless and pointless lies. His impulse was to lie for no apparent reason whatsover, at whatever risk, which meant truth and reality had little value to him. There was no real gain for him from lying except that it let him avoid the truth. Perhaps he felt power that we were all idiots believing him. No gain for him, but definite damage for everyone else. But once you merge your finances with someone like that, or want to have children with them, it's a different issue. it's not that they are determined to rip you off but that their first instinct is to lie about things, even when the truth won't hurt. My flatmate was a sociopath, charming, witty, articulate but he would rather construct a false world than make the effort of creating any kind of successful reality for himself. He ended up marrying the cousin of a friend of mine who stuck by him, and who managed to get him to confront the fact he lied...to some extent. But they lived on eggshells, the wife was continuously compromised socially and financially - and humiliated and embarassed -by untruths being uncovered and having to assume as the basis of her whole relationship with him, that she could not believe a word he said. I myself went out with a liar for just a month, again someone who lied about everything and anything as his default mode. He really got inside my head and made me question my own judgement even in that short time because when you are a truthful person you just don't expect it and it feels shameful to accuse someone. At last I extricated myself, but even in that short time the stress was horrendous and the knock to my self confidence huge. He went on to make big messes with the family he eventually started. I feel it was a lucky lucky escape. But you have been with this guy for a long time so perhaps you have already erected all the emotional infrastructures and compromises to protect him, because it would be too exhausting to challenge him on everything. In the end, with a liar, you have to ask, WHO is he underneath all this? or even WHERE is he under all this? and is this person able to be a grown up adult by my side in the future I envisage for myself? .

Also I hope it sends a clear message about personal responsibility and culpability to every moody bus driver who takes off impatiently before a woman and her toddler are properly on the bus (or actually separated and one left behind as happened to a friend in Lordship Lane with a driver immune to her entreaties), to every bus driver who slams on his brakes in a road ragey way while people are trying to get down the stairs, who chases down cyclists down bus lanes, as well as those who are responsible for our lives on trains and platforms.

He didn't need to realize she was drunk, he needed to realize the train was still in contact with a passenger- who could have been drunk, slow, disabled.....it wasn't about judging the state of someone but the position of someone in relation to the train.

The girl was not leaning against a moving train. The train was not moving until the guard blew the whistle for the driver to move it. It was his job to make sure the train was clear of people. If you see the pictures the platform was not busy. She got off the train and then, realizing the wrong stop, turned and leant against the window while the train was stationary. The guard then blew the whistle for it to move. It doesnt matter if she was drunk-the guard is there to stop the train moving until it is clear of people whether they are drunk, blind, deaf, not concentrating, pushed forward or crowded by others, disorientated, elderly, young- that's his job. Why did he do this? the jury found him guilty and the judge gave him a serious sentence so i assume they suspect he did see her and he was trying to 'give her a fright'.