I think James, that you have to accept that unless you are in a similar situation to yourself people just won't quite understand your angst. Likewise, self harmers, or heroin addicts etc etc etc! It may be a shabby thing to accept but that's life I'm afraid.:( I'm feeling sad for you that you can't make everyone understand but I think it's time to give up on it, here, for the time being before you drive yourself absolutely mental.