Sounds like you're not communicating - and the counsellors you have had are not in tune with you. Bear in mind, all counsellor's are different so I would suggest you seek recommendations for a different one. Life Coaching for relationships, maybe? Also, maybe go away together - do something really different.. learn to spend time together and develop trust again. Trust and intimacy are closely linked. I like this, from The Alchemist (Paulo Coelho) ?For her, everyday was the same, and when each day is the same as the next, it?s because people fail to recognize the good things that happen in their lives every day that the sun rises.?