womanofdulwich

i think he has a point.

we have done it twice with no stopovers- and I think that is bearable going, but coming back it is very hard- especially if you are coming back to a London winter - short days etc.

100% agree with Dulwich mum. But that is quite a lot of change for him-a third place? and he is 4? I am sure that is not your choice- but it sounds quite a strain.

i usually ask trailfinders first- i have then tried other places but found trialfinders competative and reliable.

drop scones with sultanas in

but people have to live somewhere. Either rent/ buy. If they rent then someone is getting an income stream on an asset at maybe 4-5% gross.( cf a cash isa at 2.5%- or less if not isa) There is the added risk of capital growth/ loss, but in the long term we all think property will increase. a key determinant is interest rates and the ease of a mortgage. If you cant afford to buy you will have to rent-and rents will go up if there is higher demand than supply.

how easy is it to buy, keep safely and then sell that much gold? ie entry, keeping and exit costs vis a vis a house? any idea? you make it sound so good!

i think she cannot be getting ?65 x 3 x 5 days =?975 a week - otherwise we would all be doing it .

i would guess like a nanny share a childminder mighthave one or 2 children before and after school and one under school age either all day or before and after nursery.

you can join crystal palace triathlon club lots of training and support and club sessions,

oh FI, how old is he??

maybe child benefit just for the first 2?

Steve- I would so like to quote you on that- where did you get those stats please?

my boss earns ?150k plus, his wife works part time and maybe earns ?5k, he has an 8 year old daughter and says he could not afford another child. ( because of school fees). Everyone has different values.Using his values we would die out pretty quickly.

Dont'beat your self up about vaginal/caesarian. Both have advantages and disadvantages. You have not done anything wrong in having a caesarian and you are an equal mother to any other. You have the privelidge of having a baby inside you and have already had one.One birth is not of more value than the other. You just cannot afford to look back you just have to go with what you have. I think a lot of how you are feeling is related to the shock of having a baby- no matter how planned- and it seems strssful and traumatic- but all births are like this first time- if you are in a safe place and have partner/ freind with you for whom this is not the first time this will be far better than last time, really. I think a private midwife is closer to ?2k, and you can buy a lot of help for this- like a maternity nurse which might be more helpful to you and your family. xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

maybe walk part of the way and get the no 4?

i had to leave half way through the meeting tonight- can someone update me on what happened in the second part.??? There was such a positive feeling in the hall when I left.

I think thats how they are d o t. What i don't understand is why men usually get away with this for the rest of their lives.??

Maybe I am weak but I always just dragged my toddlers off buses or left my shopping in sainsburys if they wanted a scene.I just could not bare the embaressment. but then did not take them on holiday or to restaurants either - all too stressful. ( they are lovely now, but I would not wish them on anyone when they were wanting attention- which they invariably were).

I think that on average there may be some truth with that- but may it is just one parent goes with one and one with the other. Quite a few families it is Father and daughter and mOther and son- or vica versa. I htink I heard the radio article and it was saying mums were much harder on their daughters than their sons and I think there is definitely some truth in that.

if you are thinking of further education you will be surpised how silly things now make a difference. For instance my eldest son wanted to do classical studies at some universtites and they asked for a minimum foreign language at grade B GCSE. I had insisted on this too - but the school - as ever -were just wanting that C which is what they are desperate to achieve and keep their statistics up. Fight them all the way and push them as IME all some schools want is to get their stats up each year on 5 GCSe's A to C.

I know I know that is what it so sad. The selfishness and ignorance.

I meant the 83 year old woman- people outside of London would have been more likely to stand for her.

that is such a sad story it makes me want to leave London. Why do so many people turn a blind eye to this sort of thing?

there is a possibility she comes with a friend and so does it in half the time? unlikely you may think but just worth considering.