My first child refused all but finger foods and was very fussy. If I were you, I'd try very very hard to show no emotion, offer a range of foods, ones you are making for yourself or easy things that are not hard work so you're not stressed. Try offering in a little handled cup, or a small sandwich box, or give her snacks in the buggy, fruit in the bath, sandwich in front of the tv, etc etc.. so she is a bit distracted and gets to try different techniques... mini fromage frais with a little plastic spoon, that sort of thing. Don't increase her milk above what she has now. Above all, I'd try to see hour role as offering the food, then get up and load the dishwasher (or just get on with eating your own) and show no interest in how much she swallows...