hellosailor

I have applied for an appointment with a family mediation firm but in the mean time wondered if anyone could tell me the answer to this? My partner left last year. We weren't married tho we had lived together for years. Our eldest child (aged 4) has just started reception and our youngest child (aged 2) has 2 days a week in a nanny share. if the child maintenance he is legally required to pay is around ?400 a month, yet he works full time and I work 2 days a week (so nanny share needed 2 days a week for youngest and after school pick ups by a childminder needed twice a week for my eldest) is it the case that he doesn't have to pay for any of the childcare? That it's supposed to be included in the general maintenance equation? I've been told different things by different people?any light you can shed forum?

I believe this came up in a thread here years ago but when I was about 5 or 6 my mum made me dress up for a party as a poacher, complete with my soft toy bunnies stripped of their clothes and strung upside down with garden twine from a pole. It wasn't even Halloween, just a regular kids birthday party. Everyone else went as a princess.

intexasatthe moment Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Well we all have our views don't we hellosailor ? > I think it's inflamatory and aggresive to use > words like "jeering " . > You think it's inflammatory and aggressive to use the word 'jeering'? I'm genuinely perplexed. Perhaps you know a different definition from me?

Clearly the words 'living through' suggest that the OP was looking for tips on how to make life logistically easier while living in a house that's undergoing building work?.not suggesting that it was actually a life or death matter which they might not live through, in a literal sense. Ludicrous backlash.

I think jeering at people and telling them to 'have some shame' on a thread asking for advice and helpful tips is pretty unpleasant. If you dish it out, you have to be prepared to take it..

As everyone above says, if you put a school 6th on your list and someone else puts it as 1st choice, you would still be offered the place before them if you were nearer. So no need to be tactical xx

anecdotally I'd heard that the liquid omperazole works better than the tablets, but as you say, GPs don't want to prescribe it as more expensive. BUT if Babu Vadamalyan prescribes it for you (you can ask) then your NHS GP will most likely continue to prescribe the liquid once he's written to your surgery. This is what happened with my two.

Hi there, Dr Babu Vadamalayan is the senior gastro paeds consultant at Kings, you get referred to his reflux clinic via your GP but the waiting list is sometimes months. Alternatively you can shell out to see him privately (at the Guthrie clinic at Kings) and you will get an appointment within a couple of days. Both mine saw him privately as the waiting list to see him on NHS was so long and they wouldn't feed, screamed non-stop and the idea of waiting for months was unbearable. I think it was about ?150 to see him. if you can pay to see him privately, he can then add yo to the NHS list so if the reflux is ongoing, you can then start seeing him on the NHS when you get to the top of that list. His secretary's number is 020 3129 8486. How long have you been using the omeprazole for? xx

Digbina Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Are you aware of sex discrimination laws? bl**dy Nora

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Curmudgeon Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > My children slept as long as they slept ...never > wake a sleeping child is my motto > > It never affected bedtime Classic Curmudgeon. ?..How does your good luck help the OP, who is describing the opposite?

Hi Convex, Recommended is about 2.5 hours but you could shorten if he's taking ages to go to sleep at night? Does he wake up by 3pm? I reckon after 3 makes it trickier at bedtime, so 12:30 - 3:00 or 1:00-3:00 generally good timings I've found xx

littlethistle Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Uhhh, really? Clapham has a lot more to offer than > East Dulwich. I'm intrigued?like what?

Does anyone have a lightsaber I can borrow tomorrow? Will give you wine! Please pm if you can lend! X

French Cafe on Forest Hill Road do a nice almond croissant and also a nice apricot pastry. It's no Barry's tho.

The croissants in Barry's on Barry Road are the best, still warm and they're 55p - win

a balloon? get a bag of nice coloured ones like silver (you can get in Celebrations card shop on LL) and divide them up?

That's such a lovely post - thanks for sharing with us, so glad you're feeling better xx

Hello all, can I just ask, if you're kindly dropping stuff off today, to please check the original thread or the Calaid website to ensure that your items are still on the list of what the charity is accepting as they WON'T accept donations of stuff that isn't on the list anymore such as women's clothes, kids clothes, pillows, etc. Thank you and see some of you this morning! Gracie

Yes that's great thanks!

I know quite a few people are dropping donations to mine (147 upland rd) tomorrow morning between 9:00 and 12:00 noon but if it's more convenient or you have really large amounts you can also drop them off at DULWICH HAMLET FOOTBALL CLUB - from 2pm tomorrow afternoon. (Saturday 5th) OR HERNE HILL MARKET - there will be a stall there for drops off on Sunday 6th. What Calaid badly need: SHOES: trainers or hiking shoes size 41-46 TENTS, COVERS, TARPAULIN JACKETS: size SMALL and MEDIUM only TRAVELLING BAGS SOCKS CANDLES or other lighting implements BELTS What calaid ALWAYS need: Tracksuit trousers Jeans size 28-32 Blankets Sleeping bags Soap Shampoo Toothbrushes Toothpaste Plastic bags Woolly hats Pants Pots Pans What they DO NOT need: WOMEN and CHILDREN?S CLOTHES or SHOES Sheets Pillows Suits Town Shoes Jumpers Wellingtons

Just as it says above really! I know quite a few people are dropping donations to mine (147 upland rd) tomorrow morning between 9:00 and 12:00 noon but if it's more convenient you can also drop them off at DULWICH HAMLET FOOTBALL CLUB - from 2pm tomorrow afternoon. (Saturday 5th) OR HERNE HILL MARKET - there will be a stall there for drops off on Sunday 6th. What Calaid badly need: SHOES: trainers or hiking shoes size 41-46 TENTS, COVERS, TARPAULIN JACKETS: size SMALL and MEDIUM only TRAVELLING BAGS SOCKS CANDLES or other lighting implements BELTS What calaid ALWAYS need: Tracksuit trousers Jeans size 28-32 Blankets Sleeping bags Soap Shampoo Toothbrushes Toothpaste Plastic bags Woolly hats Pants Pots Pans What they DO NOT need: WOMEN and CHILDREN?S CLOTHES or SHOES Sheets Pillows Suits Town Shoes Jumpers Wellingtons

Thank you everyone, there's some really useful and reassuring stuff here, really appreciate your replies! x

Thanks Jojoneedham that's very useful. It's tricky cos they alter the required items on an almost daily basis at the mo, I guess as more stuff arrives at the donation centre. If you're kindly bringing donations to my house on Saturday morning, then please check the REVISED list of what they're accepting and what they don't need which the Calaid charity have just updated today. It's in the attachment that Jojoneedham has put in her post just above this. If you've already come round to mine and donated stuff which they're now not currently accepting, i.e. nappies and wipes etc, are you happy for me to donate them to a women's refuge or what would you like me to do with those items if they don't accept them? Luckily most of the stuff you've already dropped off is still the stuff they're accepting.

My son has recently turned 2 and has been pulling out clumps of his hair for about a month but it's got worse over the last few days, he's pulled a lot out over the last few days and is creating a large thinning / bald spot. I have googled hair pulling and trichotillomania in toddlers and the general consensus seems to be to see what happens over another couple of weeks and then consult someone if it continues or gets worse. I gather it's about stress / anxiety and trying to self soothe (often toddlers who have this suck their thumb as well which my son has always done too) but the thing I'm particularly worried about is that I've got a good idea what's causing it and am not sure how to tackle it. My partner left out of the blue a year ago when my daughter was 3 and my son was 10 months. To begin with it was her that was outwardly hugely distressed but because he was so little my son obviously didn't 'seem to react' at the time. She has got increasingly used to the situation (he still sees them several times a week) but my son has found it increasingly upsetting as he's become a toddler. At the same time the hair pulling started, my ex moved flats (he lived with his mum for a year and the children were used to having sleepovers there) and my daughter was very freaked out about going to the new flat for about a week and is now ok about it. My son didn't seem to react much but it was at this time the hair pulling started. He is always very distressed when his dad drops them back (upset his dad is going) and this weekend when he dropped them back the first thing he did when they got out of the car was start ripping handfuls of hair out, it was so upsetting to watch. Has anyone been through hair pulling and could maybe offer some advice on how to deal with it, how long it lasted? I read that you shouldn't point it out or try to stop it but it's very difficult not to try to stop him in a gentle way?thoughts?? xx